More American women are childless than ever beforenearly half those of childbearing age don’t have children. While our society often assumes these women are “childfree by choice,” that’s not always true. In reality, many of them expected to marry and have children, but it simply hasn’t happened. Wrongly judged as picky or career-obsessed, they make up the “Otherhood,” a growing demographic that has gone without definition or visibility until now.
In Otherhood, author Melanie Notkin reveals her own story as well as the honest, poignant, humorous, and occasionally heartbreaking stories of women in her generationwomen who expected love, marriage, and parenthood, but instead found themselves facing a different reality. She addresses the reasons for this shift, the social and emotional impact it has on our collective culture, and how the “new normal” will affect our society in the decades to come.
Notkin aims to reassure women that they are not alone and encourages them to find happiness and fulfillment no matter what the future holds. A groundbreaking exploration of an essential contemporary issue, Otherhood inspires thought-provoking conversation and gets at the heart of our cultural assumptions about single women and childlessness.
|Publisher:||Da Capo Press|
|Product dimensions:||5.60(w) x 8.70(h) x 0.90(d)|
About the Author
Melanie Notkin is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, spokesperson, marketer, and the leading voice of the nearly 50 percent of American women who are childless. Notkin is the founder and creator of the popular Savvy Auntie® lifestyle branda celebration of modern, cosmopolitan aunthood. Notkin’s book on the subject, Savvy Auntie: The Ultimate Guide for Cool Aunts, Great-Aunts, Godmothers, and All Women Who Love Kids, was a Wall Street Journal bestseller.
Notkin’s writing has appeared in The New York Times and she is a contributor to the Huffington Post and PsychologyToday.com. She lives in New York City.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Modern Women
Chapter 2: Love is Rich
Chapter 3: How to Get Married
Chapter 4: The Dating Bermuda Triangle
Chapter 5: Where Are the Suitable Men?
Chapter 6: From Boys to Men
Chapter 7: Old-Fashioned Dating
Chapter 8: Married Men of Manhattan
Chapter 9: Single, Again
Chapter 10: The Princes and the Poseurs
Chapter 11: Rachel Meets Harrison Black
Chapter 12: Sex in the Otherhood
Chapter 13: Was It Choice or Chance?
Chapter 14: What Choice Do We Have?
Chapter 15: A Date with Destiny
Chapter 16: My Last Chance
Chapter 17: The Vows We Make
Chapter 18: Women and Careers
Chapter 19: The Savvy Aunties
Chapter 20: Izzy Was Robbed
Chapter 21: My Lonely Grief
Chapter 22: Our Nest Eggs
Chapter 23: Mirabelle Is Having a Moment
Chapter 24: Basket Full of Mixed Emotions
Chapter 25: The Next Girls
Chapter 26: We Have a Lot to Celebrate
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
When I found this book, it was revolutionary. As a proud aunt and a single woman in NYC, this book reassured me that I wasn't the only one who felt "off-schedule," or "behind" everyone else. Motherhood and womanhood are so tangled up within each other that those of us who aren't mothers, or who aren't mothers *yet*, find ourselves adrift. No more. We have the Otherhood.
I read "Otherhood" in one sitting after learning about Melanie Notkin from a dear friend as well as reading her posts on Huffington Post. I then was honored to hear her speak. This book is well-written and researched, hilarious, poignant, and courageous. It speaks about a subject not talked about but almost 1/2 of American women can relate to. The way Betty Friedan's Feminine Mystique touched my mom's generation is how Otherhood speaks to my generation and as she shows the next generation as well! Thank you, Melanie Notkin! I highly recommend this book - whether for yourself, your sister, your girlfriend, your aunt, your colleague, your mentor, your neighbor, or your friend.
As an actual "professional" woman (childless by choice), I find this book to be trite and insulting. Generally, it is narcissistic rubbish used to empower the author's fellow bimbos. Zero stars here. For a smart read on aunthood, being single in your 40s, and childlessness, please read Kate Bolick.
I first learned about Melanie Notkin's "Savvy Auntie" company about 2 years ago. Since then, I've been following her success and learned more about her. When I first learned she was writing a new book, I could not have been more excited or proud. I pre-ordered "Otherhood" in November 2013 and it arrived yesterday. Once I picked it up, I could not put it down. I finished it in less than 24 hours! Melanie has captured the essence of my life with her book, and has made me realize that - in a world where being a mom is expected of woman my age - as a single, childless woman I am not alone. I'm 36 years old, have not found a husband, and have no desire to have a child on my own as many have suggested I do. But I do have several children in my life who are so important to me. With her anecdotal style of writing, I found Notkin's book to be completely and absolutely relatable. As she described sitting around a table with her girlfriends talking about their choices in life and decisions they were facing, I felt like I was sitting there with them. Melanie has accepted the fact that she might not ever be a mother, and she is okay with that. After reading her book, my heart is more at peace as I face the same reality. I highly recommend "Otherhood" to any woman who is trying to make peace with such a situation. This book reaffirms the truth that as a woman in today's day and age, there is so much more to life than being a wife and mother. We have family, our friends (who often become our family), and a career we are passionate about. Our hearts can be filled in other ways than we might have once planned. This book gives me the assurance that whatever happens is the right thing for me, and that I can feel good about the relationships I really DO have, rather than the ones I do NOT have. Thank you Melanie Notkin!
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