Every twentysomething needs a little black book of secrets. Our twenties are filled with confusion, terrible jobs, anticipation, disappointment, cubicles, break-ups, transition, quarter-life crisis, loneliness, post-college what the heck, moderate success sandwiched between complete failure. We need a worn and weathered guide stashed somewhere close by to help shed some light on this defining decade.
That guide is this book.
Expanded from the blog post "21 Secrets for Your 20s" that spread like Internet wildfire with nearly a million readers in 190 countries, 101 Secrets for Your Twenties will encourage, inspire, prompt a plethora of LOLs, and kick-start your life forward with its witty, honest, and hilarious wisdom-stuffed pearls to help you rock life in your twenties.
This is the perfect gift for college graduation. Or the best Christmas present you can give to the 20-something in your life.
For everyone and anyone who is struggling through becoming an adult ... You need 101 Secrets for Your Twenties.
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About the Author
PAUL ANGONE is an author, speaker, humorist, story-teller, and founder of www.AllGroanUp.com - a place for those asking "what now?" His article 21 Secrets for your 20's, on which this book is based, has been read by over 700,000 people in 190 countries. Paul received his Bachelor's in Communication Studies at Westmont College and his Master's in Organizational Leadership at Azusa Pacific University. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife, and their two beautiful girls.
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101 Secrets for Your Twenties
By Paul Angone
Moody PublishersCopyright © 2013 Paul Angone
All rights reserved.
Sometimes surviving your 20s is nothing more glamorous than just holding on for dear life on the back of an inner tube like a kid being whipped around by a speed boat.
You can't see a thing.
Repeated waves knock the wind out of you.
Your hands are gripped so tight your fingers begin to cramp.
And your only choice of survival is to just let go.CHAPTER 2
The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If you're not willing to be embarrassed, you're probably not willing to be great.
A couple years ago while riding my bike at a park, I came across a peculiar, once-in-a-lifetime sight—a Beach Boys cover band up on a stage playing to a crowd of about 500 people. Like a moth to the flame of '60s music I stood there, when the band made an announcement:
"For our last song we need five volunteers to come on stage and play some air guitar. The crowd will vote on the best performance with the winner getting this!" The lead singer held up a beautiful, white Les Paul guitar. "First five that make it up front, make it on stage!"
Free guitar!? I couldn't have pulled up at a better time as I had a 50-foot head start on anyone in the crowd. People began to stand. A few started to run. I took two steps. Then froze. I looked at the size of the crowd. Anxiety rushed through me like I'd downed three Mountain Dews before running with the bulls.
Making a fool of myself for a free guitar? Was it worth it?
I didn't know a soul in the crowd. Get me on stage and I'll come alive and put on a show. But that takes me actually getting on stage.
I deliberated. I debated. And by the time I slowly sauntered over, they had chosen the five.
I missed the moment.
I then watched the five who made it on stage give halfhearted, lame attempts at air guitar that would've made Jimi Hendrix cry—their fear of embarrassment making it embarrassing. I felt sick because that guitar could've been mine.
But you have to be on the stage to win. They weren't going to give the guitar to the bystander in the front row who swore he could've done it better.
THE FEAR OF EMBARRASSMENT KILLS
The possibility for embarrassment and greatness usually exist in the same space. It's difficult to remove one and not the other. When you do, you exist in the middle. Mediocrity your brand. No one saying a thing about you—good or bad. Why would they?
That's where I've existed most days. How many moments have I lived in a sterile, white-walled existence where my perceived appearance is the wild card that trumps all?
Well nuts to that. Let's overnight the fear of embarrassment to the unreachable depths of the south pole.
The fear of embarrassment poisons creativity.
The fear of embarrassment stifles risk.
The fear of embarrassment lets insecurities call the shots.
Embarrassment thrives like a fungus in the petri dish of "what will others think?"
Who cares what others think?
Let them exist in the middle.
I want my guitar.
Who's with me?CHAPTER 3
Making and keeping friendships in your 20s is harder than G.I. Joe's abs.
Making friends was so easy when we were kids. Or at least that's how my nostalgia remembers it.
You tackled a kid at recess. Partnered with someone for Bio Lab. Played a basketball game at the park. Got cast in a play. Moved into a dorm.
Then bam, you had a friend.
Lots of them.
Like the kid whose dad worked for Nintendo—friends just waiting at your doorstep.
And then college happened—the height of Friend Mania.
And then college ended and with it, so did many of your friendships.
WHERE DID ALL THE FRIENDSHIPS GO????
Then you entered the abyss—the Friend Abyss.
Your 20s and 30s are deep, uncharted waters where friends are dumped in black bags never to be seen again.
All those friends-are-friends-forever friends, gone—the apparent expiration date on "forever" lasting about two and a half years.
Because you move. Get married. Have kids. Or work a 60-hour a week job. Keeping friendships in your 20s becomes harder than G.I. Joe's abs (that's prison-walls-hard, people) because you don't have the same shared experiences anymore. You're not going to class, then eating lunch, going to practice, eating dinner, hanging out until 2 a.m. like you did in college.
