Sex and Intimacy for Women: The Secrets of Great Pleasure in and out of the Bed

Sex and Intimacy for Women: The Secrets of Great Pleasure in and out of the Bed

by RN Jenn Hodge


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ISBN-13: 9781982202156
Publisher: Balboa Press
Publication date: 07/11/2018
Pages: 52
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.12(d)

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Types of Relationships

CONTRARY TO THE GENERAL belief that some relationships are good and some are bad or possibly even toxic, we are all seeking the relationships that serve us best. If we choose a different approach and better understand relationships, we may see them as a tool to better ourselves. Then we can make necessary changes that will allow us to become better communicators and perhaps improve our ability to respond to situations more effectively.


The purpose of all relationships is growth and evolution, which means every relationship serves a purpose. Even if you consider a relationship to be terrible and to have no value it will still occur to help you learn, grow and evolve. Please do not discount any relationship you experience. Always be ready to face the next one and be open to experience, learn and grow.

There are several types of relationships. The first category I would like to discuss is our relationship with the environment. In this relationship, we must obey to the laws of nature, even if we don't feel like it. The law of nature does not care who you are, and if you choose to jump off a high building, you will die because you did not obey to the law of gravity.

If you decide not to eat nature will kill you. If you choose not to sleep the law of nature will kill you, so inevitably you don't have much of a choice. Again, it is in your best interest to obey to the laws of nature as much as possible. Some more examples include -eating natural food that is fresh and pure to fuel your body. Protecting yourself from cold and heat when needed, so your body does not become frostbitten or dehydrated and getting regular exercise for if you choose to stay sedentary, your muscles will atrophy.

There are also relationships with others such as friends, coworkers and family members. Wouldn't it be nice to understand relationships better so you can communicate with your children, parents, and friends more effectively? In relationships with others, it is important that we respect each other. If we can be open to listening to other people's experiences and opinions, we can then learn from and collaborate with them. Why wouldn't you want to learn from another's experiences?

Their knowledge can help you possibly avoid the same mistakes or get to your desired goal faster because of their lessons. As you can see relationships are incredibly complex.

They require understanding so you don't fall into the trap of just abandoning them and missing out on the opportunity of your learning, growth, and evolution. "Relationships are everything and everything is a relationship so in life they are unavoidable."


Also in this book we are focusing on another type of relationship, an intimate relationship between a man and a woman. The first point that is not well understood is that men and women are different both physiologically and psychologically.

A man has a penis and a scrotum, and a woman has a vagina and breasts. Although this may appear to be common sense, there is more to it than meets the eye.

A man has more muscle mass and strength than a woman. The areas of the body that feel the most pleasure are also different on a man than on a woman. To please each other, we need to be aware of where those areas are located. Unfortunately, we tend to fall short in teaching and sharing so that our partner can please us entirely.

We then spend a lot of time complaining that we did not receive the pleasure we expected or wanted. We then blame our partner when we truly have no one to blame but ourselves. I will share with you later in this publication exactly where the points on the body are for both men and women so you can both experience explosive pleasure like never before!

Men and woman are also different psychologically. Women tend to want more of a connection with their partner. They need to feel nurtured and desired. Men, because of their high testosterone level need sex and want to feel that they are adequately providing for their woman in and out of the bedroom.

Without this desire to procreate, our species would die out, so nature has made certain that will not happen.

It is the woman's job to make sure her man keeps coming back to her and only her, and it begins outside the bedroom. Then during sex she has a significant role. Before we explore that role, let's talk about the many benefits of sex.


Benefits of Sex

REGULAR SEX CANNOT BE underestimated as a factor for reducing stress, bolstering self- esteem and bonding that occurs between partners. The real point of this publication is the fact that a healthy sex life can provide for a longer, healthier, and most would agree, a more enjoyable life. Sex significantly relieves stress, emotionally and physically.

Sex and orgasm flood the body with good feeling chemicals called beta-endorphins which are great healers. These hormones can boost your immune system which spends its entire life fighting off bacteria, viruses, and diseases such as heart disease, high blood pressure, IBS, fibromyalgia, GERD and even cancer.

Disease occurs when the body becomes out of balance because stress has risen to an intolerable level. Why wouldn't you want to give your body every possibility to be healthy?


1. Improved Immunity and a Healthy Glow

People who have sex frequently (three times a week) have significantly higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA). Your IgA immune system is your body's first line of defense.

It's job is to fight off invading organisms at their entry points, reducing or even eliminating the need for activation of your body's immune system. It may explain why people who have sex frequently also take fewer sick days.

