When Your Kid Is Hurting: Helping Your Child through the Tough Days

When Your Kid Is Hurting: Helping Your Child through the Tough Days

by Kevin Leman


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As parents, we have a strong impulse to protect our children, but that very protection can end up handicapping them for life. Rather than seek to save them from the hard things, we must teach our kids how to cope with and rise above their problems. In one of his most important books to date, internationally known psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Kevin Leman shows parents how to

- be good listeners
- tell the truth, even when it's difficult
- find balance between being protective and being overprotective
- approach hurt and injustice as a learning experience rather than fostering a victim mentality
- and much more

Whether a child is dealing with a difficult family situation, bullies, the loss of friends, the death of a loved one, discrimination, abuse, a teen pregnancy, or even just trying to make sense of what they see in the news, this compassionate and practical book will help parents equip them to process, learn from, and rise above their situation.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780800729608
Publisher: Baker Publishing Group
Publication date: 01/21/2020
Pages: 288
Sales rank: 590,482
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Dr. Kevin Leman is an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker. He has made house calls through hundreds of radio and television programs, such as FOX & Friends, The View, FOX's The Morning Show, Today, Morning in America, The 700 Club, CBS's The Early Show, Janet Parshall, CNN, and Focus on the Family, and has served as a contributing family psychologist to Good Morning America. A bestselling and award-winning author, Dr. Leman has written more than 50 books, including The Birth Order Book and Have a New Kid by Friday. Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson, Arizona. They have five children and four grandchildren.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments 11

Introduction: As the World Squirms: It's not your grandmama's world, and it's not yours either. Times have greatly changed 13

1 "Out There" Issues: How you can respond practically to your child's fears about real-world problems 19

2 When Hurt Hits Home: Issues don't truly become personal until they are personal 45

3 The Three Basic Fears and Their Antidotes: Understand these and you can handle any difficult situation well 97

4 Why Grief Serves a Purpose: What your kid's behavior means and why he responds differently than you 107

5 Getting behind Your Child's Eyes: Discover how your child views herself and how you can better connect with her 121

6 What Parents Do Wrong and Right: What kind of parent are you? 129

7 Playing the Game of Life Smart: How to turn traumas into winning life moves 153

Ask Dr. Leman: Q&A: Straightforward answers to key questions parents ask about dealing with difficult, real-life issues and their hurting kids 165

Top 10 Principles for Handling Life's Hurts Well 265

Notes 267

About Dr. Kevin Leman 269

Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 271

Customer Reviews

When Your Kid Is Hurting: Helping Your Child through the Tough Days 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 4 reviews.
HeartofaBookWorm More than 1 year ago
I have to say I am quite surprised at this book. I have ALWAYS loved Dr. Lehman's books and the advice he has given. He is a Christian author. So, when looking at my review options, I was so excited to read this one and to be able to share the info. with my grand babies, and other young children that I'm in contact with, should any of the conversations arise. This book, Helping Your Child through the Tough Days, is not written as a "christian book". It is written to the secular audience. I get it, that allows for more books to be sold, but I expected more from Dr. Lehman. There is good advice and great conversations ideas on various topics. I know when my kids were little, school shootings was NEVER anything I had to discuss, nor was social media, and all that comes with that, but that didn't mean I wasn't a very present parent. In the end I do think that that is what Dr. Lehman would say is what is most important.... being there for your kids. For me, I know the most important thing I could do for my kids is .... Listening to them. Talking to them. Letting them know that no matter what the situation is, I am there for them and together with God, we can get through anything together! Heart of a Bookworm gives "When your Kid is Hurting" 3 ♥ ♥ ♥'s
vics49548 More than 1 year ago
This is so hard for parents today; how to care for our hurting children without being a “helicopter” parent. We have to nurture them while teaching them how to deal with life. While Dr. Lehman generally offers good advice, I don’t agree with everything he says. But that’s okay because as parents we won’t agree with all the advice we’re given, and must know how to separate the good from the not so good. I would like to see more encouragement given to parents who are doing their best to help their kids. The book is divided into two parts. During the first half Dr. Lehman discusses specific challenges faced by today’s child, and how a parent can handle things. The second half is question and answer about frequent situations. I think this format is helpful to parents. While I can’t unreservedly recommend this book, I can encourage parents to read it and glean what they can from it as I believe Dr. Lehman has our children’s best interest at heart. I received a complimentary copy of this book but was not required to leave a review.
parmilespages More than 1 year ago
I thought this was a practical and relevant book. It talks about the issues children deal with on a daily basis and captured my attention from the first few pages. Dr. Leman divides these issues into two categories, those things that are “out there”, things that are happening in the world, such as violence in the world and discrimination. The second category the author labels “in here” which includes issues in the family environment such as divorce. He also addresses death in the family, where a child experiences grief, as well as other common fears children face. In addition, he covers how parents should react to difficult situations in a child’s life and how to teach a child to cope with those difficulties. The last third of the book Dr. Leman answers questions that pertain to the topics discussed earlier. The questions and answer section takes his principles and applies them to actual situations where he expounds with more detail. I thought the concepts laid out in the book were transferable to other life situations, including adults or grown children. For a nonfiction book, it is easy to follow, well organized and easy to understand. It offers common sense solutions and good advice. Note: After reading this book you may feel a certain level of inadequacy for errors made in the past. I would highly recommend reading this book if you are a parent. I received a complimentary copy of this book from Revell in exchange for an honest review.
summer_no9 More than 1 year ago
This book was incredible writing and compelling to read with also very suitable to all different situations that we are the parent for this year had to deals with their kid. This book will help you and navigate these real-life from that issues and to understand your child’s world, experience, fears and learn how your child grieves and how to walk through that event in the ways that you will guide your child. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Revell Reads for this review”.