Untangled: Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life

Untangled: Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life

by Carey Scott


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All women want to feel is valued. But problems arise when we seek confirmation that we are enough using the world's standards. Almost from birth, we are trained to find the approval and acceptance we crave in the eyes of family, friends, and even strangers. The result is that we cannot believe we are who God says we are—accepted, loved, beautiful, and treasured. We get tangled up in the world's assessment and our own self-judgment.

With hope-filled writing and plenty of hard-won personal advice, Carey Scott shows women how to untangle their self-esteem from the world and anchor it in Jesus. She lovingly shows readers that God was intentional in how he made them and that he is well pleased with his work. Women will learn practical strategies to escape unattainable standards and the performance-based measuring stick of the world, and find comfort in the fact that they are not alone on the journey.

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ISBN-13: 9780800726591
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 06/02/2015
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 520,281
Product dimensions: 5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Carey Scott is an author, speaker, and certified Bible life coach who challenges women to be real—not perfect—even when real is messy. She speaks to women's groups and writes an online devotional designed to help women be who God created them to be. She lives in Colorado with her husband and their two children.

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Untangled: Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 17 reviews.
Theophilusfamily More than 1 year ago
Every woman has a tangle or two in her life- a knot in her heart that keeps her from living fully free. Sometimes the knots are made of tiny threads, and sometimes they seem to be chains forged from steel. Some knots can be untied quickly, a words of guidance or encouragement amid a hard day will suffice. The harder knots may require bolt-cutters: God's grace and much human wisdom. Whatever knot is wrapped around your heart, whatever sort of tangle is cutting off your flow of life, Carey Scott believes that it can be undone. Now, she doesn't have a five-step process for taking the scissors to your knots. And she doesn't pretend that we can change the past or remove all traces of its troubles. She has, however, seen what can happen when a woman decides to deal with her tangles. There can be remarkable, good change in her life. Carey addresses some of the specific strings that can trip us up, drawing from her own experiences. We can get tangled in all manner of expectations. We can get tied up in performance. We can get tied up in presenting our appearance. Oh, how we need a sisterly guide to help us find ourselves safe in Jesus, and to encourage us to share our hearts with others. You may find moments of such guidance in "Untangled." I thank Revell Publishing for providing me with a review copy.
RMMcDowell More than 1 year ago
I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. I need to be skinnier, prettier, funnier. Life is full of "not enoughs" and "-ers" that will tangle us up into a knotted mess. In Untangled, Carey Scott shares her own life's journey--and the journeys of other women--as they step back and allow God to untangle the knots into smooth cords of beauty. We weren't created to focus on the ways we fall short. And we weren't created to compare ourselves to the women around us who might be better cooks, chaperones, athletes, mothers, wives, employees--the list goes on and on. We have one standard, and one place from which to draw our worth, and there is great news! He thinks you're amazing. And He wants you to see that too. In Untangled, He gave Carey the words to share practical ways to break through the lies and the ways Satan tries to tangle even our good desires. Carey offers stories, strategies, Scripture references, practical questions, and a prayer to help women navigate marriage, singleness, motherhood, friendship, work, and even social media. This book will have a treasured spot on my nightstand as I pray through my day with the reminder that I truly am worthy of love...just because God created me that way. I received this book from Revell through the Revell Reads Blog Tour program in exchange for my honest thoughts. I was not required to write a positive review.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
God is transforming me because Carey has shared her story about her insecurities in Untangled. It was easy for me to read because she writes with humor and candor. Although my life is so different from Carey’s, I still relate to her story. It’s given me powerful, life-changing insights about my insecurities, some of which I hadn’t previously recognized. Because of this book, I’ve also been prompted to have some thought provoking discussions with friends about our insecurities. I wish all of my girl friends would read Untangled! I think this book would be excellent for two friends or a small group of women to read and discuss. I also would use it as a basis to mentor a younger woman so that I could better share my journey and what I wish I had known when I was their age.  I wanted to share my experience about reading Untangled only because of the positive impact this book has had in my life. I've known Carey for years, so I've watched as she has let God transform her. When she asked me to share my story in Untangled, I didn't hesitate to participate. I was privileged to be able to read Untangled just before it was officially "on the shelves." I would have purchased a copy; however, because I shared my story and I was in a group of early readers, the publisher gave me several copies of the book. I wanted to share my experience about reading Untangled only because of the positive impact this book has had in my life. I've known Carey for years, so I've watched as she has let God transform her. When she asked me to share my story in Untangled, I didn't hesitate to participate. I was privileged to be able to read Untangled just before it was officially "on the shelves." I would have purchased a copy; however, because I shared my story and I was in a group of early readers, the publisher gave me several copies of the book
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wow! What a vulnerable book that is written straight from the heart. I loved how the book launched so deep so fast - thrusting you into the raw emotions of real life. And all along the way - pointing right back to the source of healing and encouragement. It feels so good to know that we are not alone on the journey as Carey eloquently spells out what many of us think and don't have the courage to admit. So grateful for this story - His story in the midst of real life. Carey's testimony of untangling is one that every woman can relate to and this book has stirred my heart to dig dipper into my own tangles and allow God to speak Life in fresh ways. What a courageous book! What a beautiful story.