There's nothing sexy and inviting about sneezing, wheezing, or a red, runny nose. But getting hot and bothered can help you avoid coming down with a cold or flu bug. According to researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania, these antibodies help combat diseases and keep the body safe from colds and flu. Save up your sick days and stay in bed for some healthy sex.

Sex helps you have and maintain a youthful, healthy glow. In a study conducted at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland, a panel of judges viewed participants through a one-way mirror and guessed their ages.

Those who were enjoying lots of sex with a steady partner four times a week, were on average perceived to be seven to twelve years younger than their actual age. Regular sex promotes the release of hormones, including testosterone and estrogen, which can keep the body looking young and vital; estrogen has also been shown to promote soft skin and shiny hair. Why not add regular sex to your skin care regimen?

2. Heart Health

Sex counts as cardio! A romp in the hay can burn anywhere from 85 to 250 calories, depending on the length of the session. Obviously, a quickie will be less strenuous than an all-nighter. In fact, cardiologists consider sexual activity comparable to a modest workout on a treadmill, according to a study published in The American Journal of Cardiology.

3. Lower Blood Pressure

Sexual activity, specifically intercourse, is linked to lower blood pressure. Can you think of a better way to reduce your blood pressure?

4. Sex Is a Form of Exercise

Sex helps to boost your heart rate, burn calories and strengthen muscles, just like exercise. In fact, research recently revealed that sex burns about four calories a minute for men and three for women, making it, at times, a significant form of exercise. Sex can even help you to maintain your flexibility and balance.

5. Pain Relief

Sexual activity releases pain-reducing hormones and has been found to help reduce or block back and leg pain, as well as pain from menstrual cramps, arthritis, and headaches.

One study even found that sexual activity can lead to partial or complete relief of headaches in some migraine and cluster-headache patients. The surge of hormones released after an orgasm can help ease any annoying ache, whether it's a strained back or a horrible migraine.

A study conducted at the Headache Clinic at Southern Illinois University found that half of female migraine sufferers reported relief after climaxing. The endorphins that are released during an orgasm closely resemble morphine, and they relieve pain.

Have a migraine, but your man isn't around? Self- medicate by treating yourself with some solo sex. As long as you hit your peak, masturbating will have the same soothing effect.

6. May Help Reduce Risk of Prostate Cancer

Research has shown that men who ejaculate at least twenty-one times a month during sex or masturbation - have a lower risk of prostate cancer.

7. Improves Sleep

Don't go to bed angry. The stress on your body is not worth it. Your body requires six to eight hours of quality sleep. It is not healthy to lay awake stewing over an argument. It is okay to agree to disagree and then have makeup sex to release all of the stress. You will go to sleep relaxed and have the best night ever!

After sex, the relaxation-inducing hormone prolactin is released, which may help you to nod off more quickly.

Oxytocin, which is considered the love hormone, is released during orgasm and also promotes sleep.

It's downright dreamy how an orgasm can lull you to sleep. That's because the same endorphins that help you de-stress can also relax your mind and body, priming you for slumber, says Dr. Cindy M. Meston director of the Sexual Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of Texas at Austin.

Plus, during orgasm the hormone prolactin is released. "Prolactin levels are naturally higher when we sleep, which suggests a strong relationship between the two," she says. But if you're wild in bed, please remember that; highly active sex can make you feel more energized than sleepy.

8. Stress Relief

Sex is significant to a relationship and stress relief of both parties. Sex triggers your body to release its natural feel-good chemicals, helping to ease stress and boost pleasure, calm and self-esteem. Research also shows that those who have sexual intercourse responded better when subjected to stressful situations like speaking in public.

If you are stressing over tomorrow's job interview, slip between the sheets. Research from the University of the West of Scotland reveals that people who had intercourse at least once over two weeks were better able to manage stressful situations such as public speaking, says study author and psychology professor Dr. Stuart Brody.

That's because endorphins and oxytocin are released during sex, and these feel-good hormones activate pleasure centers in the brain that create feelings of intimacy and relaxation and help stave off anxiety and depression, says WH advisor Dr. Laura Berman, an assistant clinical professor of ob-gyn and psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University.

You don't have to climax to net the effects, but you'll get the biggest surge of soothing hormones if you have an orgasm. Just one more reason to understand and practice the skills you are about to learn. The probability and the number of orgasms a woman will experience can significantly increase by applying the techniques in this book.

9. Boost Your Libido

The more often you have sex, the more likely you are to want to keep doing it. There's both a mental and physical connection, particularly for women. More frequent sex helps to increase vaginal lubrication, blood flow and elasticity, which in turn makes sexual activity more enjoyable.

