Can a wife single-handedly bring a boring or broken marriage back to life? This improved and expanded edition of Laura Doyle’s acclaimed First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors features real-life success stories from empowered wives who have done just thatand provides a step-by-step guide to revitalizing your own marriage.
Laura Doyle’s marriage was in trouble, and couples counseling wasn’t helping. On the brink of divorce, she decided to talk to women who’d been happily married for over a decade, and their advice stunned her. From it, she distilled Six Intimacy Skillswoman-centric practices that ended her overwhelm and resentment, restoring the playfulness and passion in her marriage.
Now an internationally-recognized relationship coach, Doyle has shared her secrets with women around the globe, saving thousands of marriages with her fresh, revolutionary approach.
Practical and counter-intuitive, the Six Intimacy Skills are about focusing on your own desires and transforming your own lifenot bending over backwards to transform your husband.
Incorporating these skills will empower you to:
Attract his attention like a magnet when you relax more and do less
Receive affection not because you told him to make more of an effort, but because he naturally seeks you out
Feel more like yourselfand like yourself more
If you’ve been trying to “fix” your relationship and it’s not working, maybe the problem was never you, or your husband, or even the two of you as a couple. Maybe the problem is that nobody ever taught you the skills you need to foster respect, tenderness, and consideration.
With humor and heart, The Empowered Wife shows you how to improve your relationship in ways you hadn’t thought possible. You’ll join a worldwide community of over 150,000 empowered wives who finally have the marriages they dreamed of when they said “I do.”
|Publisher:||BenBella Books, Inc.|
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About the Author
Laura Doyle is a New York Times bestselling author whose books have been translated into 16 languages and published in 27 countries. Over 50,000 women credit her with not only saving their relationships, but also showing them how to become desired, cherished, and adored for life.
She is the founder of Laura Doyle Connect, a multi-national company that provides relationship coaching and programs for single women, girlfriends, and wives all over the world. She has appeared on CBS Evening News, Dateline NBC, The Today Show and The View. Articles about Laura have appeared in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, The London Telegraph and The New Yorker. She is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post.
Laura lives in Newport Beach, California, with her hilarious husband John Doyle, who has been dressing himself since before she was born.
Table of Contents
Prologue: The Breakdown before the Breakthrough xi
Quiz: Can You Tell the Good Relationship Advice from the Bad Advice? xix
1 Empowerment Wears a Disguise 1
2 Wives, Marriage Is Up to You 13
The Six Intimacy Skills™
Skill #1 Replenish Your Spirit with Self-Care 23
3 You Are Not a Smaller, Less-Hairy Man 25
4 The More You Know What You Want, the Better 33
5 Express Your Desires in a Way That inspires 43
6 Happy Wives Phone a Friend 53
Skill #2 Restore Respect 59
7 What Were You Thinking When You Said Yes to the Dress? 61
8 Your Husband Doesn't Want Your Opinion 71
9 Why Wives Cause Most Divorces and What to Do Instead 79
10 Your Husband Is Smarter Than You Think 87
11 Pretend You Love Your Husband More Than Your Children 95
12 Dishonesty Is the Best Policy 103
Skill #3 Relinquish Control of Your Man 109
13 Stay on Your Own Paper 111
14 Communication is Overrated 119
15 Top 10 Ways to Control Your Husband (None of These Work) 127
16 Get Him to Do More by Doing Less 137
17 Your Husband Is Better with Money Than You Are 147
Skill #4 Receive, Receive, Receive! 158
18 How to Get More Gifts, Compliments, and Help 161
Skill #5 Reveal Your Heart with Vulnerability 173
19 What Made Your Man Fall for You (and Still Melts Him Every Time) 175
20 The Myth of Verbal Abuse 187
21 How to Get off the Fence and Be Happy about It 193
22 Why Sex Is Better When You're Married (and What to Do if It's Not) 201
Skill #6 Refocus Your View with Gratitude 211
23 The Most Powerful Intimacy Skill of All 213
24 The Power of the Spouse-Fulfilling Prophecy 219
25 Ending World Divorce 227
About the Author 234
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This book had me in tears by the time I was near the end of reading it in its entirety. I could relate to every story that was shared in this book. I was on the brink of ending my marriage to an amazing man who was my best friend for many years prior to becoming my boyfriend and adventually becoming my husband. I had forgotten why I had falling in love with this man because he had become so distant and hurtful that I became scared and guarded. For years on a roller coaster ride of ups and downs I began searching for answers as to how we became so unhappy when we vowed to love and cherish one another for life. After reading this book my eyes are completely wide open now, I understand what's happened over the years and I am forever grateful to Laura as well as my counselor for wanting to help couples save their marriage from divorce. I am a women of strong faith and I believe God lead me to two beautiful and amazing women that would help me find my way back, to a happy and healthy marriage. Thank you so much, from the bottom of my heart!!!
I have tried, researched and read many articles from other coaches like her, but none connected to me and to the woman in me as she did and as this book did. I didn’t agree with EVERYTHING in the book, but I took away almost all her lessons. They gave me a new perspective on marriage and on my behavior in general. I was already doing some of the skills, but not to their full potential and maybe not understanding them and knowing how to apply them. I had many “aha” moments where I came to realize what my faults were, where I went wrong and why my previous actions backfired on my marriage. My husband and I have been together 21 years married for almost 12 years and the thought of not being with him devastates me. Not that I need him but because I want him. He is an amazing man. I have hope now. I’ve put away my tears. It’s time to work towards being The Empowered Wife I know I can be.