Parenting with Pride: Unlearn Bias and Embrace, Empower, and Love Your LGBTQ+ Teen

by Heather Hester

Overview

The ultimate LGBTQ parenting handbook, guiding parents and caregivers through transformative steps of Embrace, Educate, Empower, and Love so they can support their teen with open arms and hearts.

Your kid just came out to you, and amid the flurry of emotion or worry you might feel, you know you would do anything to protect their health and happiness. And you are not alone! Heather Hester, coach, advocate, and host of the #1 rated podcast, Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen, combines an honest retelling of her own son’s coming-out experience with wide-ranging research, conversations with dozens of professionals, and the unique experiences of other families to provide the ultimate guidebook for parents embarking on this journey.
In Parenting with Pride: Unlearn Bias and Embrace, Empower, and Love Your LGBTQ+ Teen, Hester provides parents and caregivers with four transformations that gently, but purposefully, walk them through the four pillars toward fully supporting and loving your LGBTQ+ child: Embrace, Educate (or Unlearn), Empower, Love.

With trustworthy information and an accessible, straightforward plan, Parenting with Pride provides actionable yet profound tools and mental shifts to help parents support their teens and themselves and to be a catalyst for change in their communities.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781641709125
Publisher:	Familius
Publication date:	05/14/2024
Pages:	224
Sales rank:	1,003,821
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Heather Hester is the founder of Chrysalis Mama which provides support and education to parents and allies of LGBTQIA adolescents, teenagers, and young adults. She is also the creator and host of the podcast Just Breathe: Parenting your LGBTQ Teen. As an advocate and coach for parents and allies, she believes the coming out process is equal parts beautiful and messy. She works with her clients to let go of fear and feelings of isolation so that they can reconnect with themselves and their children in a meaningful, grounded way. Heather creates a space where growth and shifts can occur through education and empowerment, instilling the confidence that anyone can move through the coming-out process with understanding and love. She is also a speaker and consultant for corporations, teaching how to be better LGBTQ+ allies from the inside out. Heather is a writer and entrepreneur, married to her best friend of 28 years, the mother of four extraordinary kids (two of whom are LGBTQIA), and a student of life who believes in being authentic and embracing the messiness.

What People are Saying About This

Lisa Sugarman

“If you’re the parent of a queer child, Heather Hester has written THE book you need to have on your nightstand. Coming from a place of such deep and profound understanding, straight from her own heart and lived experience, Heather generously gifts us all of her first-hand knowledge and understanding about raising a queer child so that we can all benefit from her life lessons and truly learn to parent our children with pride and love. If you want to be more than just an ally to your child, Parenting with Pride will lovingly guide you to becoming their greatest champion and partner as they navigate the complex world around them. By virtue of her honesty and candidness, you’ll feel like you have an instant friend who understands the nuances of the emotions, challenges, and issues facing families raising LGBTQ+ children. A must-read for anyone raising and loving a queer child.”

Michelle Abraham

“Finally there is a book I can recommend to my listeners that is honest, empowering, full of love and acceptance and setting the tone for a peaceful & joyful family life while giving parents accessible information, support, mental shifts and hope in being catalysts for change in their own communities. Thank you to Heather, Connor, and your whole family for sharing your light with this world.”

Andrew Zanevsky

“Heather Hester’s new book Parenting with Pride is a wonderful guide for parents of LGBTQ+ children. The author draws on her family experience of supporting her gay son and her experience as a coach, advocate, and podcaster. She provides valuable practical advice on navigating challenges, unlearning biases, and learning how to best support and advocate for an LGBTQ+ child. You will find practical exercises, including journaling, self-care, and information about additional resources. The book is full of love, the main force empowering parents on this journey.”

Candy Motzek

"This book that you hold in your hands will transform your life, your relationships, and the life of your LGBTQ+ teen. Heather is a loving and masterful guide. When you read and, more importantly, implement what you learn in this book, you will deepen your understanding and learn how to navigate the transition with your family member. As you dive into the pages, you will sense her genuine, kind, and calm presence leading you through her four pillars of Embrace, Educate (and Unlearn Bias), Empower, and Love. Heather is the real deal, and she has condensed the lessons that she and her family have mastered through their own transition. Believe me, she fully understands your doubts and fears, the difficulties and the pain, and she can help you find the joy and love you desire too. Spend time with her to ponder and reflect, and make this path your own. If you want a more loving relationship with your coming out teen and you want to be an ally and advocate in an honest wholehearted way, then I would encourage you to buy this book. Use it and share the lessons widely so that we can make this a more inclusive, encouraging, and accepting world.”