Kelly_Stanley More than 1 year ago
When I struggle, it's more often with pride than with insecurity. And deep down, I didn't think this book would really apply to me, but I was happy to read it anyway. One of the great things about God is that He doesn't shout to the corners of the earth "You are WRONG!" every time that we are wrong. Thank goodness. Because, like usual, well, I was wrong. And like usual, God gave me the opportunity to see what I needed to understand about myself—and the grace to face it. In the intro, Carey Scott says this: "But in my midthirties God's voice became louder than my brokenness." And I thought, wow, what a perfect way to say what I've learned to be true. Then she shares with complete openness the most vulnerable parts of her story and her inner self, and she walks through the different "I'm not good enough" messages that I think we've all experienced—even though our circumstances and situations may be very different, at their core, our doubts and fears are very similar. As I mentioned, I don't feel like I struggle much with insecurity. Somehow I've always believed the fact that in spite of all of my failings and inadequacies, God wants me. Yes, I'm overweight; no, I don't care enough to say no to that donut or get up early to go work out. Yes, I know I've messed up plenty. But I don't have the emotional energy to beat myself up for it, so I usually let it go. In many ways, I've grasped the message Carey offers to all of us: that the only way to see ourselves is with the generosity and grace that God gives us. But along the way, I have certainly had my moments. Untangled revealed to me that I live with those not-good-enough moments much more than I ever knew. I’ve allowed shame to permeate my thoughts. I feel jealousy for other writers who have bigger followings and more book sales. I battle insecurity about my weight, about my personality, about my relationships and my financial and professional positions. And the book also reminded me of some monumentally valuable (and easily overlooked) truths. In spite of it all, He wants us. He loves us. He welcomes us in, allows us to nestle safely under His wing, warmed by His love, transformed by His power.  As Carey wrote, “Even when you mess up, he sees who you are instead of what you've done. Those seasons where you made bad choice after bad choice mixed with bad choice (yeah, that one) didn't scare him off. His perfect love for you never wavered. And even better, there is nothing you can do, more or less, to alter that truth in any way.” She's right. Absolutely right. And I bet that you have struggled with some of the same feelings of self-worth described in her book. You don't feel like you measure up against that supermom. In your marriage. In your career. In your friendships. In your gifts and in how they're received. You wonder if you've done enough for your kids and how they will measure up against others. If your husband truly still finds you attractive. If you'd be prettier, or more desirable, or more successful if you could just lose that weight. If you will make enough money for the things you want. If someone else could do it—whatever it is—better. You wonder if you're enough. The short answer: yes, you are. For the slightly longer answer, pick up a copy of Untangled. And while you're at it, grab one for every other woman in your life, too. You will all be changed for the better by it. I received a free copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.
