Read Me: A Parental Primer for

Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"

by Lanae St.John
Read Me: A Parental Primer for

Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk"

by Lanae St.John


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Talking to your kids about sex is hard. And, oh so awkward.

But…important. Especially if you want your kids to grow up confident and have healthy relationships (it will save you thousands on future therapy!).

Sexologist and mom, Dr. Lanae St.John, aka, The MamaSutra, believes it’s time to shake up the status quo and normalize sex and sexuality. Dr. St.John uses “The Five Building Blocks to a Healthy Sexuality” to ensure children and adults of all ages have the best resources, support, and skills to make good decisions and grow into a happy and fulfilling sex life.

You’ll be given tools like:

  • How to identify your own hurdles when it comes to discussing sex.
  • How to stay ahead of today’s information overload and guide your kids to the best information to support their curiosity.
  • The steps to open the door of communication with your kids and keep the eye-rolling to a minimum.

Children at any age want information when it comes to their emerging sexuality, physical, and emotional health. Dr. St.John hands you a mindful approach to integrate discussions of sexuality, relationships, decision making, and other relevant topics into everyday conversations. No matter where you are in your parenting journey… it starts with sex-positive parenting.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781732414501
Publisher: Mamasutra Publishing
Publication date: 06/27/2019
Pages: 222
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.47(d)

Table of Contents


  • Me And My Blog
  • A Note
  • The Bullet
  • Plissit
  • Permission

The Status Quo

  1. Someone Else Will Do It
  2. I Don’t Want To Be First
  3. I’m Waiting For The “Right Time”
  4. It Means I Have To Acknowledge That My Child Is A Sexual Being
  5. I Don’t Know What To Say Or My Child Seems To Know Already


  • What Is Sexuality?
  • Dating, Love, And Sex
  • How Are Things Now?
  • Every Family Is Different And Every Region Has Its Own Influence
  • Teens Will Be Teens
  • The Opposite Of Permission: Verboten
  • Why Is This Important?
  • A Quick Note About Language

The Five Building Blocks To A Healthy Sexuality


  • Recognize, Identify, And Communicate Feelings And Emotions
  • Know Emotion Is Not A Bad Thing For Children
  • Communicate Needs, Wants, Desires, And Listen To The Same
  • Tuning Into Body Language—Communication Through Touch
  • Encouraging And Modeling Communication
  • Correct Terminology
  • Talk To Your Kids
  • Parents Judging Other Parents
  • Covering Stis
  • Kids Sing The Darnedest Things


  • Learning About Boundaries
  • Mixed Messages
  • Being Able To Say No And To Accept When Someone Says No
  • Do No Harm
  • Cuddle As A Lesson In Consent
  • Enthusiastic/Active Versus Passive Consent
  • The Mating Call Of The Drunken Heterosexual Female
  • If She’s Not Having Fun You’ve Got To Stop


  • Respect For Self
  • A Healthy Body Image
  • Respect For Other.
  • On The Term Virginity
  • Change Is Good
  • Let’s Get Naked
  • Happy Dot Day
  • At One Point I Noticed, My Baby Was Growing Up
  • Olympic Wardrobe Malfunctions
  • Children Learn What They Live


  • The Healing Power Of Touch
  • Pleasure—More Than Just Sexual Pleasure
  • Recognition That Any Sexual Pleasure Should Be There For Both/All Parties, Not Just One Person
  • My Child Skipped The “Where Did I Come From” Question
  • Then She Asked Again
  • Self-Love And Masturbation
  • Naughty Christmas Cookies? Is That Sacrilege
  • Are Men God’s Gift To Women? No, The Clitoris Is


  • Childlike Curiosity And Focus
  • #Porn
  • Porn And Realism
  • There Are Some Things You Can’t Unsee
  • Using The Internet
  • Sweet Cross-Dresser
  • Lasting Impression

Combining The Blocks

  • Educating About Sex In A “Rape Culture”

Practical Tips

  1. Breathe
  2. Plan Ahead
  3. Start Talking Early And Do So Often
  4. Know Why You Feel The Way You Do About Sex
  5. Keep It Simple


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