You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir

You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir

by Melissa Ohden


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You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir by Melissa Ohden

What happens when an abortion survivor finds her birth mother, who never knew her daughter was alive?

Winner, 2018 Christianity Today Book Award, CT Women
Silver Medal Winner, 2018 Illumination Book Awards, Biography & Memoir

Melissa Ohden is fourteen when she learns she is the survivor of a botched abortion. In this intimate memoir she details for the first time her search for her biological parents, and her own journey from anger and shame to faith and empowerment.

After a decade-long search Melissa finally locates her birth father and writes to extend forgiveness, only to learn that he has died without answering her burning questions. Melissa becomes a mother herself in the very hospital where she was aborted. This experience transforms her attitude toward women who have had abortions, as does the miscarriage of her only son and the birth of a second daughter with complex health issues. But could anything prepare her for the day she finally meets her birth mother and hears her side of their story?

This intensely personal story of love and redemption illumines the powerful bond between mother and child that can overcome all odds.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780874867886
Publisher: Plough Publishing House, The
Publication date: 01/09/2017
Pages: 160
Sales rank: 137,917
Product dimensions: 5.70(w) x 7.90(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Melissa Ohden is founder of the Abortion Survivors Network and an advocate for women, men, and children impacted by abortion.

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You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
Anonymous 9 months ago
A perfect, heartfelt memoir depicting God's healing and the strength of forgiveness and love in the aftermath of a failed abortion attempt. As someone who values all human life, I believe this book beautifully depicts the emotional pain that follows in both the women & men involved after abortion is chosen. Life is so valuable and I'm grateful that Melissa was brave enough to share her story. A must read for anyone who finds themselves with an unplanned pregnancy.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
No matter what you opinion on abortion is, I highly recommend this book. It allows you to see a controversial subject from a completely new perspective that might just impact your views on the issue either way. It is also a great book for someone that is struggling with the choice of abortion or the guilt from having had one. I would recommend it to any sexual active person of either sex and of any age capable of producing a child.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wow. A powerful story. A must read for everyone. I don't like to read but came across this book and will recommend to everyone. It is so difficult to put down but is so easy to read. This woman is awesome. I would love to someday meet her.
sheep23 More than 1 year ago
You Carried Me is a poignant story about a young girl who finds out at 14 that she is a living survivor of a botched abortion. In our world which comprises of individual choice and freedom, we often don't heart the stories of those who most need to tell their story. Melissa Ohden tells her personal story that is both moving and alarming in these pages. Melissa tells the beginning of her story in the first chapter of the book by outlining the details she came to no later on in life. She writes, "Like other babies born prematurely, I had a host of serious medical problems including low birth weight (2 pounds 14.5 ounces), jaundice, and respiratory stress. But my troubles were complicated by the after effects of the poisonous saline solution I had endured in my mother's womb." (3) Into the arms of a loving family, both Ron and Linda Cross welcomed little Melissa with all the tenderness they could muster. Life was not all easy as she grew up in the Cross household, Ron had to take a job in Storm Lake as farming became nearly impossible to manage a family doing. Yet, they stuck together and fifteen years into their marriage, Linda gave birth to a son named Dustin, a younger brother for Melissa. It was an event in the life of Melissa's sister's life Tammy that changed the course of history for Melissa. Tammy blurted out in anger at one point to Melissa, "At least my parents wanted me!" (22) This comment stung and sent Melissa on a path to find out her birth mother and father. The barest fact were given to Melissa from Linda and she knew finally about the botched abortion but not her birth mother. The burden of not knowing and the willingness to get involved in destructive behaviors led Melissa down the road of drinking and bulimia, she really needed help. The rest of the story unwinds as Melissa gets further along the quest to finding her birth mother and father and learning to live with the past. She learns to write letters to them and find out what really happened. She also faces opposition and criticism as she told her story to her college friends. She even got invested in the local Methodist church after she shared her story as a survivor during her high school years. This is a very moving story and one that I know you will want to read. Thanks to Handlebar and Plough Publishing House for providing the copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
SeasonsofGrace More than 1 year ago
This is just an incredible story of God's grace, love, and faith. It is so moving. As I read Melissa's story of her birth, her adoptive parents, their love for her and finding her birth mother, I am overwhelmed. Melissa's journey is emotionally difficult to follow. Knowing all she experienced and the condition of our country today with the readily available abortions breaks my heart. Thankfully, God has been able to use Melissa to help in the lives of many women and influence their decision making process. Melissa tells the story beginning with her hospital survival, her adoptive foster parents, and her life growing up in their family. The typical American family which began on a farm, but eventually ended up in the city with both her parents working and life changing. At the young age of 14, Melissa finds out she was the survivor of a botched abortion, and not in the most pleasant way. Always the overachiever, peace keeper, Melissa managed to hide her pain from those around her. But not without going through many inner struggles which led her to do "things" to help her escape the pain of knowing she wasn't wanted by her birth mother. Handling anger, shame, and fear, Melissa against all odds, found a way to keep hold of her faith and her life verse, chosen at 16, became "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you..." Jeremiah 1:5. She began a search for her birth mother, which took a decade to come to fruition and revealed secrets she never imagined. She also became an advocate for the unborn, as well as, starting the Abortion Survivors Network, for those who have gone through similar experiences as herself. She also found empathy for those who have chosen the path of abortion whether willingly or otherwise. This is a powerful emotionally moving story that documents Melissa's journey to faith and forgiveness. An inspirational story that needs to be read! I highly recommend this book! I received a free copy courtesy of Handlebar to review. All opinions are my own and I was not required to review it positively.
