When it’s Time to Talk About Tragedy: 7 Books to Offer Comfort and Help

A Terrible Thing Happened, by Margaret M. Holmes
No matter what kind of traumatic event has happened, there’s a chance your little one needs an outlet, but has no idea that they do. This book is an illustrated tale of a little raccoon who witnesses a traumatic event and has physical and emotional problems afterward, resulting in stomach aches, bad dreams, and outbursts of anger. The story will give your children something to anchor their own feelings on; a chance to think, “I feel that way, too,” and will also give them the opportunity to talk freely about how they’re feeling. (Ages 4–8)

Badger’s Parting Gifts, by Susan Varley
This charming tale is a sweet, soft way to talk about the death of a loved one with your children. Badger’s friends are deeply saddened by Badger’s death, but find that his spirit and memories live on in the things he’s left behind, bringing his friends comfort. (Ages 4–8)

Rabbityness, by Jo Empson
A colorful story, this book approaches the topic of loss and sadness in a subtle, creative way. When Rabbit, a vibrant character, disappears, his friends feel the forest will never shine brightly again. But through the things Rabbit has left behind, they’re able to bring some life back to the world and find joy again. A wonderful, gorgeous book that celebrates originality, creativity, and how loss can be devastating, but can bring healing, too. (Ages 4–8)

Ben’s Flying Flowers, by Inger M. Maier and Maria Bogade
When Emily watches her little brother battle a serious illness before passing away, she is devastated and her whole world is turned upside down. In a story that will make you cry, little Emily goes through all of the emotions and stages of grief before finding acceptance and a way to cope. The story will help your children to understand that they can feel anything over a tragedy; whether that’s confusion, sadness, or anger, and that those feelings are valid and normal. (Ages 4–8)

14 Cows for America, by Carmen Agra Deedy and Thomas Gonzalez
A book written about September 11, this story is centered in Kenya, where the Maasai people have gathered to bestow an American diplomat with the gift they have intended for all the men, women, and children of America. It is a gorgeous story about how the world gathers together to help the fallen, and how we are all there for each other during troubled times, ready to help in our own way. (Ages 7–10)

Dear Mr. Rogers, Does It Ever Rain in Your Neighborhood?: Letters to Mr. Rogers, by Fred Rogers
After every tragedy, we all love to share the Mr. Rogers quote about finding the good, helpful people in the midst of upheaval. So who better to offer comfort via words than the man himself? In this collection of letters from real children, Mr. Rogers gives his advice and lovely insight on a myriad of topics, including grief, fear, and death. His words might express exactly what you wanted to say. (Ages 9–12)

Inside Out and Back Again, by Thanhha Lai
A young girl’s perfect home is torn apart by the Vietnam war, and now she is a refugee heading toward America. This book will give older children a narrative they’ll understand about an immigrant who is simply looking for a better life. Let it spark a discussion about helping others, how people look for safety, and the resilience of the human spirit. (Ages 9–12)
What books do you share with your children during difficult times?