Sometimes, the only thing you can do for your child is pray, and that is enough. When your child is at school or camp, with another parent, or even grown and living on their own, these prayers for blessings, protection, wisdom, and insight will resonate with you. Written from the heart of a mother who has prayed her sons through childhood, college, military deployment, and is now praying through the challenges of adulthood, these words bring to life the concerns, hopes and dreams every parent has for their son or daughter.
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About the Author
Edie Melson is a sought after writing instructor, including serving as the codirector of the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference, as well as a popular faculty member at numerous others. She’s the author of While My Soldier Serves, has published thousands of articles over the years, and has a popular writing blog, The Write Conversation. Edie is the Senior Editor for Novel Rocket and the Social Media Mentor for My Book Therapy, as well as the Social Media Director for Southern Writers Magazine. Edie lives in Simpsonville, South Carolina.
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While My Child Is Away
My Prayers for When We Are Apart
By Edie Melson
Worthy Publishing GroupCopyright © 2016 Edie Melson
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The Triumph of Love
We all want our children to feel love — from us and especially from God. But it's hard when we're not close enough physically to ensure our kids get the attention we think they need.
Make Your Love Real in My Child's Life
We love the things we love for what they are. ROBERT FROST
Dear Lord, I know You love my child in ways that I never can. But it's so hard to be away from her, now that she's growing up. She and I used to spend so much time together, and I was always the one she turned to first. Now that she's away more, I'm afraid that if I'm not with her, she won't have anyone near to reassure her that she is loved.
I don't want to be replaced in her life, but even more than that, I don't want her to be alone. Don't let her feel abandoned, or mistake physical distance for emotional distance. Help her remember how much I love her. Put people around her who will show her love in ways that help her feel connected. Make sure she remembers that no matter what, You love her with an eternal and infinite love. Give her a foundation of Your love that will never be shaken.
You are the Author of love. Help her discover the depth of Your love, and give her opportunities to share that with those around her. Wrap Your love around her and be all that she needs. Amen.
I love those who love me and those who seek me find me. PROVERBS 8:17 NIV
Redefine Love in My Child's Life
God loves each of us as if there were only one of us. AUGUSTUS
Dear Lord, I know the Bible tells us that You are love. But even with that, our human understanding is so limited. Right now, my child is struggling to define what real love is. I'm asking You to use this time to give him Your definition of love.
Show him all the ways it goes beyond emotions. Help him see that it even goes beyond tolerance and acceptance. Let him see the physical manifestation of godly love in his life and in the lives of those around him. Give him examples of the miracles found within tough love. In his situation today, love has limits. Let him experience the limitlessness of Your perfect love.
Help him replace all the incorrect definitions he believes with Your truth. Our kids are exposed to so many twisted examples of love. Protect his mind, from this day forward, from anything that isn't from You. Bring him back to the basics. Erase the things that aren't truth and use those near him to reinforce Your truth.
Surround him with people who know Your love and are willing to share Your truth with him. Give them the words to speak that will resonate in his soul. Most of all, let it shine in their lives as they become real-life examples of You. Amen.
Give thanks to the God of heaven! His love is eternal. PSALM 136:26 HCSB
Thank You for Loving My Child
Though our feelings come and go, God's love for us does not. C. S. LEWIS
Dear Lord, as grateful as I am for Your love in my life, I'm even more thankful for the fact that You love my child. You have proven trustworthy in my life, and I know I can trust You with my child.
I admit I'm scared that she's away from home more now. This isn't just a time of growth for her, but it is also a time of growth for me. I'm having to draw on all my reserves to get through this. I know other parents experience this, but somehow when I watched it didn't seem as hard for them.
Lord, I'm thankful that my child knows You and has already come to rely on You. You have shown her love in so many ways during her life. Neither one of us could ever doubt how much You care for her.
I'm asking that You remind us both of Your love. We're sad to be apart, even though this is an exciting time of growth. I didn't realize how much comfort I drew daily from having her close by, and now she's miles away. I can hear her voice on the phone, but it's not the same.
I'm learning to trust You, Lord, in a whole new way. Thank You for the assurances You've already given me. Be with us both as we adjust to life's new normal. Amen.
