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With eye-opening statistics, original data, and vivid portraits of people who live alone, renowned sociologist Eric Klinenberg upends conventional wisdom to deliver the definitive take on how the rise of going solo is transforming the American experience. Klinenberg shows that most single dwellers—whether in their twenties or eighties—are deeply engaged in social and civic life. There's even evidence that people who live alone enjoy better mental ...
With eye-opening statistics, original data, and vivid portraits of people who live alone, renowned sociologist Eric Klinenberg upends conventional wisdom to deliver the definitive take on how the rise of going solo is transforming the American experience. Klinenberg shows that most single dwellers—whether in their twenties or eighties—are deeply engaged in social and civic life. There's even evidence that people who live alone enjoy better mental health and have more environmentally sustainable lifestyles. Drawing on more than three hundred in-depth interviews, Klinenberg presents a revelatory examination of the most significant demographic shift since the baby boom and offers surprising insights on the benefits of this epochal change.
“Klinenberg convincingly argues that the convergence of mass urbanization, communications technology, and liberalized attitudes has driven this trend.”
“[Klinenberg] leavens his copious array of statistics with dozens of anecdotes about individuals who live alone either by choice or by circumstance...This book is a catalog of possibilities.”
“Thought-provoking… Mr. Klinenberg argues that singletons comprise a kind of shadow population that’s misunderstood by policymakers and our culture writ large. Going Solo is an attempt to fill in the blanks – to explain the causes and consequences of living alone, and to describe what it looks in everyday life…. Klinenberg renders [these] stories vividly but also with nuance.”
“This book takes a wide-ranging look at a topic that applies to many of us, even if we don't realize it.”
“[Going Solo] serves as a good reminder that single living is alive and well.”
“As Klinenberg shows, this country is getting more single by the minute. The facts are astonishing.”
“Going Solo is invigoratingly open-minded.”
“Klinenberg’s research is meticulous…Going Solo makes much of the distinction between being alone and feeling alone, between desiring company and craving personal space. Klinenberg debunks the notion that living alone is always a transitional phase en route to domestic bliss with a partner or spouse.”
Americans are said to be individualistic, but that does not explain why, today, most Americans are single. Nor do the bromides about successful women who cannot find a man explain this phenomenon, despite magazine headlines. The main reason 28 percent of American households are single is money — having enough of it, that is. According to Eric Klinenberg's Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, most developed nations have high rates of unpartnered adults: Scandinavia and Japan outpace the U.S. with 40–45 percent and 30 percent of households, respectively. Globally, there was a 33 percent increase in solo living between 1996 and 2006. These numbers do not pertain to Third World countries, nor to Americans in poverty. Living alone is a middle- to upper-class luxury.
This is one of many fascinating and convincing arguments Klinenberg offers in this book, which weaves statistics with interviews of single Americans at every stage of life. Although sometimes flatfooted in his descriptions (one woman he interviews has "shoulder-length brown hair" and a "sweet but somewhat sinister smile"), Klinenberg makes rigorously researched sociology accessible and interesting, as he did in his previous book, Heat Wave. We are presented with a snapshot of decades: from twenty-five-year-olds in Brooklyn who play kickball on the "Non-Commital" team; thirty-something women happy on their own but worried about their biological clocks; middle-aged divorced men (going to seed without a wife to clean up after them) and their female counterparts who are content with not having to care for others (statistics do show that women fare better alone than men); and retirees who refuse to move in with the kids, who would place demands on their time.
Klinenberg isn't just presenting figures: he is also making arguments about public policy. Single women tend to be progressive and thus could be a powerful special-interest group for Democrats. But it has proven difficult to organize them as a bloc, perhaps because most prefer not to identify themselves as single. He discusses discrimination and structural hurdles such as health care and the higher price of living alone. He is so thorough, in fact, that I was surprised and disappointed that he never touched on the gay marriage movement, which might be said to go against this single-living trend and, by seeking for homosexuals the same rights as heterosexual married couples, might even be said to work against the political and economic interests of single people.
The subtitle makes clear Klinenberg's initial approach to his topic — that being single would be a drag. He is perennially surprised at how happy and content are so many singletons he interviews, how "rich and varied" their experience. He concludes that single living is not a social problem — in fact, it is a "collective achievement" of the industrialized world. But Americans are underprepared to address the needs of singles, particularly the elderly. (In Sweden, by contrast, he finds examples of successful policies and resources for singles.)
The challenge of being solo, for those who are single and those who study them, is that most prefer not to be on their own, but that does not mean being alone is an unfortunate experience to be remedied. Klinenberg addresses this complicated tidal shift in American demographics with nuance and rigor, to the benefit of America's new silent majority.
Anne Trubek is Chair of Rhetoric and Composition at Oberlin College and the author of A Skeptic's Guide to Writers' Houses.
Reviewer: Anne Trubek
Introduction: The Singleton Society 1
1 Going Solo 29
2 The Capacity to Live Alone 57
3 Separating 85
4 Protecting the Self 109
5 Together Alone 131
6 Aging Alone 157
7 Redesigning Solo Life 185
Appendix: Methods of Research and Analysis 235
Select Bibliography 255
Posted March 15, 2012
vital info about what is happening in our culture; how living patterns are changing faster than our assumptions about them and how we need to recognize and adapt to current conditions
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Posted September 20, 2013
This book struck a nerve for me as I am in the process of "going solo," being divorced after 44 years of marriage. I am not alone! This, research-based, book provides a rich mixture of statistics and very personal interview information from individuals facing life as a single, both by choice and by chance. And there are many more than one may imagine. While not a "how-to" book, per se, "Going Solo" rationalizes single living without glamorizing it. A should-read for both professionals and anyone contemplating, or actually, going solo.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
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