10. Improved Bladder Control in Women and a Decrease in PMS

Intercourse helps to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles which contract during orgasm. It can help women to improve their bladder control and avoid incontinence. "When a woman orgasms, her uterus contracts and, in the process, rid the body of cramp- causing compounds.

The increased number of uterine contractions can also help expel blood and tissue more quickly, contributing to ending your period faster. Who wouldn't want lighter, shorter periods with less cramping?!

Engaging in intercourse while menstruating has also been shown to help decrease the risk of endometriosis, a common condition in which uterine tissue grows outside of the uterus, causing pelvic pain and sex that hurts, according to researchers at Yale University School of Medicine.

Sex during your period may not sound too appealing, but don't stress over making a mess. Just lay down a dark-colored towel and stick to missionary. When you're lying down, your flow tends to be lighter, says WH advisor Dr. Michelle Callahan.

11. Increase Intimacy and Improve your Relationship

Sex and orgasm result in increased levels of the hormone oxytocin, the "love" hormone, that helps you feel bonded to your partner and better experience empathic connections.

"Having sex regularly can do more than make you feel closer to your partner it can contribute to you becoming physically healthier," says Dr. Hilda Hutchinson, a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Columbia University.


What Gets in the Way of Frequent Sex?

I Understand sometimes you are tired and also may have a headache but if this becomes the norm, there is a problem. You deny yourself, not just your partner. If for some reason you are not in the mood and on occasion that's ok, just be aware your man is always in the mood. Sometimes you may have to please your partner just by masturbating him for 15 minutes or so until he ejaculates. Trust me, he will be calmer and more pleasant, so it is well worth your effort.

There is another occurrence that appears to get in the way of couples having regular sex which is recommended to be practiced 2-4 times per week. When disagreements happen the last thing, you want to do is be intimate with your partner. Instead, you deny him and go to bed angry and may stay angry for days. It is hurting both of you and the relationship, especially the person who continues to hold onto that anger and frustration.

Emotions that don't feel good such as anger, fear, frustration, jealousy, etc. can cause the body to go down and the immune system to function at a less than optimal level. It opens you up to getting sick with a temporary illness or sometimes a chronic illness that may be with you for the rest of your life. The problem is that each one of us wants to be right and wants our way all of the time. Unfortunately, that's not how life works.

If you strive to be constantly right and it always has to be your way, or he always has to have his way there will be MAJOR constant conflict in your relationship.

This is the time where you ask yourself a crucial question, do I want to stay well or do I always have to be right? Take the time to listen to your partner and say something like, I can see your point can I think about this and get back to you tomorrow?

This will allow you both time to cool off and reflect on each other's perspective. In the meantime, have sex, you may even forget what the argument was all about! If one or both of you is having trouble with this concept, I suggest that some work may be needed to understand how life works and the difference between your physiology and psychology. Once you understand and apply the concepts in; The Manual 4 Life philosophy relationships will become much easier to navigate. This philosophy is available as a paperback and downloadable version on Amazon. For your convenience, I have included a link. -Consciousness-ebook/dp/B01L4SRN3I

We spend a ton of time as women trying to make ourselves more attractive to our man. We put on makeup and lipstick to have a more beautiful face. We wear heels with a mini-skirt so our legs look more toned and sexy. We wear a push-up bra, so our breasts look larger and are enhanced.

We spend so much time on this, but unfortunately our effort is wasted if we lack skill in the bedroom. I hate to break the news to you, but talent will win over a beautiful face and perfect body EVERY SINGLE TIME, GUARANTEED! If you improve your skills, your man will choose you over a model any day of the week. Don't believe me, try it for yourself and enjoy the benefits.

You must remember at one point seeing an ok looking woman with a gorgeous guy. Your first thought was how did she get him?! She has skill in the bedroom, plain and straightforward. Are you ready to learn and understand how to have and apply that skill with your man?


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Table of Contents

Disclaimer, v,
Introduction, ix,
Types of Relationships, 1,
What is the Purpose of Relationships?, 2,
Intimate Relationships and the Differences between Men and Women, 4,
Benefits of Sex, 7,
The Top Eleven Health Benefits of Sex, 8,
What Gets in the Way of Frequent Sex?, 17,
How to Have Amazing, Earth Shattering Sex, 21,
How to Engage in Amazing Sex, 24,
The Spot, 25,
Lubrication, 27,
Pattern Interruption, 28,
Breath, 32,
Variety is the Spice of Life, 32,
Make Time for Each Other, 34,
Pleasure Outside the Bedroom, 35,
Remember to be Thankful, 36,
Conclusion, 37,
Bibliography, 39,

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