The Miracle Moment: How Tough Conversations Can Actually Transform Your Most Important Relationships

The Miracle Moment: How Tough Conversations Can Actually Transform Your Most Important Relationships

by Nicole Unice
The Miracle Moment: How Tough Conversations Can Actually Transform Your Most Important Relationships

The Miracle Moment: How Tough Conversations Can Actually Transform Your Most Important Relationships

by Nicole Unice


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There’s a moment in every conversation that can change the whole relationship. A moment when you can either move toward the other person or away from them. Choose to break a negative cycle or continue it. Understand and be understood or remain confused and frustrated.

It’s the “miracle moment.” And once you learn how to recognize and respond to it, it holds the power to help transform the relationships you have—at home, in love, and at work—into the ones you really want.

In The Miracle Moment, Nicole Unice helps you discover the practical tools to
  • Learn to respect and respond to your emotions without letting them control you
  • Speak words that help—rather than hurt—the likelihood of your getting what you need
  • Identify and keep yourself safe from toxic people
  • Become comfortable setting and holding boundaries
  • Be your best self even when you’re tempted to shut up, blow up, or give up
Step into the space where miracles happen. Your miracle moments are waiting for you: moments of honesty; moments of healing; moments of renewal and lasting change.

(Don’t miss the companion Miracle Moment DVD Experience and Miracle Moment Participant’s Guide, perfect for small groups or individuals wanting to go deeper!)

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781496448552
Publisher: Tyndale Momentum
Publication date: 05/18/2021
Pages: 256
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.10(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Nicole Unice is a counselor and leadership coach. Through her books, speaking, and consulting. Nicole invites leaders and organizations to grow in courageous vulnerability in order to maximize both joy and success at home and work. She holds degrees from the College of William and Mary and from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary. Nicole and her husband, Dave, live in Virginia with their three children and two pups. Visit her online at

Table of Contents

Introduction: Miracles Still Happen 1

Chapter 1 Fighting for a Miracle 9

Chapter 2 The Making of a Miracle 15

Chapter 5 Positioning Yourself for a Miracle 31

Part 1 Mean What You Feel

Chapter 4 Why Feelings Are So Hard to Find 53

Chapter 5 True You: How to Become More Self-Aware 75

Part 2 Say What You Mean

Chapter 6 Seek to Understand 97

Chapter 7 Seek the Common Good 115

Chapter 8 Seek Restoration 137

Part 3 Do What You Say

Chapter 9 Boundaries: Shaping Your Yes and No 161

Chapter 10 When It Doesn't Get Better 183

Chapter 11 Failing Forward 207

Chapter 12 Integrity in Action 225

Acknowledgments 233

Notes 237

About the Author 241

What People are Saying About This

Alli Worthington

This book is a game changer for the way you see yourself and connect with the world. Nicole’s wisdom will help you take your relationships and your life to the next level. Miracles are waiting for you!

Ameerah Saine

The Miracle Moment is a miracle indeed. Nicole Unice has created the ultimate guide for navigating tough conversations. As a woman over forty, I’ve had more tough discussions than I can count. Often I’ve avoided people and conversations out of “kindness,” never knowing just how unkind my actions were. Nicole’s introduction and step-by-step guide to identifying our intentions and feelings prior to speaking is a game changer. After devouring Nicole’s new body of work, I’m armed with a plan and all I need to restore past relationships and future roadblocks.

Elisa Morgan

With solid advice and practical phrases to use in the middle of any argument, The Miracle Moment does exactly what it suggests: gives you the power to make miracles happen in your relationships.

Lisa G. Ould

As a counselor, one of the greatest needs I see in my clients is the desire for deep, life-giving conversations. Ironically, we often feel the need for this type of communication in the hard places of pain and conflict—the very places where we are most tempted to withdraw from one another. Each chapter in The Miracle Moment is full of concrete teaching, engaging illustrations, and practical steps of application to help us move toward tough conversations with the people close to us. These tools can help us have more authentic conversations that will strengthen, rather than destroy, our most meaningful relationships.

Tyler Reagin

When many of us think about miracle moments, it’s usually through the lens of something happening to us. What I love about Nicole’s approach and coaching style is that she has witnessed how important it is for leaders to move in order for miracle moments to happen. We can’t just sit back and wait for them. Miracles happen when we look inside and put ourselves in position to experience them!

David M. Bailey

Navigating conflict is an essential tool as long as you are dealing with human beings, yet most people don’t prepare and practice for conflict! Nicole has masterfully given us a start-to-finish practical guide for navigating the inevitable.

Jenni Catron

Too many leaders underestimate the importance of tough conversations. They either avoid them or they insensitively barrel through them, blind to their own feelings and motivations, and often completely unaware of the impact on the relationships in their lives. Nicole’s experience as a counselor, pastor, and coach powerfully equips you with the tools to have healthy and honest conversations that lead to true miracle moments.

Eryn Eddy

As you walk into a room of hard questions and tough conversations, Nicole invites you closer to see where grace exists. Her honesty and pursuit of truth refresh your soul and give you hope.

Gabriel Smith

The most challenging spaces in life and leadership are relationships. In this must-read for leaders everywhere, Nicole Unice delivers a just-in-time, practical pathway to navigate the conversations we dread most. Nicole’s unique ability to weave timeless wisdom with relevant stories provides a relatable and powerful tool for leaders in every walk of life.

Steve Perkins

We all know that one conversation we really should have but don’t. We sabotage the relationships that could be most fulfilling and impactful because we don’t know how to say what needs to be said. Nicole provides wise perspective and a practical approach to engaging in difficult conversations that are balanced with truth and grace—a powerful combination we often forget to use.

Pastor Don Coleman

Nicole Unice gives us the principles and tools we need to navigate the challenge of living in healthy relationships. Yet The Miracle Moment is so vulnerable, honest, and relevant that once you’ve read it, you’ll want to keep it close (for regular reference) so you stay positioned for more miracle moments in your life. This book would be relevant in the White House, not to mention boardrooms, offices, churches, kitchen tables, bedrooms, backyards, and front porches!

Joseph Bowers

Nicole has artfully distilled her experience as therapist, coach, and pastor into a chairside companion designed to help you navigate conflict with integrity while setting and holding boundaries. The book is a treasure of stories and exercises designed to resolve dilemmas. Nicole has been a blessing in my career with her ability to reframe/reconsider situations, and her expertise shines through in this book.

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