We love because he first loved us. 1 JOHN 4:19 NIV
Remind My Child That You Are Jealous for His Love
Remember, you are special because I made you. And I don't make mistakes. MAX LUCADO
Dear Lord, You love us so much. The Bible tells us You are jealous for us. In our culture today, we view jealousy in a negative way. But I know how unbelievably precious it is to know that You, God, are jealous for me. Make this truth real in my child's life. Give him a new and deeper perspective of Your love through this aspect of Your character.
So often, in the activities and busyness of life we forget that spending time with You isn't just for our benefit; it's because You love us. Your love has a depth that we can't ever completely understand. But the more time we spend with You, the more we begin to understand Your love.
Give him insight into who You are and let that fuel his hunger for You. Reinforce that drive through the companions who surround him.
Put an unquenchable desire to spend time with You in my child's heart. Teach him how much You want his company. You want to be the center of all our lives. Make Yourself the center of my child's life. Amen.
"Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God." EXODUS 34:14 NIV
Teach My Child Your Love Never Fails
No matter what storm you face, you need to know that God loves you. He has not abandoned you. FRANKLIN GRAHAM
Dear Lord, I know that Your love is constant and never failing. Help my child to know and acknowledge this. When something difficult happens, help him to turn to You.
When his circumstances are difficult, and he's away from all that's familiar, help him to see beyond his situation. Show him how You are working in his life right now.
Give him wise mentors and companions who can see beyond what's happening in the moment and help him. Use them to redirect his eyes upward. Lead him to see how Your love is shepherding him through this experience.
Let him catch a glimpse of how challenges now, will be used for good later on — not just in his life, but in the lives of others. Allow him to see how wide-reaching Your love is. You are in the details of right now, and he needs to experience this.
Surround him with others whose lives can give him proof of how Your love is always enough, and always on time. As they open up to my child, give him the insight to see You at work. Amen.
May the Lord direct your hearts to God's love and Christ's endurance. 2 THESSALONIANS 3:5 HCSB
Show My Child Love's Discipline
God has no pleasure in afflicting us, but He will not keep back even the most painful chastisement if He can but thereby guide His beloved child to come home and abide in the beloved Child. ANDREW MURRAY
Dear Lord, when my child is facing difficult challenges — and I'm not there to remind him — show him that he's not alone and that others are not against him.
Even if he has made some choices that have led him into a tough situation, help him to face it, knowing that You are by his side. Give him insight into what to do next. Don't let these situations make him angry and bitter. Show him that the people holding him accountable are doing it out of love for him.
Remind him that we only care about his actions because we care about him. Use his friends to encourage him during these difficult times. Bring others into his life who've had similar experiences and learned from them.
Most of all, don't let him turn away from You. Being held accountable is hard, but help him see he's going to come out of this stronger. Teach him the lessons he needs to learn gently, but firmly, and never let him feel abandoned. Amen.
For whom the LORD loves He reproves, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights. PROVERBS 3:12 NASB
Show My Child How Much I Love Him
I love to think of nature as an unlimited broadcasting station, through which God speaks to us every hour, if we will only tune in. GEORGE WASHINGTON CARVER
Dear Lord, when my child is far from home, please remind him how much I love him. When we talk, help us to be as close as if we were together. Never let him forget how much I love him.
Remind him of all the times I've shown him my love. Help us both to understand this situation and find a way for us to talk to one another.
Sometimes things happen that are beyond our control. Help me to understand how he feels. Please intervene on my behalf. Put people in his life who will help him remember the proof of my love and care. Help us to find our way back to one another.
Lord, please put people in both of our lives who can speak truths that we need to hear. Help us not to focus on what has taken us away from each other, but instead focus on You. Give him Your perspective and concrete proof of my love. Amen.
Hatred stirs up conflicts, but love covers all offenses. PROVERBS 10:12 HCSB
Show My Child the Power of Love
I have found that there are three stages in every great work of God: first, it is impossible, then it is difficult, then it is done. JAMES HUDSON TAYLOR
Dear Lord, please protect my child from bullies and false friends who say hurtful things and call it "joking." I know it's got to be tempting to lash back with angry words, but I'm asking You to help him return love instead of hate.
