Dilemma: A Priest's Struggle with Faith and Love

Dilemma: A Priest's Struggle with Faith and Love

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by Albert Cutie
     
 

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In this deeply personal and controversial memoir, Father Albert Cutié, once the poster boy of the Roman Catholic Church, tells of his devastating struggle between upholding his sacred promises as a priest and falling in love. Already conflicted with growing ideological differences with the Church, Cutié was forced to abruptly change his life the day

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In this deeply personal and controversial memoir, Father Albert Cutié, once the poster boy of the Roman Catholic Church, tells of his devastating struggle between upholding his sacred promises as a priest and falling in love. Already conflicted with growing ideological differences with the Church, Cutié was forced to abruptly change his life the day that he was photographed on the beach, embracing the woman he would later make his wife.

The love that he deemed a blessing was bringing him closer to God, but further from the Church. In Dilemma, Cutié tells about breaking his vows, beginning a new way of life for oneself, and discovering a new way of serving God.

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With little self-promotion or self-justification, Cutié (Real Life, Real Love: 7 Paths to a Strong & Lasting Relationship) writes of his time as a celibate Roman Catholic priest and his remaking as a married Anglican one. He is candid about his youthful idealism when he believed he could be a lifelong celibate. He could not, but he retained a vocation to priesthood and service and moved to a church that permits priests to marry. He rightly goes on the offensive, accusing the Roman Catholic hierarchy of merciless behavior toward errant clergy and of neglecting the Gospel requirement to love others, even sinners. Bishops fail to investigate thoroughly accusations against priests or proceed with due process to protect the rights of the accused. He also accuses the news media of lies and sensationalism. Cutié points out that Roman Catholic priests of Eastern rites are allowed to marry and that Anglican or Orthodox priests who convert to Roman Catholicism may likewise continue in ministry as married men. He has much more to say, and he says it well, clearly, logically, and rarely defensively. Moreover, he takes into consideration the ideas of his opponents and dismisses nobody out of hand. VERDICT Whether you agree or disagree with the author, if the issue of priestly celibacy is of concern to you, Cutié's book is well worth reading. [Simultaneously published in a Spanish edition.—Ed.]—James F. DeRoche, Alexandria, VA

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780451233899
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
01/03/2012
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
605,405
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.90(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

Meet the Author

Father Albert Cutié is now serving in the Episcopal Church as a married priest at The Church of the Resurrection in Biscayne Park, Florida. He is a member of several community service organizations and is the first Cuban-American to serve as a Trustee of the American Bible Society.

