The Rhythm of Us: Create the Thriving Marriage You Long For

by Chris Graebe, Jenni Graebe

Overview

What does your marriage look like in your wildest dreams?

You know those couples who seem to truly thrive? The lucky ones who are somehow still wildly in love after decades of marriage? As it turns out, that kind of marriage isn’t just meant for a select few. The healthiest, happiest marriages share a transformational secret: intentional rhythms.

In The Rhythm of Us, Chris and Jenni Graebe invite you to discover what those core essential rhythms are, how they work, and the results they can have on your relationships if you choose to practice them. With real life examples and inspirational guidance, you’ll learn how to envision the marriage you long for, identify the ruts that are keeping you stuck, and bring your deepest passions and priorities to life in your relationship.

You don’t have to settle for a marriage that’s just skimming by. Starting today, you can create a rich, passionate, thriving marriage that will last a lifetime.

“It only takes a few minutes to realize that Jenni and Chris have a special relationship, and their advice and intentionality are a gift to other marriages. I’m so grateful for a resource that I can confidently pass along to others, knowing that it will quickly become a favorite!” —Angie Smith, bestselling author of Seamless

“This isn’t just another marriage book. This is an invitation . . . of the thriving marriage you long for. Chris and Jenni have placed some incredibly powerful tools in the hands of the reader, life-saving questions, practices, and rhythms that will have you dreaming of the marriage you desire and what it looks like to pursue that dream in the here and now.” —Christy Nockels, worship leader, songwriter, author of The Life You Long For

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781641582889
Publisher:	Tyndale House Publishers
Publication date:	11/16/2021
Pages:	224
Sales rank:	903,041
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.10(h) x (d)

About the Author

Chris & Jenni Graebe are lifelong learners intent on discovering the core rhythms of thriving relationships. Chris and Jenni are the cohosts of the Rhythm of Us podcast, where they interview countless couples to discover what makes relationships thrive. They live deep in the trees of Franklin, Tennessee, with their five children.

Table of Contents

Introduction: We Won't Get There by Accident 1

Part 1 Naming Where We Are 13

1 The Future Us: Starting with a Vision 15

2 In My Head: Falling Out of Rhythm 27

3 Letting Go: From Ruts to Rhythms 37

Part 2 The Core Rhythms 53

4 Words Matter: The Rhythm of Speaking Life 55

5 Team Us: The Rhythm of Serving 67

6 Step into the Painting: The Rhythm of Slowing Down 87

7 Stay Awake and Alive: The Rhythm of Seeking Adventure 101

8 Fresh Eyes: The Rhythm of Staying in Awe 131

Part 3 Finding Your Unique Rhythms 155

9 Uncover Your Values: Naming What Matters Most 157

10 Uncover Your Rhythm: Moving Toward Life-Giving Habits 163

11 Uncover Your Vision: Imagining the Future You 171

12 Putting It All Together: Craft Your Rhythm 175

Epilogue-A Brand-New Day: Grace for the Journey 181

A Blessing for the Journey 187

Journaling Pages 189

Acknowledgments 203

Notes 205

What People are Saying About This

Jeannie Cunnion

I absolutely love The Rhythm of Us. It’s inspiring. It’s empowering. It’s equipping. Jenni and Chris cast a clear vision for a thriving marriage that is biblical, beautiful, bountiful, and—because of grace—achievable. Written with an “us too,” not a “how to” tone, you’ll find yourself delightfully eager to create your own transforming “rhythm of us” with your spouse!

Alli Worthington

No matter where you are or what you’ve gone through, The Rhythm of Us is for you. It can help you make a good thing great or help raise a struggling relationship to a healthier rhythm. A must-read for any couple!

Andrew East

Chris and Jenni have written a must-read for any married couple. . . . The Rhythm of Us gives a practical road map for a thriving marriage. We loved it!

Melanie Shankle

I have always believed that marriage books are the hardest to write because anyone who is or has been married knows exactly how much work a good marriage requires. People want real answers and practical solutions to building a healthier, happier marriage and aren’t interested in a bunch of well-meaning platitudes or clichés. In The Rhythm of Us, Jenni and Chris Graebe have written what I truly believe is one of the greatest marriage books I have read. It’s honest and real, full of practical tips and exercises that will help strengthen your marriage and help you and your spouse grow closer as you learn how to find your rhythm as a couple. You will be challenged and encouraged as you turn each page of this book and end it feeling like you’ve just made a wise new couple friend you can’t wait to have over for dinner.

John and Stasi Eldredge

Chris and Jenni’s winsome book is chock-full of wisdom, complete with practical steps to help you find your way into the unique rhythms that will make your marriage flourish.

Katherine and Jay Wolf

Marriage has been the source of both our deepest struggles and our deepest healing. Chris and Jenni offer their own hard-won wisdom, reminding us our good/hard relationships are so worth fighting for.

Christy Nockels

This isn’t just another marriage book. The Rhythm of Us is an invitation—or maybe the word is activation—of the thriving marriage you long for. Chris and Jenni have placed some incredibly powerful tools in the hands of the reader, life-saving questions, practices, and rhythms that will have you dreaming of the marriage you desire and what it looks like to pursue that dream in the here and now.

Gabe and Rebekah Lyons

If marriages ever needed renewal, it’s now, and the path to renewal begins with rhythms. In The Rhythm of Us, Chris and Jenni warmly welcome us into their home, their struggles, and their committed journey to create a healthy marriage amid the demands of life, children, and never-ceasing distractions. We love this book and believe it will encourage you to stay the course, get creative, and find a vision of “us” that brings out the best in your marriage.

Courtney DeFeo

I have always admired Chris and Jenni and their obvious connection. After reading this book, I understand why they are one special couple: Their marriage is clearly based in healthy rhythms! It’s a must-read for any couple that is seeking a great marriage. I love this practical and profound guide for a great marriage. I’m so thankful Chris and Jenni have shared their secret sauce with all of us! This is an excellent resource for any couple just beginning or those married for many years. This admirable couple understands the ups and downs of marriage and offers a profound yet practical way to grow together through healthy rhythms.

Meshali Mitchell

No matter your season, married or single, this book is for you! It’s a brilliant guide on creating rhythms for a healthy, life-giving marriage. God’s desire for us is strong relationships, and this book gives amazing tools on how to cultivate, nurture, and protect that.

Angie Smith

It only takes a few minutes to realize that Jenni and Chris have a special relationship, and their advice and intentionality are a gift to other marriages. We’re all trying to figure out a rhythm that allows us to thrive as individuals, spouses, and families—and this book will be invaluable as we navigate the days and years to come. I’m so grateful for a resource that I can confidently pass along to others, knowing that it will quickly become a favorite!

Kay Wyma

Jenni and Chris welcome us into real-life relationship, opening the conversation to everyone from a his and her—as well as an us—perspective. This isn’t a right-way or a do-this-and-get-that handbook but an invitation to learn about, practice, and lean into relationship rhythms that are as powerful as they are gentle. The Rhythm of Us addresses marriage, but its insight and tips prove beneficial to all our relationships.

Mark and Jan Foreman

The Rhythm of Us comes through a distinct door that separates it from most writings on marriage. It’s not only biblical and honest but is actually doable. The Rhythm of Us gives us practical handles to see our marriages transformed. These pages create what the Graebes call “Team Us,” igniting the next exciting chapter of any marriage.