"Strips porn of its culture-war claptrap . . . Pornified may stand as a Kinsey Report for our time."San Francisco Chronicle
Porn in America is everywherenot just in cybersex and Playboy but in popular video games, advice columns, and reality television shows, and on the bestseller lists. Even more striking, as porn has become affordable, accessible, and anonymous, it has become increasingly acceptableand a big part of the personal lives of many men and women.
In this controversial and critically acclaimed book, Pamela Paul argues that as porn becomes more pervasive, it is destroying our marriages and families as well as distorting our children's ideas of sex and sexuality. Based on more than one hundred interviews and a nationally representative poll, Pornified exposes how porn has infiltrated our lives, from the wife agonizing over the late-night hours her husband spends on porn Web sites to the parents stunned to learn their twelve-year-old son has seen a hardcore porn film.
Pornified is an insightful, shocking, and important investigation into the costs and consequences of pornography for our families and our culture.
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About the Author
Pamela Paul is a contributor to Time magazine and the author of The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony. Formerly a senior editor at American Demographics, she writes for such publications as Psychology Today, Self, Marie Claire, Ladies’ Home Journal, The Economist, and The New York Times Book Review. She lives in New York.
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PornifiedHow Pornography Is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families
By Paul, Pamela
Times BooksCopyright © 2005 Paul, Pamela
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The Pornified Man
• Preoccupied. Men look at pornography more than they look at any other subject online.
• Dissatisfied. Less than a third of men say pornography improves their sex lives, yet many find themselves getting pulled into harder and harder pornography to keep the initial buzz going.
The Pornified Woman
• Reshaped. Six out of ten women state that pornography affects how men expect them to look and behave (and four in ten men agree).
• Betrayed. One-third of women see men using pornography as cheating in absolutely all cases.
The Pornified Couple
• Distant. Nearly half of women describe fallout
in relationships because of pornography; only one-third of men say the same thing. Couples describe a breakdown in closeness and a growing absence of trust.
• Broken. Of the sudden rise in divorces related to the
Internet, more than half were the result of a spouse looking at excessive amounts of pornography online.
The Pornified Family
• Exposed. Among eighteen-to-twenty-four-year-olds, who came of age with Internet pornography, more than half say it's hard to go online without seeingporn. Eleven million Internet pornography users are under the age of eighteen.
• Sexed up. A quarter of adults believe that the greatest effect porn is having on kids is it's making kids more likely to have sex earlier than they might have.
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Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Very significant book when it comes to understanding the destruction pornography causes relationships.
I started reading this knowing I was not going to agree with anything in it, and turns out, I was right! Very one-sided and has many misuses of statistics.
The title is misleading. I was expecting a book about how pornography has affected all of society, including those that view no or limited amounts of pornography. I was hoping to read about the effects of pornography, even among those that may not realize they've been influenced. What she chose to write about, however, is the relatively small portion of society that becomes hopelessy addicted to pornography. It's full of stories about people who are horribly addicted, but no stories about people that don't view porn at all. She wrote about a statistically very small portion of society. Don't let the title trick you into thinking she's going to discuss how pornography has influenced the average dude.
This is an important book that should be required reading for every educator, politician and parent. The ramifications of our society being ¿pornified¿ are shocking. I¿m no prude but I found many of the interviews a revelation in that they could be the people next door, in my church, or business people I deal with. I had no idea of the extent to which pornography is impacting our culture. Carole Sinclair, Frederick, MD
she thought it would help me be more sensative with the ladies. It was better than other books she made me read but some of these guys are such tools. I dont think looking at pr0n makes you such a loser but it did to these guys.
No matter what you think about porn, it's worth reading this book just for the stories. The author interviewed over 100 people and got them to talk about porn in ways that I've never heard or read before. Things that guys would NEVER say to their girlfriends or wives. Most of the men she interviewed seem like just 'normal guys' and their stories are bad enough. What's really scary are the stories about men whose lives spiralled out of control because of pornography. It's frightening how low they can go, and you feel so terrible for their wives and children. Personally, I've never had a problem with porn, but this book definitely made me rethink my position. I like books that teach about an issue without lecturing -- this book stuck to people's stories and that made what is actually a tough subject into a fascinating, even at times enjoyable, read.
I was actually hoping for something more empirical regarding the effects of porn. However, as the author notes, you can't really do studies on porn without violating ethics (ie exposing people to lots of porn to see what happens to them). What Pamela Paul does do is far more important. She comes out and says what it seems nobody is willing to: porn is bad and here's why. If one of her reasons doesn't sway you there's probably four or five others that will. She also effectively argues against the philosophical/ intellectual/legal arguments porn producers use to defend their trade, and puts porn as an agressive business lobby in perspective. This book isn't always great. Sometimes it feels like you're hearing a certain set of arguments over and over throughout the book. And the title rubs me wrong (I got a dirty look from the person at the counter when I bought it:)). However, after reading the book, I have now firmly found a side on a problem whose prevalence I was not entirely aware of.
Pamela Paul set out to write a book about pornography without ever discussing it as an 'industry' or resorting to religious arguments. She cites lab studies and public opinion polls and interviews over a hundred people, and her conclusions frighten me. Porn is addictive and changes the people who watch it, and the Internet has started us down a path that will be hard to change. I've never read, never even heard of anybody else approaching the subject this way. Well worth reading.