Editorial Reviews

We shared the two copies at our Caregiver support group and one of the parents finished and returned the copy last week. They found the parts about religion and faith very helpful as it was something they were struggling with when accepting and supporting their transgender daughter. Hoping to continue sharing the book with our families as they need it. We are going to keep both copies in our library, which we allow all families to borrow books from.

Sanniel Sanabia

Heather Hester has written a beautiful and poignant must-read for any parent or caregiver raising an LGBTQ+ identified youth, no matter where they or you are on your journey. Infused with first-hand wisdom and transparency, Heather has the ability to tackle tough and realistic issues facing the LGBTQ+ community and their families in such a warm and inviting way. Through the use of humor and heartfelt personal experiences, she opens up to you about grief, despair, fear, celebration, and love, as if you were sitting and having a warm cup of coffee together. I wish this book existed when I was coming out, so my mom wouldn’t have felt so alone and could have taken comfort in knowing there were other parents out there going through similar journeys.”

Kate Versage

"This book that you hold in your hands will transform your life, your relationships, and the life of your LGBTQ+ teen. Heather is a loving and masterful guide. When you read and, more importantly, implement what you learn in this book, you will deepen your understanding and learn how to navigate the transition with your family member. As you dive into the pages, you will sense her genuine, kind, and calm presence leading you through her four pillars of Embrace, Educate (and Unlearn Bias), Empower, and Love. Heather is the real deal, and she has condensed the lessons that she and her family have mastered through their own transition. Believe me, she fully understands your doubts and fears, the difficulties and the pain, and she can help you find the joy and love you desire too. Spend time with her to ponder and reflect, and make this path your own. If you want a more loving relationship with your coming out teen and you want to be an ally and advocate in an honest wholehearted way, then I would encourage you to buy this book. Use it and share the lessons widely so that we can make this a more inclusive, encouraging, and accepting world.”—Candy Motzek, BASc, CPCC, PCC Business+Soul coach

“Heather Hester has written a beautiful and poignant must-read for any parent or caregiver raising an LGBTQ+ identified youth, no matter where they or you are on your journey. Infused with first-hand wisdom and transparency, Heather has the ability to tackle tough and realistic issues facing the LGBTQ+ community and their families in such a warm and inviting way. Through the use of humor and heartfelt personal experiences, she opens up to you about grief, despair, fear, celebration, and love, as if you were sitting and having a warm cup of coffee together. I wish this book existed when I was coming out, so my mom wouldn’t have felt so alone and could have taken comfort in knowing there were other parents out there going through similar journeys.”

—Kate Versage, LGBTQ+ life coach and expressive arts therapist

“If you’re the parent of a queer child, Heather Hester has written THE book you need to have on your nightstand. Coming from a place of such deep and profound understanding, straight from her own heart and lived experience, Heather generously gifts us all of her first-hand knowledge and understanding about raising a queer child'so that we can all benefit from her life lessons and truly learn to parent our children with pride and love. If you want to be more than just an ally to your child, Parenting with Pride will lovingly guide you to becoming their greatest champion and partner as they navigate the complex world around them. By virtue of her honesty and candidness, you’ll feel like you have an instant friend who understands the nuances of the emotions, challenges, and issues facing families raising LGBTQ+ children. A must-read for anyone raising and loving a queer child.”

—Lisa Sugarman, author, columnist, Trevor Project crisis counselor, and mental health advocate

“Finally there is a book I can recommend to my listeners that is honest, empowering, full of love and acceptance and setting the tone for a peaceful joyful family life while giving parents accessible information, support, mental shifts and hope in being catalysts for change in their own communities. Thank you to Heather, Connor, and your whole family for sharing your light with this world.”—Michelle Abraham, #13 Top 50 Moms in Podcasting from Podcast Magazine and host of Blissful Parenting Podcast

“Heather Hester’s new book Parenting with Pride is a wonderful guide for parents of LGBTQ+ children. The author draws on her family experience of supporting her gay son and her experience as a coach, advocate, and podcaster. She provides valuable practical advice on navigating challenges, unlearning biases, and learning how to best support and advocate for an LGBTQ+ child. You will find practical exercises, including journaling, self-care, and information about additional resources. The book is full of love, the main force empowering parents on this journey.”

—Andrew Zanevsky, President of PFLAG Council of Northern Illinois

We shared the two copies at our Caregiver support group and one of the parents finished and returned the copy last week. They found the parts about religion and faith very helpful as it was something they were struggling with when accepting and supporting their transgender daughter. Hoping to continue sharing the book with our families as they need it. We are going to keep both copies in our library, which we allow all families to borrow books from.—Sanniel Sanabia, Program Coordinator, Gender & Family Project at the Ackerman Institute for the Family

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