Table of Contents
Foreword xi
Introduction 1
Success Versus Excellence 3
Don't Sacrifice the Gift 4
The Pursuit 5
Why? 6
Part I The Build
1 Purpose Mindset 11
It's About Growth 14
Self-Audit 16
"This Is a Process" 18
Change Your Mind 20
Choose Transformational Relationships 22
Build Through Dialogue 25
2 Focus and Discipline 31
3.9 and 4 Flat 33
What Is Your Wall? 34
Hold onto the Fishing Pole 37
Show Up Consistently 39
Learn the Smalt Stuff to Do the Big Stuff 41
No Cheap Tricks 43
Moki Martin: The Lesson of the Sugar Cookie 44
Consistency: Keep Hammering 46
If You're Not Embarrassed. You Waited Too Long … 48
3 Resistance 51
January 1 Is the Next Day 53
Progress Happens in Uncertain Times 56
The Pain of the Process Is the Point 57
The Handstand Coach 59
Surviving the Hanoi Hilton 62
Keep Taking One More Step 64
Mortals Don't Get to Determine Your Fate 65
Part II The Fuel
4 What Lights You Up 69
Love Versus Will 70
Die Empty 72
Get Out of the Sand 73
The Most Useless Question 75
Find Your Edison 78
Turn Your Flywheel 80
5 The Power of Others 83
A Tale of Two Coaches 86
Stack the Deck 89
How to Ask 91
The Unknown Unknowns 93
The Full 360 95
Listen to Comprehend 97
Learning as a Competitive Advantage 98
6 The Confidence Flex 101
Your Mental Muscle 103
Sasha Fierce 104
No Discounting Allowed 107
Meet the Moment 108
Act When Others Are Scared 110
Build Charisma 111
The Value of Admiration 113
Part III The Chase
7 Making the Commitment 119
Opportunity Is Not a Lengthy Visitor 120
A Sparkling Pocket of Greatness 122
Stand Out and Speak Up 125
The Shape of a Laugh 127
Adapt Like the Frog 129
It Starts with How You See Yourself 131
8 Building Your Band 135
Make Trust Your Opening Bid 137
Stay Away from the Poison 139
Never Stifle a Generous Impulse 141
Practice Generosity. Humility, and Vulnerability 144
Smile 145
Be Punctual 146
Listen with Your Eyes 149
Create Your Junto 151
9 It's a Lifelong Pursuit 155
The Good Fortune of Knowing Nothing 157
Personal Mastery 159
What's Under Your Pillow? 160
The Feynman Technique 161
Step Back to Move Forward 163
The Dinner Table 166
Excellence Takes Time 168
Conclusion 171
Accountability Is Required 173
Publish Your Work 175
Go to Camp 177
Be a Griot 179
Leave Fresh Tracks 180
Epilogue: "This I Believe" 183
Acknowledgments 187
Notes 191
Index 209