VicG More than 1 year ago
Carey Scott in her new book, “Untangled” published by Revell gives us Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life. From the Back Cover: Think you’ll never measure up? Think again. We all want to feel valued. We crave approval and acceptance in the eyes of family, friends, and even strangers. But when we seek confirmation that we are enough using the world’s standards, it seems like we always fall short. As a result, we cannot believe we are who God says we are–accepted, loved, beautiful, and treasured. With hope-filled writing and plenty of hard-won personal advice, Carey Scott teaches you how to untangle your self-esteem from the world and anchor it in Jesus. She lovingly shows you that God was intentional in how he made you–and that he is pleased with his work. You’ll learn practical strategies to escape the unattainable standards of our performance-based world. And you’ll find comfort in the fact that you are not alone on the journey. Let’s face it we are all tangled. There are parts of us that are all tangled up and need a lot of help to untangle and be straight again. Ms. Scott understands about our entanglements and she dedicates nine chapters to different things that entangle us. Spouse, Kids, Friends, Social Media and Success are just some of what she addresses. And her final chapter is God can untangle anything we give Him. If you want to be smoothed out and trouble-free then this is the book for you. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Revell. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
Readanygoodbookslately More than 1 year ago
Untangled, Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life by Carey Scott was inspiring and life changing.  Scott's transparency gave me the freedom to release hidden feelings of insecurity I have carried since childhood.  I have always been a pleaser, but have never felt like I measured up.  I want people to be happy.  I want to live up to expectations that I place on myself and that I allow others to place on me.  I know that this is not what I am supposed to feel.  As a born-again Christian I know that the only standard I should set for myself it to do what God's wants me to do.  However, knowing this and doing it are two very different things.  I found comfort in knowing that I am not alone in this struggle.  I am learning to untangle my self-esteem from worldly expectations.  I am practicing strategies that will help me realize that I will never attain the standards that our "performance-based world" sets for us all.  Carey Scott uses this book to point readers to the only "Perfect One."  I highly recommend this book for everyone, but especially for anyone who struggles with self-esteem. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Fighting the Mommy Wars I consider myself a pretty secure person because Jesus gave his life for mine and I am able to rest in his love for me. Because I am pretty strong willed (and passed that lovely trait on to my daughter) when someone else has a idea or response that clashes with my own I can tend to think like Taylor Swift and shake it off and not be worried that I'm doing something wrong. But, there are certain people, mostly family, whose opinion I value highly and it bothers me a lot when I think I am disappointing them. I thought reading this book might help me untangle my self esteem from the opinion of others. I was immediately turned off and distressed by the first chapter and had to put the book down for a few days. I considered not even finishing it. The author shared a very personal account of sexual abuse by a stranger when she was four years old. She told it as a letter of forgiveness to man who abused her and included specific details that gave me more information than I felt like I needed know as a reader to understand her situation. I have a very sensitive heart and mind and am easily disturbed by TV shows or books that are violent or graphic, particularly against women and children. I know I can't watch CSI without having nightmares or just getting more paranoid about being victimized and then not trusting the Lord. So, while she needed to give her background for the reader to understand where her insecurity had it's roots, for me personally it was too much. Fortunately I picked the book up again a few days later and really benefited from it. Her main idea is that our hearts are a tangled mess, beat up, black and blue as pictured on the cover. She starts by discussing women throughout the Bible who were also tangled messes and how their actions were a result of the hurts they felt. She moves on to how our insecurities as women get tangled up by our own expectations, in marriage, as a mom, in our identity in the home, girlfriends, social media and success. Plenty of areas for us to dive in and explore where our worth gets tangled up. I most appreciated the chapter on motherhood and how we often try to find our worth in our kids and how 'well' we are doing as a mom. When we are seeking for them to give us value, the stakes for success are a lot higher. And when we are trying to find our worth in how we do as Moms, let the Mommy Wars begin! If the choices we make for our family have to prove that we are good enough then we are going to defend those choices, and promote those choices to others and then judge others who don't make the same choices as we have. We seem to all be competing against each other to make ourselves feel better about our choices. I was blessed by her chapter on domestic disappointment and a phrase she adopted to help her untangle her self-worth from the state of her home. "I want my house to be clean enough that it's healthy, but dirty enough that we can live happy." As I read the book I realized that even though I may consider myself pretty secure in my worth, in some areas I still get tangled up and I need to continually remind myself that my worth is not in what I do, what I look like, or my success and failures. It was a helpful read but I would suggest anyone with a sensitive spirit skip the letter in the first chapter.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
 Tangle's Exposed!!! What and incredible book that takes a magnifying glass to the insecurities and wounds that tangle us in our lives. Many of us already know what entangles us (or we think we do) however; Carey helps us look a little deeper. Our tangles, ex. shame, we think we understand. Our general thought is …. that we don't like something we did or how we did it and we feel bad about it. Carey explains what shame really is "the feeling OF BEING something wrong." (That goes against God's Word and creates a huge lie in our belief system about ourselves.) Deep insight was given on how this tangle can affect so many areas of our life. Carey takes a closer look at what we "think" we understand or know by sharing practical examples of what specific tangles can look like and how we can recognize their workings in our attitude and behaviors. Not only are we continually hurt by these tangles they deeply effect how we view the Lord and His working in our life. Thank you Carey for being vulnerable and honest about the hard realities of life that can produce huge, painful tangles and how God wants to free us from each and everyone!!
