Thank You. I'm Sorry. Tell Me More.: How to Change the World with 3 Sacred Sayings
Practice the three simple phrases that heal relationships, strengthen connection, and change the world.

We all believe that saying, “Thank you,” “I’m sorry,” and “Tell me more” will help us become better people, friends, partners, employees, neighbors, and global citizens. And yet, having been brought up on rugged individualism, we often slip into self—centeredness and a corresponding sense of entitlement. We have lost the ability to speak with gentleness toward one another. We have replaced kind words that connect us to one another with ones that divide, isolate, and hurt. Everywhere we turn there is deep conflict.

In this simple yet profound book, clinical psychologist Rod Wilson introduces us to the sacredness of these familiar but forgotten sayings. What impact do these sayings have on our relationships?

When we say, “Thank you,” we acknowledge the way others impact us.
When we say, “I’m sorry,” we acknowledge the way we impact others.
When we say, “Tell me more,” we acknowledge the way we impact each other.

Try it. Read this book and be encouraged and equipped to deliver kindness in your speech. As you engage with these three phrases more thoughtfully and speak them more frequently, you will enjoy a life full of deeper friendships and joy.
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Thank You. I'm Sorry. Tell Me More.: How to Change the World with 3 Sacred Sayings
Practice the three simple phrases that heal relationships, strengthen connection, and change the world.

We all believe that saying, “Thank you,” “I’m sorry,” and “Tell me more” will help us become better people, friends, partners, employees, neighbors, and global citizens. And yet, having been brought up on rugged individualism, we often slip into self—centeredness and a corresponding sense of entitlement. We have lost the ability to speak with gentleness toward one another. We have replaced kind words that connect us to one another with ones that divide, isolate, and hurt. Everywhere we turn there is deep conflict.

In this simple yet profound book, clinical psychologist Rod Wilson introduces us to the sacredness of these familiar but forgotten sayings. What impact do these sayings have on our relationships?

When we say, “Thank you,” we acknowledge the way others impact us.
When we say, “I’m sorry,” we acknowledge the way we impact others.
When we say, “Tell me more,” we acknowledge the way we impact each other.

Try it. Read this book and be encouraged and equipped to deliver kindness in your speech. As you engage with these three phrases more thoughtfully and speak them more frequently, you will enjoy a life full of deeper friendships and joy.
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Thank You. I'm Sorry. Tell Me More.: How to Change the World with 3 Sacred Sayings

Thank You. I'm Sorry. Tell Me More.: How to Change the World with 3 Sacred Sayings

by Rod Wilson
Thank You. I'm Sorry. Tell Me More.: How to Change the World with 3 Sacred Sayings

Thank You. I'm Sorry. Tell Me More.: How to Change the World with 3 Sacred Sayings

by Rod Wilson

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Practice the three simple phrases that heal relationships, strengthen connection, and change the world.

We all believe that saying, “Thank you,” “I’m sorry,” and “Tell me more” will help us become better people, friends, partners, employees, neighbors, and global citizens. And yet, having been brought up on rugged individualism, we often slip into self—centeredness and a corresponding sense of entitlement. We have lost the ability to speak with gentleness toward one another. We have replaced kind words that connect us to one another with ones that divide, isolate, and hurt. Everywhere we turn there is deep conflict.

In this simple yet profound book, clinical psychologist Rod Wilson introduces us to the sacredness of these familiar but forgotten sayings. What impact do these sayings have on our relationships?

When we say, “Thank you,” we acknowledge the way others impact us.
When we say, “I’m sorry,” we acknowledge the way we impact others.
When we say, “Tell me more,” we acknowledge the way we impact each other.

Try it. Read this book and be encouraged and equipped to deliver kindness in your speech. As you engage with these three phrases more thoughtfully and speak them more frequently, you will enjoy a life full of deeper friendships and joy.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781641584470
Publisher: The Navigators
Publication date: 01/11/2022
Pages: 208
Product dimensions: 5.00(w) x 6.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Rod Wilson has worked as a psychologist, served as a pastor in three churches, and held multiple roles in theological education, including president of Regent College in Vancouver, Canada, from 2000-2015. Rod currently works with Lumara Grief and Bereavement Care Society, A Rocha, the Society of Christian Schools in BC, and In. Trust Center for Theological Schools, and maintains an international teaching and mentoring ministry.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Change the World? 1

