Dr. Gary Chapman has helped millions prepare for marriage.
Now he helps you prepare for kids.
Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents has one goal: prepare you to raise young children.
Dr. Gary Chapman—longtime relationship expert and author of the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages—teams up with Dr. Shannon Warden—professor of counseling, wife, and mother of three—to give young parents a book that is practical, informed, and enjoyable.
Together they share what they wished they had known before having kids. For example: children affect your time, your money, and your marriage—and that's just the beginning. With warmth and humor they offer practical advice on everything from potty training to scheduling, apologizing to your child, and keeping your marriage strong… all the while celebrating the great joy that children bring.
From the Preface: "Our desire is to share our own experiences, as well as what we have learned through the years, as we have counseled hundreds of parents. We encourage you to read this book before the baby comes, and then refer to its chapters again as you experience the joys and challenges of rearing children." — Dr. Gary Chapman
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About the Author
DR. SHANNON WARDEN is an assistant teaching professor at Wake Forest University where she teaches in the graduate counseling program. She is also the director of counseling and director of women's ministries at Triad Baptist Church in Kernersville, North Carolina. As a professional counselor, Shannon has counseled children, families, young adults, women, and couples since 1998 and has served as an assistant to Dr. Gary Chapman since 2003. Shannon is married to Stephen Warden and they have three children.
Table of Contents
Introduction: I Wish I'd Known… 13
Chapter 1 That Having Children Radically Changes Your Schedule 19
Chapter 2 That Children Are Expensive 31
Chapter 3 That No Two Children Are Alike 45
Chapter 4 That Potty Training Is No Laughing Matter 59
Chapter 5 That Children Need Boundaries 71
Chapter 6 That Children's Emotional Health Is as Important as Physical Health 85
Chapter 7 That Children Are Greatly Influenced by Our Model 101
Chapter 8 That Sometimes Parents Need to Apologize 115
Chapter 9 That Social Skills Are as Important as Academic Skills 131
Chapter 10 That Parents Are Responsible for Their Child's Education 147
Chapter 11 That Marriages Do Not Thrive on Autopilot 163
Chapter 12 That Children Can Bring You Great Joy 177
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Yet again, Gary Chapman delivers a solid and practical resource for life. Together with Dr. Shannon Warner, Dr. Chapman prepares couples to become parents by exploring topics and questions he (Chapman) would like to have known before having children. Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents should be given to every married couple preparing to expand their family through birth or adoption. Chapman and Warner write honestly; they present possible struggles realistically, but they also recognize the immense joy and satisfaction that can come from raising children. The discussion questions included with each chapter are thorough and creative. Some of the discussions and activities prompted by these questions will likely be remembered long after the reader puts down the book. For instance, my husband and I read Chapman’s Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married several years ago and we still reminisce about one of the discussion questions we talked about at that time. Additionally, while culture, including Christian culture, emphasizes preparation for children in the realm of fashionable nurseries, do-it-yourself baby food and baby toys, and gift registries, Chapman and Warner present content for new parents. This reality-check content is often overlooked in the midst of social media, pictures, and dreams. I highly recommend Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Became Parents. Even though I do not have children, I think the questions Chapman highlights encourage honest discussion between husband and wife that would be beneficial for any marriage. Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in order to write an honest, unbiased review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.