“It's difficult to raise feminist boys when they're constantly barraged by misogynistic messages. This timely manual will help parents understand what it takes to model good behavior and set a positive example.” —Booklist (starred review)
It's never too early to start talking to boys about gender, consent, and empathy. In a world still steeped in gender inequality and sexual violence, it’s become more and more clear that we can’t just teach girls to protect themselves. We must also teach boys not to do harm.
As parents, we all want to raise kind and loving kids who will grow up to be conscientious adults. But when you look closely at our society—especially at the statistics surrounding rape, domestic violence, and sexual assault—it’s clear that something needs to change.
It’s time to teach our sons compassion and empathy. It’s time to show them that it’s okay to cry, to laugh, to be angry, to be silly. It’s time to teach them to respect girls, and not just the ones they think are pretty. It’s time to teach them that it’s not okay to pick on the queer kids, the little kids, and the fat kids. It’s time to teach boys that it’s not okay to treat kids of color like second-class citizens. It’s time to teach our boys how to be conscious citizens. But where do you begin?
Written by a clinical psychologist with expertise in modern families, Raising Feminist Boys is a parent’s guide to having age appropriate conversations with boys about sexual responsibility, consent, gender, empathy, and identity. You’ll find an accessible framework that includes developmental considerations, language, and clear tools for how to talk with your son about feminism without shame, fear, or judgment.We need to have honest and informative conversations with our sons about sex and consent. We must show them how to recognize and question gender norms and bias, both within the culture and, most importantly, within ourselves. Raising Feminist Boys will give you the tools you need to get started.
|Publisher:||New Harbinger Publications|
|Product dimensions:||8.90(w) x 5.80(h) x 0.30(d)|
|Age Range:||5 Years|
About the Author
Bobbi Wegner, PsyD, is a lecturer at Harvard Graduate School of Education, supervising clinical psychologist at Boston Behavioral Medicine, writer, speaker, and cofounder of a virtual platform that provides real support for real parents from real experts. She has given three TEDx Talks on raising boys in modern culture, frequently writes on the topic, and gets much of her research from raising three children of her own (two of which are boys).
Jessica Joelle Alexander is coauthor of The Danish Way of Parenting.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Change Starts with You 7
Chapter 2 Understand Developmental Stages and Strategies 31
Chapter 3 Build Inner Resources to Raise Allies 55
Chapter 4 Talk Openly About Gender, Sex, and Identity 87
Chapter 5 Teach Physical Respect and Consent 105
Chapter 8 Use Media to Discuss Equality and Justice 123
Chapter 7 Expand His Worldview to Cultivate Empathy 145
Chapter 8 Repair Relationships When Harm Is Done 163
Moving Feminism Forward 175
Sex Talk with Kids Cheat Sheet 183
Wegner resides in Milton, MA.