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Dilemma: A Priest's Struggle with Faith and Love 3.2 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 23 reviews.
catwalk More than 1 year ago
This book is like a little teen who got caught going against their parents wishes and uses every excuse to justify their case. Do you blame him? In truth, a priest can legitimately leave the priesthood and be secularized back to what the church calls a "lay" person. There is a process. Then he could have been married legitimately in the church and him and his wife would have been welcome members of the church. Actually, he still could go thru the process and come back into the church with his wife and child. That is why I read this as a man who got caught with his pants down and then wanted the cake and eat it too. He is a cry baby and holding the Church up as his sacrificial escape goat. If you read the book understand who is the child writing it and pointing fingers. Then go search the truth yourself. Try reading The Big Fisherman by Lloyd Douglas? (same author as The Robe) now that might instill some prespective.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a book that makes you think about the struggles many people have not with faith but with religious institutions. Wonderfully written. I read it in 2 days-could not put it down.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is a must read for anyone of any faiths, who's struggled with the role of religion in their lives. I would also recommend that you buy "When God Stopped Keeping Score" which tackles the power of God in forgiveness. I saw it recommended in another post and brought it, and loved it, so I am returning the favor. That book changed my life for the best. ;)
CatbirdFL More than 1 year ago
This book is very repetetive and not well organized. It could have been written in one-third of the pages. Although I am sadly aware that much of what Albert says is true with regard to the Catholic Church (and the brotherhood of priests in particular), this book was obviously written to 1) self-serve, and 2) retaliate against those whom he felt had hurt and betrayed him. What ever happened to turning the other cheek? Albert, with regard to the wonderful and innocent man of God you profess to be throughout the book, the book's existence is pretty telling.
discernment More than 1 year ago
Sad. The book tells the tale of a Priest who discusses the confessions of others under the premise of exposing hypocrisy. Perhaps it is Mr. Cutie that thinks he forgives sins because he apparently feels open to discussion of some he has a point of view about. He implies that he has the best insight on biblical teaching and the Pope is out of date, particularly he feels the gay & lesbian lifestyle should not be spoken about in any but a positive light. I know some Priests who would admit to having gay feelings but they chose to suppress those feelings and live a lifestyle accepted for Priests. The Church does not condemn them to hell just because they may still have but not act on those feelings. Mr. Cutie would have you believe that it does. Cutie might do a bit of self inspection before writing a book for money. I personally am confused. He takes a vow with the Church but then he breaks that vow in silence and goes on dates on a public Florida beach with a woman he eventually marries. Apparently he also believes one simply make vows and disposes of them once your life encounters a change. He did not leave the Church before taking to the beach because he did not care what message let's say he would give to a child of a parish member on that Florida beach and what message that child might take from his actions. That is OK in Cutie's mind because life is first and foremost about "you/him" not service to others. Christ said forsake all and follow him. He didn't add until you meet someone, decide to date for awhile and then decide if you want to be a full time member of the role, in this case of disciple. He might look at the bible where it refers to millstones around the neck of people that mislead a child. Mr. Cutie is not focused on Church teaching, he is talking social justice in this book and how the Church must change. Personally, I too am accepting of the idea that Priests be allowed to marry. But we're I the new wife of Mr. Cutie I might keep an open eye on how he keeps this particular vow. Or perhaps, keep an eye on the beaches. Father Cutie's book will make liberal/progressives happy for it gives more opportunity to attack the Catholic Church than to speak of its many wonderful acts, beliefs and teaching. I wonder if Father Cutie really cares that the book could well cause more damage to souls than good. Father Cutie wrote the book to shift the dilemma away from himself and to move it so as to appear it is the Catholic Church that has the dilemma. Any Priest is able to leave and marry. The book gives much opportunity for liberals and progressives to criticize the Church. I wonder if he cares if in the end it causes more harm to souls than help?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It is obvious this man is in need of prayers especially for the salvation of his soul. The book is not worth the time. It is a book written to make a quick buck. It has made me think twice about purchasing future books published by Celbra.
MickeyMT More than 1 year ago
This is the story of a kid who had his candy taken away and now has to tell everyone how unfair that was. For ten years he lead a double life. He is the priest who was called "Father Oprah" because of a highly popular TV show. He had a radio talk show and a column in the newspapers. He had been carrying on an affair with a woman he was in love with for ten years. He led this woman on for ten years!! Finally, he got caught on a beach in Florida by a photographer who saw the two of them and exposed the affair. Why didn't this priest just leave the priesthood when he realized he was in love. Why? Because he had a TV show, a talk radio show and a newspaper column which would never have happened if he wasn't a priest. After he was caught did he suddenly realize that he had taken a vow of celibacy and now the Catholic church is the scapegoat that he can blame everything on? What a baby!!! In one instance after another he defends accused sex offenders by saying that the church abandoned them. Man, get real! These priest abused and traumatized children and he states that the church should have called them or had written them a letter to show support. I can't fathom his thinking. Wouldn't even give this book one star but since it is required, I did it. If you need your blood pressure raised then buy this book!
