When Your Kids Push Your Buttons: And What You Can Do About It

by Bonnie Harris

Overview

In the bestselling tradition of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, here is the first book that answers the questions "Why do my kids push my buttons?" and "How can I stop it from happening?"


It's a given-kids push their parents buttons like nobody else can. Too many parents can be provoked to react with harmful anger, and children learn to manipulate their parents' emotions repeatedly, resulting in unhealthy life-long patterns. WHEN YOUR KIDS PUSH YOUR BUTTONS shows parents that it is their ideas and perceptions that push their own buttons and provoke the "road rage of parenting." When parents take responsibility for their reactions and listen to what their child's behavior is telling them, the child becomes the teacher to the parent. Filled with anecdotes from real families, this book is quickly joining the list of parenting classics.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780446692854
Publisher:	Grand Central Publishing
Publication date:	07/01/2004
Edition description:	Reprint
Pages:	320
Sales rank:	700,242
Product dimensions:	5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.00(d)
Age Range:	13 Years

Table of Contents

	Introduction	xix
Part 1	Something Old
1	The Road Rage of Parenting	3
2	What's Your Agenda?	12
3	Why Kids Are Parent-Deaf	22
4	Why Do I Keep Doing That?	37
5	High Hopes: The Standards We Live By	55
6	Hidden Triggers	70
7	Don't Take It Personally--They're Not Out to Get You!	85
8	What Keeps You Stuck in Old Ruts?	98
Part 2	The Buttons
9	The Button Stories	113
10	The Approval Button	117
11	The Control Button	129
12	The Appreciation Button	141
13	The Fix-It Button	152
14	The Responsibility Button	164
15	The Incompetence Button	176
16	The Guilt Button	188
17	The Resentment Button	202
Part 3	Something New
18	Defusing Your Buttons	217
19	Just When It Feels So Hopeless...	233
20	Taking Responsibility for Your Anger	246
21	Your Child Is Your Teacher	258
22	The Light at the End of the Tunnel	274
	Appendix	277
	Suggested Reading	283
	Index	285