Moonpie72 More than 1 year ago
Abortion is touted as a “quick fix” for a “problem”, that problem being an innocent child. Statistics show it may be a quick fix, but the ramifications for this is far reaching and damaging not only causing the death of a child but also to the parents and their families. Ms. Ohden introduces the another side to this that is seldom mentioned or heard about in the media and print. The baby that survives the brutal procedure, what does the future hold for these tiny victims, emotionally and physically? This book reveals their story. Melissa Ohden knew she was adopted when she was an infant. She grew up in a very loving happy home. Most adoptees come to the point they want to find their birth mother and the question always niggles in the back of their mind, “Why was I not wanted.” Imagine finding out in addition that you survived a botched abortion! This is what happened to her. She tells her story openly and honestly. Poignantly sharing the myriad of emotions and confusion she went through. With the support of her husband she begins a search for her birth mother to not only meet her but ask “why”. It is a long, difficult and painful search, but upon finding her the answer she receives is shocking. Being so young and learning such devastating information could have destroyed her, but it did not. Her story is a beautiful one of not only of courage, and a strong faith in God but remarkable forgiveness. She harbors no bitterness. Her testimony is amazing. Out of her sorrow, she found a way to help others like her. She has testified for the U.S. House of Representative and Senate, and the Australia Parliament. Melissa founded The Abortion Survivors Network which takes her across the U.S. teaching about failed abortion survivors and supplying emotional, mental, and spiritual support to them. A marvelously written story that will touch your heart in ways you never expected. I received this book from Plough Publishing House through Handlebar. I was not required to give a positive review, the opinions I stated are my own.
Blessed_and_Bewildered More than 1 year ago
Melissa Ohden’s story is tragic only in the sense that she was intended to be aborted and that she had to struggle through the heartbreak of that intent. In every other way, her story soars as a living testimony to the majesty and glory of the Almighty God. God’s plan so far has included her surviving a saline abortion without any physical effects, He had her taken to the NICU by a sympathetic nurse rather than cast aside as trash, He provided her with an incredibly loving Christian family to adopt her, and He helped her to achieve her dream of reunification with a portion of her birth family. Most importantly, He has helped her to use her story to help other abortion survivors, those finding themselves in a crisis pregnancy, and those men and women who are suffering from the guilt, shame, and loss due to their decision to have an abortion. If you survived an abortion… you will be able to share in another’s unique experience and find a supportive network of other survivors here. If you are considering an abortion… you will find love and supportive options other than abortion here. If you have had an abortion… you will find love and understanding here. Forgiveness is something that we all wish to receive when we hurt others and yet is often difficult to give to those who have hurt us. A personal relationship with God provides the greatest hope of extending forgiveness to others and a guarantee of forgiveness from Him. Melissa said… “Mahatma Gandhi once said ‘Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.’ But I think the truly brave are those who ask for forgiveness.” (Melissa Ohden, You Carried Me, page 112) Please pick up a copy of Melissa’s story and learn of how she entered into a relationship with Jesus Christ and learned how to extend forgiveness. Be inspired by her story. Share God’s work in her life with someone that you know affected by abortion. Soli Deo Gloria I received a hardback review copy in exchange for my honest and unbiased review from FrontGate Media. For all of my reviews visit my blog at www (dot) blessedandbewildered (dot) com
MelissaF More than 1 year ago
This book is so powerful. So many times I had tears in my eyes. This is a book that touches on many issues, not just abortion but miscarriage, forgiveness, restoration. Melissa has used her story and life to touch so many. Woman who have had abortions have found healing through her testimony, it is amazing. I loved reading how Melissa reconnected with her biological family and how all of their reactions where different. Not everything ends up neat and tidy, because this is real life. Melissa’s thought toward her biological mother are so encouraging. I have to think God allowed the time to pass before they met so Melissa could gain the perspective she did. Most heartbreaking of all for me was that thought that in 1977 they saved a baby who was supposed to be aborted. In 2017 I don’t think a clinic would do that, they would argue that the mother doesn’t want the baby. It makes me wonder how many times a baby has been born that could have been saved. The reality is Melissa isn’t the only abortion survivor and many of them have disabilities and/or missing limbs. This should bring us to our knees to intervene on the behalf of these unborn children. A copy of this book was given to me. All opinions are my own.
schoolmomred More than 1 year ago
Wow, is this a powerful story! Melissa Ohden was delivered in the form of an abortion. She was born in a hospital but was supposed to die during the saline abortion. However, she was delivered alive. If not for a nurse who heard her crying and saved her from being left to die on a table, she would not be here today to tell her story. What is her story? She speaks out for the voiceless today: those who have been murdered by abortion. As a pro-life believer in Jesus, I resonate with this message. No, I have never had an abortion. I'm not sure if I personally know anyone who has - nobody has ever told me that they had one. Still, I feel for those mothers who have aborted their children. According to Melissa Ohden, those moms and dads and other family members often feel pressured into abortions and carry their pain for the rest of their lives. There are other abortion survivors; abortions don't always end in the deaths of the babies. I found that to be amazing - and sad. In fact, learning more about the abortion industry and lives it touches was a real bonus for me. Before reading this book, I only knew the basics. It hurt to learn more, but it was necessary. As a pro-life Christian, shouldn't I back up my beliefs with facts? I found the book to be well written and very informative. I would recommend it to anyone who wants to know more or who simply wants to read a compelling true story.