pattiMG More than 1 year ago
The problem I have is why not just go away quietly and not make a profit on your choice? Trying to justify his decision he loses me. I get it, you were not cut out to be a priest so why belittle the Catholics and the Catholic priests who did not make the same decision.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The author needs to do his soul searching alone with his God. He seems to hav forgotten some of the basic tentents of the faith he espouses.
AnnetteCB More than 1 year ago
As I closed the back cover of "Dilemma", I raised my arm and said "Yes!" It was so amazing to read, from an insider, all the problems that I myself had been having with the Catholic church for so long. Rev. Cutie's many dilemmas with the Church were fully realized through the crisis he experienced when his love for a woman was made public. In a church that expects its priests to be emotional enough to care for their flock and to work hard at it, how can they also expect their priests to just turn off that same emotion with regard to their own personal lives? Cutie also points out that priests are routinely moved from one parish to another, and again, they are just supposed to close off their feelings for the members of the old parish as if they were robots. The Catholic policing of communion is raised, where the Church feels it can deny the Eucharist to anyone they deem unworthy (or un-Catholic) despite Christ's example of the Last Supper where it was open to all believers. There are more examples of the type of controlling behavior I can only describe as a kind of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, where the Catholic church's image of themselves is always perfect and ultimately arrogant. Any problems are always the fault of others, never themselves. Many Catholics grow up with the supposed fact of 'One True Faith' so that it becomes a kind of ethnicity, and one that is hard to break free from. Ultimately one must leave behind childish things, grow up, think for yourself and decide what level of honesty you will support. In today's world where the Catholic church has petitions outside worship services wanting their parishioners to deny gays the right to marry as they enter the worship space, Rev. Cutie's humanity comes through loud and clear and continues to reverberate.
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MRW1217 More than 1 year ago
Excellent book from the beginning to the end! A few men can handle the truth and Reverend Albert Cutie is definetely one of them! Congratulations!!!
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Pope John Paul II: “We need heralds of the Gospel who are experts in humanity, who know the depths of the human heart, who can share the joys, the hopes, the agonies, the distress of people today, but who are at the same time, contemplatives who have fallen in love with God.” Dilemma is the story of how Father Alberto Cutié came to be such a herald. For twenty years as a Roman Catholic priest he witnessed how clerical politics & the doctrine of celibacy for priests hindered living out the life of service to God’s people he wanted for himself. Finally a personal crisis forced him to act on his changed convictions by renouncing his vow of celibacy so that he could be the married witness of faith that God wants him to be. As one who loves God deeply he felt better able share the joys, hopes, agonies & distress the rest of us feel!
Someonetonjoy More than 1 year ago
This was the very first book I purchased on my Nook Color and I can say that this was an excellent personification of where good clean true love can take you. It reveals what goes on behind closed doors of the Roman Catholic church which shouldn't be kept hidden. The prevalences today around the world are results of the actions of a lot of priests within this faith. To know that he found someone that loves him and his faith is remarkable! A definite must read!
blue462 More than 1 year ago
I attended a Catholic school and saw first hand how the nuns were nothing more then slaves. It's about time a priest stood up to a church that is very sexist,male oriented and very hypocritical. The book is very enlightening to what is actually going on in the church. I love the Mass and all the sacraments but it's time for reform.
Lissette_Alvarez More than 1 year ago
I ENCOURAGE EVERYONE TO READ THIS BOOK PARTICULARLY ALL ROMAN CATHOLICS. AS A FORMER ROMAN CATHOLIC ALL MY LIFE I CAN TELL YOU THAT I AM GLAD THAT I AM NO LONGER PART OF A CHURCH THAT LIVES A DOUBLE STANDARD. A FAKE IMAGE IS NOT GOD INTENTION FOR ANYONE TO LIVE AND ESPECIALLY THOSE WHO ARE SUPPOSE TO TEACH US HIS WORD AND HOW TO LIVE A CRISTIAN LIFE. IN OTHER WORDS PRATICE WHAT YOU PREACH. THE TIME HAS COME TO STOP THE DICTATORSHIP THAT ROME HAS WITH THE CHURCH AND ITS MEMBERS. THEY HAVE GOTTEN USE TO DICTATING IT'S MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY FOR TOO LONG. IT WAS A GREAT EXPIRIENCE READING FATHER CUTIÉ BOOK "DILEMMA" IT PUT ME THROUGH MANY EMOTIONS. YOU CAN FEEL HIS JOY OF BECOMING A PRIEST. YOU FEEL THE PASSION OF HIS LOVE FOR CHRIST AND HIS HUMANITY WITH HELPING OTHERS. THE PAIN HE FELT AND DISILLUSION THAT HE EXPIRIENCE AS THINGS OCCURRED FOR MANY YEARS. I PRAISE YOU FOR HAVING THE COURAGE TO WRITE THIS BOOK AND LETTING US KNOW THESE THINGS BUT, ALSO CONFIRMING WHAT MOST OF US ALREADY HAVE HEARD OR SEEN ABOUT THE ROMAN CHURCH. FOR SOME REASON THE UNTOUCHABLES. ON A DIFFERENT NOTE I BELIEVE THAT ALL PRIESTS SHOULD HAVE BEEN GIVEN THE RIGHT TO MARRY MANY MOONS AGO. THEY SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO LOVE AND BE LOVED BY THEIR OWN FAMILY. THIS WAS OUR GIVEN RIGHT BY GOD AND NO PERSON OR INSTITUTE SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO TAKE IT AWAY. MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS FATHER CUTIÉ YOU DEFENTLY HAVE GOD CALLING TO BE A PRIEST. TO GO THROUGH ALL YOU HAVE EXPERIENCE AND STILL HAVE THE LOVE TO CONTINUE BEING A PRIEST CAN ONLY MEAN A TRUE CALLING. YOU HAVE WRITTEN AND EXCELLENT BOOK THAT HAS MADE ME CRY IN MANY OCCASIONS THROUGHOUT THE BOOK. MANY BLESSING TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN YOUR NEW LIFE.