Mothering is messy. Our joy and hope in raising children doesn’t change the reality that being a mom can be frustrating, stressful, and tiring. But just as God is using us to shape our children, God is using our children and motherhood to shape us.
In The Better Mom, author Ruth Schwenk, herself a mother of four children, encourages us with the good news that there is more to being a mom than the extremes of striving for perfection or simply embracing the mess. We don’t need to settle for surviving our kids’ childhood. We can grow through it.
With refreshing and heartfelt honesty Ruth emboldens moms to:
- Find freedom and walk confidently in purpose
- Create a God-honoring home environment
- Overcome unhealthy and destructive emotions such as anger, anxiety, and more
- Avoid glorifying the mess of mom-ing or idolizing perfection
- Cultivate life-giving friendships
At the heart of The Better Mom is the message that Jesus calls us to live not a weary life, but a worthy life. We don’t have to settle for either being apathetic or struggling to be perfect. Both visions of motherhood go too far. Ruth offers a better option. She says, “It’s okay to come as we are, but what we’re called to do and be is far too important to stay there! The way to becoming a better mom starts not with what we are doing, but with who God is inviting us to become."
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About the Author
Ruth Schwenk is a pastor’s wife, mom, author, and blogger. She is the trusted author and coauthor of several books, including The Better Mom, The Better Mom Devotional, For Better or For Kids, and Pressing Pause. She and her husband, Patrick, are the coauthors of For Better or For Kids: A Vow to Love Your Spouse with Kids in the House and the creators of The Better Life Ministry.org, which is home to The Better Mom.com, For The Family.org, and Rootlike Faith.com. She and Patrick met while attending the Moody Bible Institute in Chicago. They have been married for eighteen years, have four children, and have been in full-time ministry for more than fifteen years. They live in Ann Arbor, Michigan.
Table of Contents
1 This Is What I Signed Up For? 11
2 I Have No Idea What I'm Doing! 23
3 Everything Depends on Me 31
4 I Want the Perfect Home 39
5 Who Am I, Anyway? 49
6 I Miss My Friends! 59
7 I Have to Be on Top of My Game 69
8 No One Appreciates All That I Do! 79
9 I Hate This Stage of Life 89
10 It's Time for Me! 99
11 I Hate to Fail 107
12 I Worry Constantly 119
13 Motherhood Is Robbing Me of 125
14 I Don't Know Who to Listen To! 135
15 I Can't See Where I'm Going! 147
16 I Need Some Alone Time 159
17 I Don't Have Enough Time Left 169
18 I Want to Make a Difference 179
19 I Want to Enjoy the Journey 187
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Written by a stay-at-home mom, this book is all about the challenges and rewards of motherhood. There are chapters on mothers feeling adequate, measuring up, and raising successful children. So many women can feel inferior without a job outside of being a mom. Then there are those women who struggle to make dinner and laundry on time, take kids to events, and have time alone with the husband. Since I am a single woman not in the season of motherhood, I could not relate to a lot in the book. Still, I found the overall message that one is complete in God to be nice. Don't find your value in being a mom, a businesswoman, a spouse, a chef, or anything else. Simply find your value in God and the rest will fall into place. I should note that this book is written from a Christian perspective, so there are lots of references to Jesus and the New Testament in it. While I'm not a mom, I do think it is important for women to choose who they have children with properly. So many people are living less than because they were not exposed properly to love in the home. There are children who are products of divorce, children with abusive / alcoholic parents, children who were not planned and seen as a burden, etc. While I do believe anyone can rise out of bad circumstances, I do acknowledge that such people will have a late start in life and miss out on many important aspects of a pure and holy childhood. Don't just marry anybody and don't just have children with anybody. Choose someone who embodies love, is a good example for children, and will raise a productive member of society.
The Better Mom June 01, 2018 The secret to a becoming a happier, healthier mom? It's not what you'd think. I was given this book free for the purpose of an honest review. Ruth Schwenk is a pastor's wife in full-time ministry for almost 20 years, mom for four energetic children, lover of coffee and a graduate of Moody Bible Institute. She is speaking from personal experience not book knowledge or hearsay. The Better Mom is not what you think. It does not mean you have to be supermom or something so absurd that is not practical. But rather some foundational elements to be the Mom God intended for you to be. She gives a foundation of personal value to Mom, through confidence and personal development. I have read many books for mom, wife, helper, family etc. but this one is well written, honest and encouraging. As Mom we can do guilt well and often feel alone but Ruth Schwenk gave hope and purpose to me personally and will to you as well. Ruth has also developed a worldwide community of women who together, are striving to be better moms. You will be able to access her site as well.
Motherhood is messy. Motherhood is tough. Motherhood is exhausting. Every single mother can attest to those truths. But at the heart of this book, Ruth wants every mother out there to hear the message that "God calls us not to a weary life but a worthy life. " Ruth is a mother of four, so she knows what it's like to be in the trenches of motherhood. But she has learned not just how to survive it, but to grow through it and in her awesome book, she shares all the lessons she learned along the way! It's a great read, every mother should read it to glean her wisdom!