The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives

by Rebekah Lyons, Gabe Lyons

Overview

An insightful, powerful path forward for couples, whether you're in a struggling marriage or simply looking for ways to enhance and strengthen your relationship.

Marriage is hard for all kinds of reasons—financial struggles, parenting styles, personality differences, difficult circumstances. It's easy to drift apart, walking through life more as roommates than partners. But there's so much more for your marriage. The Fight for Us offers biblical wisdom and encouragement, as well as practical guidance, that will give you the confidence you need to cultivate the happy and healthy marriage you long for.

Rebekah and Gabe Lyons shepherd you as ones who have been there—many times—in their twenty-seven-year marriage, while also drawing on their mental-health coaching and marriage-counseling expertise to help you breathe new life into your marriage. The Fight for Us will guide you to:

• Discover why you fight, how you fight, and how to overcome toxic patterns to fight well
• Renew your commitment to love, care for, and show grace to your spouse
• Relinquish coping mechanisms and/or addictions that have come between you
• Understand your spouse's needs while still validating your own
• Establish goals and rhythms that will deepen your friendship and intimacy as a couple
• And, most of all, lean on the One who fights for you and your marriage

Whatever your reason for fighting for your marriage, The Fight for Us covers it all: community, health, money, parenting, career, sex, conflict, and spirituality. Your journey toward a growing, healthy, thriving marriage starts here.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310365440
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	04/22/2025
Pages:	272
Product dimensions:	5.80(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

Rebekah Lyons is a national speaker, host of the popular Rhythms for Life podcast, and bestselling author of Rhythms of Renewal, You Are Free, and Freefall to Fly. An old soul with a contemporary, honest voice, Rebekah reveals her own battles to overcome anxiety and build a healthy, thriving marriage—and invites couples to fight for and boldly pursue the marriage God has called them into. Alongside her husband, Gabe, Rebekah finds joy in raising four children, two of whom have Down syndrome. Her work has been featured on The TODAY Show, Good Morning America, CNN, FOX News, Publishers Weekly Starred Reviews, and more.

Gabe Lyons is the founder and president of THINQ Media, an organization that equips thought leaders to create conversations that lead to wisdom in every area of society. Gabe is the host of the Under Current podcast and cohost of Rhythms for Life with his wife, Rebekah. His books include Good Faith: Being a Christian When Society Thinks You’re Irrelevant and Extreme (2016), The Next Christians: The Good News About the End of Christian America (2010), and un Christian: What a New Generation Really Thinks about Christianity…and Why It Matters (2007). Described as “sophisticated and orthodox” by the New York Times, Gabe’s work represents a timeless yet current perspective on faith’s role in culture and has been featured by CNN, the New York Times, Fox News, and USA Today. He and Rebekah, a bestselling author, national speaker and mental wellness expert, have four children and live in Franklin, Tennessee.

Editorial Reviews

This is a rare marriage book. It's not just written; it's lived. In a world of head knowledge and research, we all want something that moves us beyond where we find ourselves. And we usually want to know there are people who have lived the hard, done the work, and come out on the other side more whole and joyful because of it. Gabe and Rebekah Lyons are that couple. This book will draw you in. You'll find yourself saying, 'That's us too!' And you'll receive practical tools to be a better 'us' for each other.

Josh and Christi Straub

We've seen the beauty and strength of Gabe and Rebekah Lyons' marriage, and it's nothing short of inspiring. In The Fight for Us, they share the raw truth of their struggles and the transformative power of God's principles for marriage. Every couple needs this book. It's a game changer for marriages in today's culture and much cheaper than marriage counseling. We couldn't recommend it more.

Willie and Korie Robertson

Gabe and Rebekah Lyons take an honest look at the sacredness and power in the words 'I do.' The words in this book bring vision, encouragement, and hope, reminding us of God's intention for the relationship between a man and a woman. By God's design, marriage is the foundation for a flourishing world. These two are unmatched in how they lead in truth and love through their vulnerability.

Grammy-winning worship artist Chris and Lauren Tomlin

We have been gleaning from Gabe and Rebekah Lyons for years through their events and writings, but over the past few years we've had the joy of establishing a relationship with them and walking through life together. We've listened to their vulnerable sharing about their marriage that has a depth of experience. They've been together long enough to speak with wisdom and not just storytelling. For several decades, they've developed healthy rhythms in marriage and parenting while wrestling with the challenges of building a marriage that thrives through sincerity and genuine kindness. Their raw honesty and playfulness bring an ease to the often daunting parts of marriage that most of us feel ill-equipped to face. Here they boil down years of academic research and counseling intensives into a concise framework of reflections to apply to our own journeys in marriage.

Hillary Scott Tyrrell and Chris Tyrrell

'How do we overcome unmet expectations? How can we learn to communicate better? Is a healthier marriage even possible?' If you've asked these questions, this book is for you. With biblical wisdom and relatable vulnerability, Gabe and Rebekah Lyons walk through how to recognize what divides you and work toward a thriving marriage in a way that leaves you excited and hopeful.

Madison Prewett and Grant Troutt

Accessible. Hopeful. Practical. Vulnerable. Compelling. Gabe and Rebekah Lyons have written a direly needed, profoundly helpful 'us' book that neither of you is going to want to put down, as every chapter opens up your marriage to a level of connection and intimacy you've always hoped for. This is more than a mere book; it is a marriage lifeline—for genuine thriving.

New York Times bestselling author; farmer Ann and Darryl Voskamp

We absolutely loved The Fight for Us. All-encompassing in topics, it constantly kept nudging us toward Jesus, and most of all, it feels like a marriage book written for the modern person facing all the difficulties of being a Christian and married today. The wisdom, humor, truth, and salience made this a book we couldn't put down. We'll be buying a boxful and handing them to any couple looking for an extra dose of help and encouragement.

Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke

Rebekah and Gabe Lyons been trusted friends for more than twenty years. Here they come alongside couples with fortifying and bolstering tools designed to carve out the wholehearted unions that God desires. Whether your relationship is in need a reminder, restoration, or full rescue, The Fight for Us, like a trusted field guide, will forge the way to a marriage that thrives.

Elisabeth and Tim Hasselbeck

The marriage of Gabe and Rebekah Lyons is a force for the kingdom, and The Fight for Us reflects their heart for God's design for marriage. Through their story, they've given us a guide to not just navigate conflict but to use it as a tool for deeper intimacy and partnership. Their faithfulness to each other and to Jesus shines brightly on every page.

Jonathan "JP" and Monica Pokluda

Gabe and Rebekah Lyons have courageously opened the door to their marriage journey, inviting us to learn from their struggles and triumphs. Their vulnerability, paired with practical wisdom, equips couples to not just survive but thrive in their marriages. The Fight For Us is a must-read for anyone who longs for a deeper, God-honoring connection with their spouse. Filled with humor and humility, it's not just a story; it's a map for healing and flourishing.

Benjamin and Kirsten Watson