"Grace M. Cho's memoir richly braids Korean meals, memories of a mother fighting racism and the onset of schizophrenia, and references ranging from Christine Blasey Ford's testimony to the essays of Ralph Ellison." —Vanity Fair
“Fascinating.” —Ms.
"A deft presentation of an uncertain and critically underserved past. . . . In Tastes Like War, Cho has sent a vital current through a history towards a more considered life, a more felt conception of history as it involves us.” —Full Stop
“Somehow both mouthwatering and heartbreaking, Tastes Like War is a potent personal history.” —Shelf Awareness
“An exquisite commemoration and a potent reclamation.” —Booklist, starred review
“A wrenching, powerful account of the long-term effects of the immigrant experience.” —Kirkus Reviews
"Powered by sharp, unflinching prose, Cho’s book is as much about her personal history as it is about the history of American hegemony in Asia — and the many scars it has left on the millions of people who have experienced it. By chronicling her own relationship with her mother, who struggled with schizophrenia, and many of the foods they shared, Cho offers an incisive portrait of how haunting these conflicts continue to be.” —Vox
“Terrific.” —Chicago Tribune
“Tastes Like War is a compelling reminder that our lives are connected to and reflect the legacies of collective histories and experiences.” —International Examiner
“Powerful.” —Alta Journal
“That memoir was illuminating in terms of my own life… helpful to understanding what immigration does to your brain.” —John Cho, actor, for PEOPLE Magazine
“As a member of the complicated postwar Korean diaspora in the US, I have been waiting for this book all my life. Tastes Like War is, among other things, a series of revelations of intergenerational trauma in its many guises and forms, often inextricable from love and obligation. Food is a complicated but life-affirming thread throughout the memoir, a deep part of Grace and her mother’s parallel journeys to live with autonomy, dignity, nourishment, memory, and love.” —Sun Yung Shin, author of Unbearable Splendor
“What are the ingredients for madness? Grace M. Cho’s sui generis memoir of her mother’s schizophrenia plumbs the effects of colonialism, war, and violence on a Korean American family. By learning to cook her mother’s favorite childhood dishes, Cho comes to break bread with the numerous voices haunting her ‘pained spirit.’ Cho’s moving and frank exploration examines how the social gets under our skin across vast stretches of space and time, illuminating mental illness as a social problem as much as a biological disease.” —David L. Eng, coauthor of Racial Melancholia, Racial Dissociation: On the Social and Psychic Lives of Asian Americans
“Raw, reaching, and propulsive, Grace M. Cho’s Tastes Like War creates and explores an epic conversation about heritage and history, intergenerational trauma and the connective potential of food to explore a mother’s fractured past. This is both a memoir and a reclamation.” —Allie Rowbottom, author of Jell-O Girls: A Family History
“That memoir was illuminating in terms of my own life… helping to understanding what immigration does to your brain.” —John Cho, actor
“A profoundly moving meditation on the intimate connections between the familial and the geopolitical, Grace M. Cho’s Tastes Like War is a requiem and a love song for a brilliant, elusive mother whose traumatic past shadows her daughter’s present. Refusing to see her mother’s mental illness as individual pathology, but rather as rooted in the sociopolitical, Cho has written a tale of the fierce love between mothers and daughters—of appetites and longing, of taste, smell, and sensation that speak when words fail, and that ultimately lead a daughter home. This searingly honest, heartbreaking memoir evokes the ways in which food in the immigrant household may just as easily be a path to assimilation, alienation, and forgetting, as it can be to remembering, connection, joy, and possibility.” —Gayatri Gopinath, author of Unruly Visions: The Aesthetic Practices of Queer Diaspora
“Grace M. Cho’s debut memoir follows and forages alongside her mother in the shadowed gendered histories of the unending Korean War in the United States. This is a book of care and homage to the persistent creativity of a Korean mother, her daughter’s love, and their resilience despite the ghosts of US militarism. Tastes Like War signals a powerfully evocative new voice.” —Jennifer Kwon Dobbs, author of Interrogation Room
“Exquisitely crafted, Grace M. Cho’s Tastes Like War will break readers’ hearts as it engages them in a daughter’s search for her mother in the traumatic effects of war, immigration, and mental illness. In her debut memoir, Cho brilliantly shows the possibilities of the genre to bring together thought and affect in the pursuit of understanding the ghosts of our historical present.” —Patricia Ticineto Clough, The User Unconscious: On Affect Media and Measure
“In excavating the origins of her mother’s schizophrenia, Grace M. Cho not only untangles her own family history but that of a generation of survivors and their descendants marked by war. Her exploration leads readers on a poignant journey across time and space, revealing the scars on the human psyche wrought by the legacy of violence underpinning US-Korea relations. A moving tribute to all those ‘never meant to survive,’ Tastes Like War suggests that healing can’t always be achieved through solitary effort but requires a collective reckoning with the past.” —Deann Borshay Liem, director of First Person Plural
"More than a love letter from a daughter to her mother. It's also a testament of female resilience and survival: it's an homage to motherhood, the women who died in the Korean War, the "comfort women" of war, and history's "hysterical women." Cho takes a hard and questioning look at mental health practices and diagnoses and the way women of color are ignored, misdiagnosed and mistreated; and she investigates the way systemic racism, war and social and cultural trauma can cause severe mental health disorders. . . . Tastes Like War is a book that doesn't leave you." —Michelle Malonzo, Changing Hands Bookstore
2021-03-03
A Korean immigrant and sociology professor reevaluates her mother's past and their fraught relationship.
When she was very young, Cho moved with her family from Korea to her father's small, conservative hometown in rural Washington with her half brother, her Korean mother, and her much older father, a merchant mariner who was at sea for half of the year. “In 1986, when I was fifteen,” writes the author, [my mother] developed what psychiatrists call ‘florid psychosis.’ Florid. Such a beautiful image to describe the terror. A field of flowers from which my second mother bloomed.” By the time she died, suddenly and mysteriously, in 2008, she was spending all her time in a "granny flat" in New Jersey in the house of Cho's brother and his wife. Every weekend, Cho, who was working on a doctoral dissertation and then a book about the Korean diaspora, traveled several hours to cook for her mother, an activity that “let me imagine her before she was my mother.” In this probing, vividly written memoir, charged with the pain of losing "the person I loved most in the world,” Cho moves fluidly around in time, touching on difficult as well as happy memories—e.g., her mother's former zest for foraging and baking dozens of blackberry pies. Using the tools she developed as a sociologist, as well as her own insights as a daughter, the author was able to shape an evocative portrait of her mother's past as “an adolescent in postwar South Korea under…the rising US military hegemony, who worked at a US naval base, selling drinks, and probably sex, to American military personnel.” Though Cho refuses to settle on a specific explanation for her mother's illness, which creates some sense of an unresolved narrative, the author’s re-creation of her family dynamic is haunting and filled with palpable emotion.
A wrenching, powerful account of the long-term effects of the immigrant experience.