CindiM More than 1 year ago
I LOVED this book!!! Carey has a very real, relatable, witty & knowledgable way of writing. She shares her personal stories in a way that I could easily relate to. I felt this book came to me at the perfect time! I had been feeling that I was being called to be healed from past abuses and the resulting life tangles.   This was a great tool in helping to aid in that process. Much kudos and love to Carey! <3
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Untangled is a must-read this summer! Not because it is a fluffy summer novel, but because the contents of its pages will grant freedom to women everywhere and build a sense of solidarity among us. We, as women, are so tangled up in our insecurities. As Carey weaves her stories and experiences with easy-to-understand, modern versions of scripture, I saw myself and I laughed, got teary, and cried ugly. Carey is a straight-shooter. She shares honestly and vulnerably. She inspires me to be honest with myself and with you (on social media). Heck, she inspires me to be me because God created me! Read this book and reclaim your true self from all the insecurities that have tangled you up all your life!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
When talking of untangling the knots of insecurity in your life, Carey Scott talks with the authority of someone who has lived it. She has clearly experienced the pain and trauma that breeds insecurity. And yet, she has lived to talk about it and share it with us.  Carey shares her personal stories of heartache. She pulls in scripture to prove that the insecurities that keep women tied in knots are nothing but lies from the enemy. Carey is transparent and never once makes us feel like she's 'arrived' or that we should feel as though we, the reader, are 'not enough.' I can tell that Carey's faith is as authentic and genuine as her writing.
mom_wife_soldier More than 1 year ago
I thought this book would be interesting to read. However, I was skeptical about how helpful it would be. It didn't take but two chapters to find I was wrong. Carey is very honest in her writing which makes it easy for you to relate to. Just when you are ready to cry because of the truth you now realize in your life, her humor kicks in and she has you laughing instead. I also enjoyed that every chapter has a short perspective from another woman not just Carey, specific bible verses and questions to help you walk through the process of untangling. I will be recommending this book to other women. I just won't let them borrow my copy as I will be rereading it again and again.
MelissaGH More than 1 year ago
5A must read for everyone! ByMelissa Hendersonon May 20, 2015 Format: Paperback This new book by Carey Scott helps us find places in our lives that need to be "Untangled". Carey uses everyday life experiences along with Biblical scripture that enables the reader to easily relate. Carey gives encouragement to us all. I am so glad that I read this book. Carey Scott has great things to share. :-)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Carey Scott masterfully unravels each of the tangles we women can't help but find our way into. With her relatable voice and compassionate heart, she gently guides readers away from such struggles while loosening the knots we desperately want to break free from. A must-read!
JViola79 More than 1 year ago
In her book, Untangled: Let God Loosen the Knots of Insecurity in Your Life, Carey Scott addresses this battle for approval and acceptance. She writes very candidly of her own struggles which stemmed from childhood expriences. But the struggle with insecurity did not end until she was way into her adult life. Life can be difficult and being creatures filled with varied emotions, our thoughts and emotions can often and quickly become a tangled mess. But how to untangle them is where we need direction and focus. We need to come to the place of recognizing we each have been created uniquely and purposely. God has given us gifts to use specifically where He has placed us both in time and location. His desire is for us to be a blessing to those around us and for them to see His light in and through our lives. At the end of its chapter, each tangle, comes equipped with applicable Scriptures to be learned and memorized, a prayer, and questions which are excellent for both self-evaluation and group discussions. We can become women who escape the unattainable standards of perfection set by the world around us. *** I received a copy of this book from Revell for review purposes. The opinions expressed in this review are my own.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
We are not designed to compare ourselves to anyone but Christ who is meant to be our standard. Yet, we entangle ourselves in comparisons....to other women, to other daughters and sisters and mothers and professionals. These entanglements can trip us up and bind us to a never ending trap of comparison and insecurity. In Untangled, Carey Scott offers hard-won truths on overcoming the past and weaving a healthier 'present' in dependence on prayer, Scripture and relationship with the Creator of the universe. Carey shares her heart with vulnerability and provides practical help in untangling ourselves from the comparison game. At the end lf the chapters, she asks thought provoking questions appropriate to personal reflection and/or group discussion. I look forward to allowing God to untangle some emotional and spiritual tangles I have allowed to restrict my freedom thanks to this book.