Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America

Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America

by Nefertiti Austin


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The story every mother in America needs to read. As featured on NPR and the TODAY Show. All moms have to deal with choosing baby names, potty training, finding your village, and answering your kid's tough questions, but if you are raising a Black child, you have to deal with a lot more than that. Especially if you're a single Black mom... and adopting.

Nefertiti Austin shares her story of starting a family through adoption as a single Black woman. In this unflinching account of her parenting journey, Nefertiti examines the history of adoption in the African American community, faces off against stereotypes of single Black moms, and confronts the reality of what it looks like to raise children of color and answer their questions about racism in modern-day America.

Honest, vulnerable, and uplifting, Motherhood So White is a fantastic book for mothers who have read White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo, Stamped from the Beginning by Ibram X. Kendi, Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? by Beverly Daniel Tatum, or other books about racism and want to see how these social issues play out in a very personal way for a single mom and her Black son.

This great book club read explores social and cultural bias, gives a new perspective on a familiar experience, and sparks meaningful conversations about what it looks like for Black families in white America today.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781492679011
Publisher: Sourcebooks
Publication date: 09/16/2019
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 146,908
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.80(h) x 1.10(d)

Table of Contents

Prologue 1

My Adoption So Black 11

Mommie Dearest, Daddy's Dead 37

Decision Made 51

Mommy Lessons 59

Other People's Fears 81

Graduating into Motherhood 89

His Name Is What? 103

Motherhood So White 111

In Limbo 121

Looking for Diverse Parenting literature in All the Right Places (and Finding Almost None) 129

Turning One and Other Milestones 133

The Obama Season 139

Rituals and Rites of Passage 151

Everybody Has an Opinion 157

Got My Sea Legs 167

Building My Village 173

Heroes 199

August Gets His Wish 203

Boy Child in the Promised Land 223

Bad Mama Jamas 229

Epilogue 237

Stories of Parenting So Black 241

Selected Resources 271

Reading Group Guide 277

A Conversation with the Author 281

Acknowledgments 285

About the Author 289

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