I don't know how I'd react in similar circumstances. But looking from the outside in, I can see how You'd expect me to react. So far that's exactly what my child is doing. I'm so proud of the way he's handled this. It's beginning to take its toll on him, though.
As he shows only love toward the people ridiculing him, I pray that You show him the power of that love. I've seen Your love bring hope where there is no hope, redeem a situation beyond redemption, and even change a person from hopeless to joyful. I want my child to see that kind of transformation here.
Even if transformation isn't part of Your plan, I'm asking that You show Yourself to my child in a new way. Let him see the purpose behind this experience. Make sure He can feel Your pride in the way he's handling himself. Amen.
It was not by their sword that they won the land, nor did their arm bring them victory; it was your right hand, your arm, and the light of your face, for you loved them. PSALM 44:3 NIV
Restore My Relationship with My Child
Love is an act of endless forgiveness. JEAN VANIER
Dear Lord, my child and I are separated by so much more than just distance. As hard as it is to be away from him physically, it's even harder to bear the distance that has developed in our relationship. We've let our differences build a wall between us and it breaks my heart.
Show me how to reconnect with him. Give him a forgiving heart toward me, and me to him. Help us look past the hurts and move forward toward reconciliation.
It hurts me to see him making decisions that I know will affect him in years to come. Help me show him how much I love him even when I disagree. Don't let him believe that my disapproval affects the love I have for him.
As I begin doing my part to repair our relationship, urge him to meet me halfway. Surround him with people who will help us find our way back to each other. Show us both where we have common ground. Most of all, speak to his heart and draw him close to You. Amen.
Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. 1 CORINTHIANS 15:58 NIV
Make Me a Good Example of Your Love
I used to ask God to help me. Then I asked if I might help Him. I ended up by asking Him to do His work through me. JAMES HUDSON TAYLOR
Dear Lord, I don't know where I'd be without Your love. Even now, in the midst of this time apart from my child, I feel You with me. I want to do more than just feel Your love. I want to share it with others. I want You to work through me and make me an example of Your love.
There are so many challenges right now with my child being away from home more and more. I want to do more than just endure. I want to have a positive impact.
I know the best way to do that is to show Your love to all those involved. Even when it is hard or I don't like the reason we are apart or I don't like the people in my child's life, show me how to be a beacon of love.
You've given me the capacity to love them, but my emotions don't appear to know that. Help me show Your love to everyone, no matter what my feelings toward them are. Most of all, use my life to illustrate how much You love each of us. Show others the way You guide and protect all of us who call You Lord. Amen.
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you. PSALM 32:8 NIV
Help Me Love Those My Child Is With
Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love, you will find that you are left holding only yourself. LEO BUSCAGLIA
Dear Lord, I want my child home with me. I know he's where he's supposed to be right now, but it's hard. He has new people in his life, and when I talk to him I feel left out. I am happy that he seems so happy when I talk to him, but it hurts because I'm unhappy that he is away. Help me replace my resentment with love.
In my head, I know I haven't been replaced. But my heart feels otherwise. I don't want to like those people, much less love them. Yet if my child loves them, there's got to be some good in them. He's not unwise when it comes to judging character.
Show me how to move past my feelings of hurt and learn to love those he's with right now. We all want the best for him, that I do know. Even more than that, I trust You, God. You love him more than I do, and I have to accept that You are still in control of the situation.
Give me more reasons to love these people. Help me see the good in them. Let me see examples of how they're good for my child, and they're working with me to help him grow up. Open my eyes to see them with Your love instead of my own fears. Amen.
"I give you a new command: Love one another. Just as I have loved you, you must also love one another." JOHN 13:34 HCSB
Open My Eyes to Others in the Same Situation as Me
I want the love that cannot help but love; Loving, like God, for the very sake of love. A. B. SIMPSON
Dear Lord, I'm so sad right now. I miss my child and wish she was back home with me. She's moving on and into an exciting part of her life, but it's still hard not to have her here every day. I know I've got to take the focus off of what's happening in my life, otherwise I'll drown in these circumstances. Help me to reach out to others who are in similar circumstances.
