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First published in 1990, this perennial best-seller has helped countless children build self-esteem and assertiveness skills.
Newly revised and updated, it’s the ultimate resource for any kid who’s ever been picked on at school, bossed around, blamed for things he or she didn’t do, or treated unfairly—and for any kid who sometimes feels frustrated, angry, powerless, or scared. Simple words and real-life examples show how children can stick up for themselves with other kids (including bullies and teasers), big sisters and brothers, even grown-ups.
Kids learn how to build relationships, become responsible, manage their anger, grow a “feelings vocabulary,” make good choices, solve problems, set goals, and “store” happiness and pride. Questions from real kids are paired with answers about how to handle specific situations calmly, confidently, and effectively. A special note to parents and teachers explores the “self-esteem backlash” and explains what self-esteem really is—and why kids today need it more than ever.
A wealth of practical, encouraging, realistic advice, this empowering little book is also recommended for parents, teachers, and counselors.
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|Publisher:||Free Spirit Publishing, Inc.|
|Series:||Laugh and Learn Series|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.26(d)|
|Lexile:||630L (what's this?)|
|Age Range:||8 - 12 Years|
About the Author
Gershen Kaufman was educated at Columbia University and received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Rochester. Professor in the Counseling Center and Psychology Department at Michigan State University, he is the author of Shame: The Power of Caring and The Psychology of Shame: Theory and Treatment of Shame-Based Syndromes. He is the coauthor with Lev Raphael of Dynamics of Power: Fighting Shame and Building Self-Esteem and Coming Out of Shame.
Lev Raphael was educated at Fordham University and received his M.F.A. in Creative Writing from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst. He holds a Ph.D. in American Studies from Michigan State University, where he has taught as an assistant professor of American Thought and Language.
With Gershen Kaufman, he codeveloped and cotaught the program, “Affect and Self-Esteem,” on which the books Dynamics of Power and Stick Up for Yourself! are based. Book critic for National Public Radio’s “The Todd Mundt Show” and “Mysteries” columnist for The Detroit Free Press, he is the author of three Nick Hoffman mysteries, most recently The Death of a Constant Lover.
Pamela Espeland has authored, coauthored, or edited over 200 books for Free Spirit Publishing on a variety of subjects. Pamela graduated from Carleton College in Northfield, Minnesota and currently lives in Minneapolis with her husband and two little dogs.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I never EVER knew what it meant to stick up for yourself. I always thought it meant making a situation fair for you by getting back at someone, or talking back. But it's actually about taking responsibility without blaming others, knowing that only you are responsible for the way you feel and anyone else, and that someone is always on your side-you. What I like most about this book is that it has writing activities about your feelings. For instance, "write about a time you felt joyful" and at first I was thinking "How does this help me?!" but when you look back on your entries, you learn about yourself. It's almost like a diary sorta, but it helps you better understand your feelings. There are also the lessons about how to control your feelings-such as rage. I learned how rage is not the same as anger. Since it is a stronger feeling, it is much harder to control. This lesson hasn't helped me yet (and I experience rage a lot) it takes practice to learn to think before you speak, to think about the consequences first, and to use the techniques provided in this book to help you lose the feeling of rage to feel better. I LOVED the positive self-esteem quiz! Very helpful! It helps you find out how much self-esteem you have. It will also help a little with getting your self-esteem up if it's low. I like how you become active with this book with having to keep your own journal, so it's not some boring read where you will just read the text and have to understand. The writing activities help you learn about yourself, feelings, how to control strong feelings, and the self-esteem section helps build positive self-esteem. The self-esteem section is pretty short. It's pages 91-107 which isn't much! And this is why I gave it one star. However, it is very clear on what to do when you self-esteem is low. This section gives you 6 things to do each day to get it up and the self-esteem do's and dont's as well as the definition of self-esteem. This is very helpful for any kid who can't really talk to their parents about these things because they might not feel comfortable talking about feelings and saying they don't really know themselves. And this book really wants you to talk to your parents about certain things and helps you. I'm actually a teen, not 10 or 12. Even though this book was meant for kids a little younger than I am, I still found it very helpful since I've never had help controlling my rage or getting my self-esteem up when I'm down. This book is a MUST for all kids around 9 or 15! It's easy to understand, easy to learn, and easy to apply what you have learned to your daily life with the help of this awesome book! This is the perfect book for every kid. Even if the kid you give it to does not enjoy reading, they will feel down at some time and don't feel like opening up to his or her parents and this book will be waiting to guide them. You can't go wrong with this book-really! So I give this a 4/5 stars, -1 star because of the small section on positive self-esteem but other than that, GREAT! I'm so happy I bought this :)
This is great book so far