Staying One: How to Avoid a Make-Believe Marriage

Staying One: How to Avoid a Make-Believe Marriage

by Clinton W. McLemore, Anna M. McLemore

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Overview

Marriage is the most demanding and potentially rewarding relationship for many adults. Learning to navigate its challenges can be difficult. Staying One is a practical guide that not only teaches the spiritual what and why of marriage but also provides advice and practice in the how. Intended to save readers from the pain of learning the hard way, it illustrates and explains biblically sound approaches to building a healthy and fulfilling marriage that lasts. These include things married people should and shouldn't say to each other.

Staying One will prove useful to pastors in their pre-marital counseling and to the couples they are ministering. It will serve as powerful source material for marriage enrichment workshops, retreats focused on marriage, and church-based growth groups and adult education classes. The book will prove of special interest to engaged couples, newlyweds, those wanting to revitalize their marriages, and married people on the brink of divorce. A key feature is that each chapter concludes with a response from the author's wife, reflecting a woman's point of view.

We also offer a Workbook for use in completing the twenty hands-on activities contained in Staying One, as well as a comprehensive Leader's Guide for those facilitating workshops based on the book.


FOR BACK COVER:
""Staying One is an important contribution to the literature on the number-one request for help in the world: 'fix my marriage.' It is extremely well written and clearly demonstrates a solid grasp of the most important skilled-based, interpersonal literature. In addition, it is biblically informed and reflects a clearly articulated Christian worldview and lifestyle. It is honest, helpful, and practical. The workbook exercises lend themselves to personal or professional reflection and action. I recommend it enthusiastically for either lay or professional audiences. It would also be a good read for faith-based couples wanting to achieve greater understanding of specific ways to strengthen or enrich their marriages.""
--Richard E. Butman, PhD, Professor of Psychology and Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Wheaton College; coauthor, Modern Psychotherapies and Modern Psychopathologies

FOR FRONT MATTER:
""Drawing on years of clinical and personal experience, Clinton and Anna McLemore have written a down-to-earth book filled with nuggets of practical wisdom.The text is peppered with exercises that, if completed with open minds and hearts, will help steer couples of all ages and stages toward deeper connection and more satisfying marriages.This book is a gift to couples and the churches who care about them.""
--Cameron Lee, PhD, CFLE, Professor of Family Studies, Fuller Theological Seminary

""Clinton and Anna McLemore have created a valuable roadmap for any couple interested in learning how to create the marriage they have always wanted.The combination of biblical truth, psychological research,and the wisdom of lived experience make Staying One: How to Avoid a Make-Believe Marriage an invaluable tool for building an authentic, real-life, passionate marriage!""
--Laura Robinson Harbert, MDiv, PhD, Former Dean of the Chapel and Spiritual Formation, Fuller Theological Seminary

Clinton W. McLemore holds a PhD in psychology from the University of Southern California. Both a clinical and organizational psychologist, he is president of Relational Dynamics, Inc. For fifteen years, he was a full-time professor, and for nine of these taught in the doctoral clinical psychology program at Fuller Theological Seminary. He frequently speaks, conducts workshops, and consults. Dr. McLemore has appeared on many radio and television programs and is the author of seven previous books.

Anna M. McLemore was Vice President and Chief Operating Officer of Relational Dynamics, Inc. She also served as a church board member and treasurer and as a chapter president of the National Charity League. With her husband, Anna has been interviewed about marriage on

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781498294188
Publisher: Wipf & Stock Publishers
Publication date: 02/21/2017
Pages: 246
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.49(d)

About the Author

Clinton W. McLemore holds a PhD in psychology from the University of Southern California. Both a clinical and organizational psychologist, he is president of Relational Dynamics, Inc. For fifteen years, he was a full-time professor, and for nine of these taught in the doctoral clinical psychology program at Fuller Theological Seminary. He frequently speaks, conducts workshops, and consults. Dr. McLemore has appeared on many radio and television programs and is the author of seven previous books.

Anna M. McLemore was Vice President and Chief Operating Officer of Relational Dynamics, Inc. She also served as a church board member and treasurer and as a chapter president of the National Charity League. With her husband, Anna has been interviewed about marriage on national TV.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xiii

To the Reader xv

Chapter 1 The Relationally Dead 1

Chapter 2 Marriage and the Gospel 13

Chapter 3 Communication in Marriage 25

Chapter 4 Good and Not-So-Good Marriages 49

Chapter 5 How We Train Each Other 65

Chapter 6 Divorce, Separation, and Affairs 77

Chapter 7 Affirming Your Spouse 94

Chapter 8 Male-Female Differences and Marriage Cycles 99

Chapter 9 Modes of Expressing Love 109

Chapter 10 Constructive Disagreement 122

Chapter 11 Marriage as Negotiation 129

Chapter 12 What Sex Is and Does 141

Chapter 13 Romance, Eros, and Etiquette 154

Chapter 14 Resentment as the Lethal Emotion 171

Chapter 15 What Every Man and Woman Wants to Hear 179

Chapter 16 Drafting a Marital Compact 184

Chapter 17 A Check List and Some Guidelines 190

Topical Outline for a Workshop 195

Bibliography 201

Index 203

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