Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

by Ada Calhoun


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Seven essays celebrating the beauty of the imperfect marriage.

We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clichés around marriage—eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates—leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse’s mistakes, you might miss being single.

In Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which “the first twenty years are the hardest.”

Calhoun’s funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. “What a burden,” Calhoun calls marriage, “and what a gift.”

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780393356007
Publisher: Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.
Publication date: 06/05/2018
Pages: 192
Sales rank: 754,155
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Ada Calhoun has written for the New York Times, New York magazine, and the New York Post. Her book St. Marks Is Dead was named a New York Times Editors' Choice and a Boston Globe Best Book of the Year.

Table of Contents

Introduction: "Do You Know Why You're Here?" 13

Toast 1 Paying for Each Others Mistakes 21

Toast 2 The Boring Parts 32

Toast 3 Containing Multitudes 54

Toast 4 The Truth About Soul Mates 70

Toast 5 Fighting in Rental Cars 87

Toast 6 Other People, Other Cities 99

Toast 7 "Love Is Strong as Death" 128

Epilogue: One Toast I Would Actually Give 157

Appendix: Toward a More Realistic Reception Playlist 165

Acknowledgments 167

Notes 169

Bibliography 183

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LizzyB27 More than 1 year ago
Marriages have all kinds of ups and downs. But why do some people make it all the way and others don't? Ada asks those who have been married for several decades, reads a variety of books, and watches a few movies. The answer is always similar- just don't get divorced. All the while Ada is delivering that information, she shares her dating and marital past. She shares a lot of stories from her life with her husband and their son. She talks about making out with a guy while shes out of town. Going home and telling her husband about it, only to find out a woman has recently told him he is attractive and he said the same thing to her. "Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give" really just gives accounts of how difficult marriage can be: miscarriage, house fire, debt, illness, accidents, etc. That we should just stick it out, and perhaps laugh at ourselves a little bit more, bad stuff happens to all of us, but going through it with someone helps. This is a great book, especially for an engaged or recently married person. Life can suck, suffer together, then you have all these interesting memories to share with your children and grandchildren! Advice gleaned: Be nice and don't leave!