There are other parents dealing with the same things I am, I'm sure of it. Help me look beyond myself and find them. Give me others to care for and love on.
I'm not very far down this path, but I'm willing to walk it with others who are hurting. Show me how I can find others who feel the same way I do. Open my eyes to see them when they pass through my daily comings and goings.
Don't let me become so self-absorbed that I miss the opportunity to share Your love with those I encounter. Give me insight to know whom You'd have me reach out to. Use this situation to stretch me and teach me more about You. Show me how I can love those who are also hurting. Amen.
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. ROMANS 12:10 NIV
Accepting Love on Their Terms
Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. 1 JOHN 3:18 NIV
There are certain things that mean a lot to me as a mom. One of them is getting to sit in church with all my boys. I love being able to come together to worship. Although I don't like to admit it, I am proud that none of my kids are ashamed to sit with me. It makes me feel special. But I didn't realize how important that was to me until one particular Mother's Day.
It was 2006 and the last Mother's Day we'd all be together for a while because our oldest child had enlisted in the military. I was already frustrated that morning because my husband was out of town on a business trip. All I could think of was that this was my holiday and he'd chosen to travel. Because of that, I was placing even more emphasis on the fact that all three boys would be with me in church.
The boys hadn't left from home at the same time as me, so I made my way into the sanctuary and saved them room on the pew beside me. I hated doing that, especially on such a busy Sunday, but I really wanted to be able to sit with them. I waited and waited, finally giving up the empty seats and fumed my way through the service.
By the time I got home I was loaded and ready to explode all over them. It was my special day and they couldn't be bothered to show up. Didn't they even love me? Tears warred with anger as I let my hurt take control.
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Table of Contents
How to Use this Book 2
1 The Triumph of Love 3
2 Making Good Choices 29
3 Peace Beyond Circumstances 53
4 True Self-Confidence 77
5 A Foundation of Faith 101
6 A Core of Strength 127
7 Companions Matter 153
8 My God, My Defender 179
9 Fully Present 203
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What a wonderful and powerful book of prayer! As the mother of adult sons, this book is so perfect for me! It gives me the guidance of how and what to pray for my adult children. I have never seen a book like this before and it is so perfect for the mom (or parent, really) whose child is away from them for whatever reason. If they are away at school or grown up and on their own, this book guides you through prayers that will protect them and help them. There are nine sections to the book, each on a topic that include faith, self-confidence, and good choices. I really found this helpful as I was able to find a prayer on the topic that fit the circumstance that I wanted to pray over. Edie also shares from her own life and she is so open in sharing things that you feel like she's a dear friend. You find that the things that concern you, she has dealt with and she directs us to pray first, which is such a great reminder for those of us to don't do this! I have little flags on the prayers that I want to refer to for my children every day and highlighting throughout. You can either pray the prayers that she has in there, word for word, or you can allow them to guide you in your own prayer. I really loved this because there are things that she so eloquently says that really get to the root of the matter. It helps me so much to have this guidance for my prayers! She also shares prayers in areas that I had never really thought about but that are so important for our children! I love this, too, as it has given my prayers more depth and width. I highly recommend this book to any parent who prays for their children. These prayers will make your prayers more on point and give you direction on what to pray. I really love this book and it has been added to my quiet time area to direct my prayers for my children. I give it 5 out of 5 stars. *This book was provided to me for my honest review by Worthy Publishing and First Look Blog Tours
I am a mother and stepmother of a blended family of 5 grown children. Reading WHILE MY CHILD IS AWAY felt like Edie Melson linked arms with me in guiding and praying for our children even after they leave our homes. It was like balm to my soul. Edie’s love for her children’s safety and for them to make wise choices, inspires all of us to reach higher. I related to many of her authentic stories, and at times I laughed out loud. But there is always a powerful message to teach and motivate the reader to raise our children into their best version of whom God created them to be. Her written prayers come from her deep love of God and her raw desire to care for her children even after they have grownup and left their home. This book should be labelled “required reading” for every parent who is raising a child. What a masterpiece.