Raising Uncommon Kids: 12 Biblical Traits You Need to Raise Selfless Kids

Raising Uncommon Kids: 12 Biblical Traits You Need to Raise Selfless Kids

by Sami Cone


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The single greatest lesson parents teach their kids isn't anything they say--it's what they do. And while most parents would say they want to raise compassionate kids, they might be surprised to discover just how little they're actually modeling the behaviors they hope to pass on--qualities such as unconditional love, gentleness, forgiveness, patience, gratitude, humility, and more.

In this unique book, Sami Cone shows parents a new way to look at molding their children, one in which focusing on adding good behaviors and attitudes is more powerful than eliminating bad ones. Grounding her advice in Scripture--specifically the twelve characteristics found in Colossians 3:12-17--Cone offers plenty of stories from her own life to show these principles in action. And she offers practical things parents can do right now to create a home and family that exhibits love, harmony, and generosity of spirit in a self-centered world.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780801018787
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 01/19/2016
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 1,009,229
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Sami Cone is a blogger, radio host, and TV correspondent who mentors others to live their dream life on less and pursue their passions. Known as the Frugal Mom on Nashville's top-rated talk show Talk of the Town, Sami hosts the nationally syndicated Family Money Minute and educates more than one million listeners every morning on the Family Friendly Morning Show. She and her husband, Rick, have two children and live in Nashville, Tennessee. Learn more at www.samicone.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Hello, Pot, Meet Kettle-Your Mirror Image 9

Section 1 Your Heart at Home 15

1 Lover-Above All Else 17

2 Harmony-Lessons Are Caught 31

3 Gentleness-Be Careful, Little Ears, What You Hear 45

4 Bearing With-The Secret of Sibling Love 59

Section 2 Your Attitude toward Others 73

5 Forgiveness-Respect What Your Kids Need to Know 75

6 Wisdom-Through the Eyes of a Child 93

7 Patience-Active Restraint 105

8 Kindness-The Need Next Door 121

Section 3 Your Influence in the World 133

9 Gratitude-Kids Can Too 135

10 Peace-Option Z 149

11 Humility-Consider Others 165

12 Compassion-Both/And 181

Before I Go 195

Acknowledgments 199

Notes 203

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Raising Uncommon Kids: 12 Biblical Traits You Need to Raise Selfless Kids 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
RMMcDowell More than 1 year ago
So I started reading Raising Uncommon Kids and then quit reading it at the 13th paragraph: “If I wanted my daughter to change, I realized, the change had to start with me.” Wait. What? I went back to the cover. What had I missed? How was this book meant to change my children from self-absorbed drama queens into beautiful Proverbs 31 women about changing me first?! “12 Biblical Traits YOU NEED to Raise Selfless Kids.” I missed the two simple words in all caps. “YOU NEED.” (So then I laughed nervously at my oversight, picked myself up off the floor, and took a few cleansing yoga breaths before I started reading again.) Me. It’s about me. My children model so much about who my husband and I are . . . and their “uncommonality” and selflessness is bound to be no different. Cone introduces and then dissects the 12 Biblical Traits we need to produce in our lives what we hope our children will emulate. From Love and Harmony to Wisdom and Patience to Humility and Compassion, each chapter provides an explanation, a mirror to hold up and examine ourselves, a mentor moment that will allow us to share these truths with our children, and practical tips to cultivate these traits in our children. And cultivate is the right word. While Colossians 3:12-17 can feel like a giant to do list for creating peaceful homes, it is really a guide for what God can do through our homes and families as we submit to His way of thinking, parenting, and living together. These blog reviews always mean I have to read a book too fast to fully chew it, embrace it, and measure its change in my life. As a result, some of them require deeper reading. This is one of those books. I hope I can find a group of parents to chew it and embrace it and measure its change in our families with me. DISCLAIMER: I received this book free from Baker Books through the Baker Books Bloggers Program in exchange for my honest review. I was not required to write a positive review, and all views expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with Federal Trade Commission guidelines.
michelemorin More than 1 year ago
You’re sitting around a table at your favorite restaurant. The kids are just cleaning up their plates; you’re fiddling with the debit card, when along comes the little lady with the big smile and the kind eyes. “I just have to tell you how much I enjoyed seeing your children this evening . . .” she begins, and your heart swells with gratitude and pride because, deep down, we all want our children to stand out and to be remarkable for the right reasons. Parenting would be lovely if only there were a formula, a series of steps to follow, which would ensure the desired outcome. Raising Uncommon Kids offers the astounding (and wise) suggestion that parents pay a little less attention to their children’s behavior and a little more time evaluating their own behavior. There is no quick fix for raising children. There are, however, character qualities and behaviors that we desperately want to see in our kids’ lives. Author Sami Cone suggests that the first and best place to look for those characteristics is . . . in our own lives! Beginning with the principles found in Colossians 3:12-17, Sami looks at the life of a family through three distinct lenses: 1.Your Heart at Home: How do you and your spouse talk to each other? What kinds of behaviors and responses are fair game on the average Thursday afternoon? What do your choices reveal about your priorities? Remember: “your influence will impact your kids far more than your instruction!” 2. Your Attitude Toward Others: Do your children see you considering others before yourself? Is their obedience all about fear and rules and consequences, or are they beginning to see that forgiveness, patience, and kindness are the best and most sensible way to live? 3. Your Influence in the World: Selfless behavior has impact far beyond the family room, and kids who are grounded in gratitude, peace, humility, and compassion will become world changers wherever they go. Raising Uncommon Kids pulls in the experiences of a dozen wise mums who offer their input and encouragement in mentoring moments. Sami goes on to share very practical suggestions for putting godly character into action. For example, model gentleness in your home with lunch-box notes, spending time one-on-one with kids, or by charging a fine when kids or parents complain or make negative comments. Teach compassion and give kids a crash course in what it’s like to be an adult by switching roles for the day! The traits listed in Colossians 3 — gentleness, forgiveness, wisdom, patience, kindness, humility — are foundational to living a peaceful and selfless life. The Bible is a mirror for parents in which we see clearly our own failures in word and deed, find forgiveness, and then move toward qualities that we want our children to emulate. Very often, a new tone in a household is not the result of a discouraging do-list of unachievable behaviors, but rather a change in heart based on truth that comes from the uncommon love of a wise heavenly Father. // This book was provided by Baker Books, a division of Baker Publishing Group, in exchange for my review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”