Too many of us have invested ourselves into relationships where things have gone wrong. You may have experienced being judged, manipulated controlled, or worse. The impact of being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. And what's more, we either repeat the same mistakes of judgment over and over, or else simply give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. We get busy instead.
Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin?
Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend offer solid guidance for making safe choices in relationships, from family to friendship, romance and work. They help identify the healthy and growing people we all need in our lives, as well as ones we need to learn to avoid. Safe People will help you to recognize twenty traits of relationally untrustworthy people and discover what makes some people relationally safe, as well as how to avoid unhealthy entanglements. You'll learn about things within yourself that jeopardize your relational security, and you'll find out how to develop a balanced approach to relationships.
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About the Author
Dr. Henry Cloud is an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times best-selling author. In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. Cloud works with both Fortune 500 companies and smaller private businesses. He has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy.
Dr. John Townsend is a nationally-known leadership consultant, psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. John is the founder of the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling, and the Townsend Leadership Program, which is a nationwide system of leadership training groups. He developed the online digital platform Townsend NOW, and the online assessment tool TPRAT. Dr. Townsend travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking, and helping develop leaders, their teams and their families. He and his wife, Barbi, live in Newport Beach, California, and have two sons, Ricky and Benny. Visit Dr Townsend.com.
Table of Contents
Part 1 Unsafe People
1 What Is an Unsafe Person? 17
2 Personal Traits of Unsafe People 27
3 Interpersonal Traits of Unsafe People 41
4 How We Lost Our Safety 61
Part 2 Do I Attract Unsafe People?
5 Do I Have a "Safety Deficit"? 85
6 Why Do I Choose Unsafe Relationships? 93
7 False Solutions 111
8 Why Do I Isolate Myself from People? 123
Part 3 Safe People
9 What Are Safe People? 143
10 Why Do We Need Safe People? 147
11 Where Are the Safe People? 159
12 Learning How to Be Safe 169
13 Should I Repair or Replace? 189