Patience: The Art of Peaceful Livingby Allan Lokos
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"As founder and guiding teacher of the Community Meditation Center in New York, Allan Lokos has an arsenal of tools for coping with stressful situations." - Rachel Lee Harris, New York Times
To survive the roller-coaster ride of life, with its ever-changing shifts from pleasure to pain, gain to loss, and praise to blame, requires a substantial depth of patience. In this life-changing book, Allan Lokos sheds new light on this much-sought-after state of mind, and provides a road map for cultivating greater patience in one's life.
According to Lokos, to develop a depth of patience we must first acknowledge the unhappiness caused by our impatience and anger in its many manifestations-from mild annoyance to rage. In this revelatory book, Lokos draws on his many years as a Buddhist practitioner and spiritual teacher, as well as interviews with a wide range of individuals who have had their patience tested-often dramatically so-and lays out a compelling path to the heart of patience."
"This book, both practical and profound, is a wonderful demonstration of just how to bring patience and a new way of being right into our daily lives. It is filled with insight, warmth, and compassion." — Sharon Salzberg, author of Real Happiness and Lovingkindness
"Allan Lokos has a depth of experience that is woven throughout this fine book. He reaches with both mind and heart into the nature of patience. As Lewis and Clark mapped our way into the timeless beauty of the Northwest, Lokos is a very wise and human guide who breaks trail into the country of patience, marking all the sacred sites along the way and honoring all the sacred guides who have come before." — Mark Nepo, author of The Book of Awakening
"Down-to-earth, full of ways to become more patient in challenging situations at home and at work, this book helps you develop one of the most important of all virtues for fast-paced, stressful, and often frustrating life today." — Rick Hanson, Ph.D., author of Buddha's Brain
"In this gem of a book Allan Lokos invites us to attend to and practice what is perhaps the most overlooked of all spiritual qualities. Patience is an important read for everyone." — Andrew Olendzki, Ph.D., Senior Scholar, Barre Center
"Allan Lokos has written an essential and profound book that can change your life. Spiritual growth is not like fast food. It takes time for its roots to grow and that requires us to be receptive and patient. Patience delves into its vital subject with wisdom and compassion and offers us a path to our own higher self. Understanding the challenges of our hurried and harried world, Lokos has written a remarkable and practical guide to becoming a truly patient and spiritually effective person." — Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi, author of Jewish with Feeling
"Drawing on Buddhist teachings and his own deep wisdom, Allan Lokos reminds us of the peace and freedom that is possible when we cultivate genuine patience. The stories and exercises give practical guidance in coming home to an openhearted presence in the midst of difficulty. This book is a compelling and beautiful invitation to pause and arrive fully in our life." — Tara Brach, Ph.D., author of Radical Acceptance
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Meet the Author
Allan Lokos is the founder and guiding teacher of the Community Meditation Center in New York City. A former professional singer who was in the original Broadway company of Oliver! among others, Lokos has published numerous articles and been a contributor to Tricycle magazine. He lives in New York City.
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What a beautiful gift for our lives...clearly showing us how we can change each moment we life, through a pause. To be patient with one's self and others it to truly love, live and be at peace in a world of chaos. I found the book and profiles to be incredibly moving, touching, insightful and "actively" helpful. You must read this book.
I know it sounds trite, but I found "Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living" to indeed be a life-changing book. It is an enjoyable read, not one of the spiritual books that I sometimes feel I should slog through because they are “good for me.” Lokos is a dynamic writer, with a sense of humor and a practical understanding of what it means to be a human being in today’s world. Patience offers day-to-day practices and wise reflections about bringing more peace and calm into my over-busy life. It shows me a path to help cope with the overwhelm I often feel and with the worries and anxieties that arise with life’s daily challenges, both big and small. I was so grateful for the wonderful “Profiles in Patience” in the book, which showed how all of us can overcome extraordinary challenges. The profile of the Native American sculptor Michael Naranjo brought me to tears. My life will be richer, both for myself and people in my life, for having read this book.
In “Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living,” Allan Lokos has not only written a profound book, but has done so beautifully, with intelligence, insight, humor, and wisdom. It is a gem and a “must-read.” A book about a virtuous quality could easily be dry and academic but Lokos writes with such warmth and skill that one feels guided by a compassionate master. The book springs to life in the Introduction and never lags. It is consistently entertaining, always lucid, and often deeply moving. I wanted to read it slowly but was pulled ahead, so now I’ve started my second reading. The author is a meditation teacher in the Buddhist tradition and he draws upon ancient wisdom as well as modern research to challenge the reader and invite us to view things as they really are, not just as they appear to be. He openly states that it takes patience to develop patience although he offers “skillful means” to help us get started. These are easy to learn but valuable practices to avoid saying or doing things while impatient or angry that could get us into deep trouble. Compelling chapters explore patience with oneself, our body, our loved ones, and in the workplace. He even addresses patience with modern technology. The chapter on patience with children is particularly brilliant, witty, and insightful. “When we teach a child to be truthful we offer them the gift of an ethical life. When we teach a child to take responsibility for their actions we offer them the gift of an honorable life. When we teach a child patience we offer them the gift of a dignified life.” Ultimately, the book focuses on how to become a truly patient person, not one who, in stressful situations needs to take a deep breath or count to ten, but is simply patient. By the time I was reading the last chapter I had become aware of the profound effect this book could have on my life and the lives of those around me. What a gift from a dedicated and patient teacher. I saw a review that said something like, a great deal of the world’s problems could be solved by taking Lokos’ advice. I completely agree.
This book brought relief to what it was a long suffering, is absolutely amazing. Thank you.
This is a book that will inspire whether you pick it up and open to a random page, or read from cover to cover. I suggest both approaches to this beautifully written book. Although I love reading on my Nook, this book asks to be held and kept handy for that inspirational minute or hour of reading. Its kind of like having a great talk with a wise and warm friend. Love it.
Wonderful insight into a complex issue. As a newbie to Buddhism I found the book challenging and directing. I am sure a more experienced practitioner would love the book as well. I am looking forward to re-reading this and can hardly wait for his next one. Do not miss this one!!
On a very busy afternoon, I set aside all my tasks and read Patience by Allan Lokos. I immediately felt all the busyness in my mind begin to slow down. Lokos gives us very accessible tools that we can use at any time when we wish to bring more patience into our lives. He is a gentle guide on this journey to patience and his book is a blessing to have nearby. Whether one is angry, frustrated, impatient or simply feels overworked, this book serves as a lifesaver or, better yet, an anchor amidst a chaotic sea! The profiles in the book illustrate tremendous struggles that some have successfully survived by calling on this patience. It made me realize what an ally patience is, and how I often forget to use it in my own life. I am so grateful to have these tools and this book. A must read for anyone!
Not a good read for me. Better read Eknath Easwaran