Part 1 Thank You 23

Whiny Space 27

Hakarat Hatov 29

Taken for Granted 31

Being Specific 33

Ignoring Roles 35

Fearful Gratitude 37

Communal Merit 39

All About Me 41

Obligation Meets Entitlement 43

Intoxicating Power 45

Suspicious of Others 47

Being and Doing 49

Ungrateful Consumers 51

Rating Other Generations 53

Othering Others 55

Thanking Children 57

Living in the Past 59

Deepening Mutuality 61

Acknowledging Impact 63

Grateful Complementarity 65

Part 2 I'm Sorry 69

I'm Sorry, But… 73

Both Wrong 75

Providing Accuracy 77

Enabling Dancers 79

Taking Responsibility 81

Diverse Expressions 83

Remorse Brings Change 85

Making Amends 87

Reasons and Excuses 89

High-Quality Remorse 91

Openness to Remorse 93

Revisiting Our Narrative 95

Self-Regulation 97

Openhearted 99

Forgetting the Past 101

Act of Listening 103

No Guarantee 105

Communal Representative 107

Apologizing to Children 109

Priority of Dialogue 111

Part 3 Tell Me More 115

Talking Too Much 119

Speaking with Others 121

Communicating Impact 123

Breeding Self-Disclosure 125

Being Opinionated 127

Cultivating Friendships 129

Impression Management 131

Beyond Evaluation 133

Facts and Feelings 135

Free-Associating 137

Compassion, Not Solutions 139

Labeling without Listening 141

Overwhelmed by Experiences 143

Personality Tests 145

Counseling Process 147

Listening to Strangers 149

Issues and Faces 151

Diagnoses with Curiosity 153

Limited Privilege 155

Misunderstanding Actions 157

Part 4 Imagine a World 161

Epilogue: Being Christian 163

Acknowledgments 175

Discussion Guide 177

Notes 181

What People are Saying About This

Patricia Towler

In an age when there is an oversupply of self-proclaimed leaders and an undersupply of humility, Rod Wilson is a skillful leader with a humble and caring heart. In his latest book, he taps into the universal values of gratitude, contrition, and curiosity as key tools in a leader’s toolbox. This is timeless wisdom, and I have had the pleasure of seeing Rod live these values in real life. He walks the walk.

J. Michael Miller

Rod is like a good spiritual-retreat master, only more humorous. After reading Rod Wilson, I’ll never again trivialize the importance of saying “Thank you,” “I’m sorry,” and “Tell me more.” These expressions pack a wallop and, when understood, found a needed culture based on gratitude, remorse, and caring.

Keren Dibbens-Wyatt

With his poignant, insightful, and often witty slices of real-life wisdom, Dr. Wilson shines a light on ways we might embrace the much-needed practices of gratitude, remorse, and care to bring connection and gracious humility to an increasingly fractured and self-centered world. If we allow this thoughtful book to challenge us to use the three key phrases of “Thank you, “I’m sorry,” and “Tell me more” meaningfully in everyday life, we might slow down enough to relate to one another in healing and affirming ways.

Bob Inglis

This is the best time in human history to be alive. And yet so many of us are unthankful. Rod Wilson’s stories of gratitude, remorse, and caring open us up to seeing how we’ve been captivated by entitlement, victimization, and individualism. Those stories can also help us laugh at ourselves and enjoy the journey to our better selves.

Alia Eyres

This book came into my life at the exact right time. As I have faced being a CEO, wife, and mother of six in a world that seems to be filled with increasing discontent, discord, and disconnection, Dr. Wilson so clearly articulates how three simple phrases can help me bring more love, hope, and connection into my personal and professional lives. Dr. Wilson’s expert storytelling reveals how gratitude, remorse, and caring enough to listen to others’ stories can transform the world. This is THE must-read book for anyone who is leading through challenge and uncertainty.

Dan B. Allender

The essence of wisdom is taking what is complicated and not making it simple, but offering a clarity that cuts to the chase of a matter. Rod Wilson is a wise, compelling, and true-to-the-heart human whose gift of clarity is scintillating and life-changing. To take three common but often misused phrases and offer a robust picture of what they can bring to life is brilliant, but far more, it is a reminder of how our words reflect the genius of our Creator. This book will bring a new savor to the sweetness and saltiness of your words.

James K. A. Smith

Sometimes we have to talk ourselves into becoming different people. We believe what we repeat. We live into what we rehearse. In this wise and inviting book, Rod Wilson offers us three simple but potent litanies that could talk us into becoming a society that is attentive, caring, vulnerable, and grateful. Don’t let what seems like simplicity fool you: This is a book that wants to change the world. It starts with me. And you.

William Wan

It is amazing that so much is packed into three magical phrases totaling seven words! I am awed by Rod’s ability to unpack them with the aid of engaging, first-person stories. The nuances revealed are rich in spiritual and psychological implications. They are so profoundly applicable in changing my own mindset that I could not read through it without constantly stopping to apply the principles to my own life.

Rev. Dr. Michele A. Bland

Timely in an age of division and polarization. Laced with tender stories from his own life. Rod applies three familiar yet revolutionary simple statements that can transform relationships, organizations, cities, and our world. Honest, heart-warming, vulnerable, and at times raw, Rod lives what he writes.

Luci Shaw

Are we happy about the way we respond to and interact with the people in our lives? If we know we are falling short, failing to treat with respect and understanding the precious people whose lives are linked with ours, three phrases excavated and explicated by Rod Wilson may go a long way to enhance mutual harmony and trust. I know these are principles I need to learn and practice!

Keren Dibbens—Wyatt

With his poignant, insightful, and often witty slices of real—life wisdom, Dr. Wilson shines a light on ways we might embrace the much—needed practices of gratitude, remorse, and care to bring connection and gracious humility to an increasingly fractured and self—centered world. If we allow this thoughtful book to challenge us to use the three key phrases of “Thank you, “I’m sorry,” and “Tell me more” meaningfully in everyday life, we might slow down enough to relate to one another in healing and affirming ways.

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