Second Son: Transitioning Toward My Destiny, Love and Life

Second Son: Transitioning Toward My Destiny, Love and Life


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Second Son is a unique lens on life and love, intimately exploring the transition experience of Ryan Sallans-born Kimberly Ann Sallans. Ride alongside Ryan's transition from a child to a body-obsessed young woman with an eating disorder; from female to male, daughter to son, and finally a beloved partner to a cherished fiance'. Ryan candidly shares his struggle to find love and acceptance; a struggle that transcends through every layer of society. He nearly died from an extreme case of anorexia as an insecure female college student. The only thing that saved him was his inner spirit begging for a chance to live. Second Son chronicles Ryan's battle with his family, his romantic partner, and his body. It is an unblinking focus on self-empowerment tracing Ryan's evolution into manhood as he underwent gender reassignment surgeries. It took twenty-nine years for Ryan to find himself. Second Son is an intimate and honest autobiography that will educate and empower anyone journeying to find their own destiny, love, and life.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780989586825
Publisher: Scout Publishing LLC
Publication date: 08/20/2013
Pages: 242
Sales rank: 314,224
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Ryan Sallans, born and raised in rural Nebraska, began his transition from female to male in 2005. He works as a public speaker, diversity trainer, consultant, publisher and author specializing in health care, campus inclusion, and workplace issues surrounding the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex and Asexual (LGBTQIA) community.

Today, he is most known as a national speaker who shares his transition journey, as well as his struggles with an eating disorder. His story is told with an intermixing of humor and intricate clinical details surrounding the transition process.

Ryan attended the University of Nebraska-Lincoln where he received a Bachelor of Arts degree in English and Anthropology, a Master of Arts degree in English and a Master of Arts degree in educational psychology.

To learn more, visit Ryan's website at:

Table of Contents

Prologue: Frequent Fliers, Frequent Questions vii

Part 1 Finding Identity: My Coming Out Story

Chapter 1 What Is a Man? 1

Chapter 2 My Origin Story 5

Chapter 3 Superman Versus My Mom 15

Chapter 4 My Wishing Spot 23

Chapter 5 My Life Among the Awkward Adolescents 31

Chapter 6 Letting Go of 40 39

Chapter 7 Resetting My Biological Clock 43

Chapter 8 The Incredible Shrinking Coed 51

Chapter 9 Sexless in the City 67

Chapter 10 Dashboard Confession 81

Chapter 11 My Family Comes Together…Sort of 85

Part 2 Finding Community: Glimpsing Reflections of Who I Am

Chapter 12 Finding My Soul in the Heartland 99

Chapter 13 My Second Origin Story 109

Chapter 14 A Weight Is Lifted from My Chest 113

Chapter 15 Bicep Envy 119

Chapter 16 Sharing a Beer, or Two, or Three 123

Chapter 17 Real Estate Rebel 127

Chapter 18 What Indiana Jones and I Share 129

Part 3 Finding Identity: Finding Myself

Chapter 19 A House Is Not a Home 135

Chapter 20 When Will I Be Complete? 149

Chapter 21 Penis Party, Anyone? 153

Chapter 22 Having a Ball in Belgrade 159

Chapter 23 I'm a Big Boy Now! 173

Chapter 24 The Rise of the Second Son 179

Chapter 25 I Left My Heart in Philadelphia 189

Chapter 26 Chasing and Catching the Girl of My Dreams 203

Chapter 27 Our Leap of Faith 215

Epilogue: Finding My Gemini 223

Afterword 225

Bibliography 227

About the Author 228

Acknowledgments 229

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Bill0 More than 1 year ago
This is one of those books I couldn't put down once I started reading. I've known who Ryan was for a while but never met him. And then I started reading or hearing about Second Son. Somewhere I read an excerpt from the book and just had to purchase it. This is such a courageous book for a person to write. I realize what Ryan does for a living, but still; he put everything out there for everyone to see, sharing some of his deepest intermost feeling with the world. This is a must read book for everyone. I don't care if you're straight, gay, bi, or trans. I think it's important for everyone to know what makes each other tick. Without knowing about each other, we'll never understand what others go through. With a true understanding, it is easier for everyone to empathize and realize people are people. I'm not sure what make me think so, but I really believe this book has a huge potential to save lives. Read it and share it with your friends. When they're done with it, get it back and share it again.
april_herrley More than 1 year ago
A very personal look into one man's journey to be true to himself. It takes a lot of courage to stand up and say this is me, this is who I am, and Ryan accomplishes this with his book. A well written account of his personal struggle to become himself, as each chapter draws the reader closer to Ryan's ultimate emergence as he transitions from female to male. An excellent book on empowerment, understanding and the ability to take control of your own future, destiny and happiness.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is wonderful. Ryan's humor, insight, and honesty make this book essential reading for anyone who knows a transgender individual or identifies as such. His excellent recall of the details of his life keep the reader enthralled. This book also has the power to enlighten any individual who isn't familiar with transgender issues. Ryan goes beyond his transition process to explain his growth as an individual, which is realistic and fantastic. Ryan's book has the ability to help millions of people become more accepting of themselves and others. This book has already helped me tremendously with my personal exploration of my gender identity and expression. I would recommend this book to anyone.
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estraley More than 1 year ago
Ryan’s raw narrative gives a view into a life that is as unique as it is powerfully “normal”. Through honest accounts of life altering and ordinary events, Ryan shows his humanity with a side of gender nonconformity, discomfort, and the process toward acceptance. Those who are looking for a book to expand their understanding of transgender lives will not be disappointed. They may be pleasantly surprised by the accessibility and ability to relate to such a courageous author and activist. I couldn’t put it down, and I predict other readers will have the same experience. Ryan’s vulnerability is transformed into strength in the hands of the reader, and I hope that many have the opportunity to experience this book.