Now your best friend calls and the first thought in your head might be, "Really. Now. I don't have time."
You stare at the phone as if to say "I'm sorry" as the ring lets out one last cry for help before it's sent to voicemail like a kid sent to detention for not showing up on time.
Maybe you'll call back in a day, or maybe a week. But most likely when you do, you'll get voicemail too. Then you'll begin the respected twentysomething tradition: Voicemail Tag. Almost as fun as freeze tag when we were kids, with one big difference—it's not fun at all.
So after a couple back-and-forths on voicemail, then a couple texts, then a couple Facebook messages—next thing you know your friendship has been reduced to throwing out the once-a-year "Happy B-Day!!!!" Facebook wall post, giving it four "!!!!" to show just how excited you really are about your friend (check that friendship off for another year).
MAKING NEW FRIENDS
If keeping up with old friends is hard, making new ones is Bruce Lee-Fists-of-Destruction harder.
Between work, spouse, babies, work outside of work, and then those silly things like the need to sleep, who has time to go meet new people? And then actually go through the long, awkward process of Friending.
And the only thing harder than finding new friends post-college? Finding new couple friends post-college. Now four people to toss into the Compatibility Blender.
And the only thing harder than finding couple friends post-college? Finding couple married friends with young babies who:
A. Aren't on the fast track to divorce. So that by the time you finally go through all the awkward lunches, meet-and-greets, and you seal the friendship deal, one of them isn't off with their new assistant.
B. All four adults like each other, but the baby keeps slapping yours in the face and throwing temper tantrums like a spoiled teenager who gets a Kia for her first car instead of a BMW.
This twentysomething friend-shoot ain't easy...CHAPTER 4
Your 20s are about having the courage to write a frightful first draft.
I think most of us went into our 20s expecting a box office smash, when instead our twentysomething story is not even going to make it to the theaters. At least not yet.
As a writer, I used to be bummed about all the time and effort I spent writing hundreds of pages that would never see the light. But as I grew as a writer I learned that you have to write a lot of really atrocious first drafts before you can find the story you need to tell.
Our 20s are the same way. For many years it will be about getting words down on paper that we'll edit later. Plans will fail because that's part of Frightful First Draftdom. But five rewrites later, we'll lean back and say, "Wow, that's actually not too bad."
We have to be willing to allow ourselves to write some terrible first drafts.
You can't have a good story without a good struggle.CHAPTER 5
Don't ever, ever check Facebook when you're
C. Depressed and drinking.
E. Struggling for being blessed with singleness while some of your friends seem to be blessed wit a Brad Pitt lookalike and that blazing white picket fence shining with the glory of the American Dream on steroids.
OR–F. Anytime after 9:17 p.m.CHAPTER 6
Life will never feel like it's supposed to.
When am I going to experience the success I am supposed to? I've asked that question exactly 4,399 times and only now am I catching a whiff of the answer.
Because what the heck is "supposed to"? Who holds the blueprint for my life—down to the number of kids, salary, and size of my house? Who decides "supposed to"?
"Supposed to" is a lie. A fairy tale. It is the stealer of peace and productivity. It is the leading cause of Obsessive Comparison Disorder with everyone who "has it better."
No one has it all figured out. No one holds their first child with all the answers. Not many walk right into their passion from the graduation stage. Not everyone gets married like they're "supposed to" or climbs the corporate ladder full of broken rungs.
If we keep trying to live other people's lives, who is going to live ours?
Being twentysomething can feel like Death by Unmet Expectations. However, you are right now, at this moment, exactly where you need to be. You'll just only be able to see that five years and thirty-three days from today.
Let go of "supposed to." Tie an anvil around its neck and throw it out to sea.
If we're always trying to live like we're "supposed to," we're never going to truly live.CHAPTER 7
Feel no shame in seeking help from a counselor or therapist. We all have rotting junk we try to wrap and hide under the Christmas tree. Get rid of it before it smells up your entire holiday.
There is nothing more depressing than searching for a counselor to help with your depression.
At 24 years old, depression was seeping under my bedroom door like a gas leak, and I had no idea who to call to help plug it up.
I mean, find a counselor? How does one go about doing such a thing? It's not exactly something you post on Facebook.
"Hey, does anyone have a good recommendation for a Thai restaurant downtown? Oh, and a good therapist who specializes in depression and an anxiety that feels like your heart has been injected with 1,500 milligrams of caffeine?"
And if finding a counselor who you connect with isn't hard enough, finding a counselor who you connect with and can actually afford is a miracle worthy of a burning bush crossing the Red Sea. Sure, lots of us twentysomethings have an extra $300 a month lying around for mental health. I just didn't happen to be one of them.
But we all need help. And sometimes the greatest help we need is help finding help.CHAPTER 8
Those friends who are uber-successful in their 20s are the outlier—not the norm.
If your friend is rolling around in that Range Rover or is posting pictures in front of that three-story mini-mansion, your friend either:
— Robbed a bank.
— Is making heavy withdrawals from their parents' piggy bank.
— Is making heavy withdrawals from Visa's plastic bank.
— Is part of the .02 percent Twentysomethings Club that are making heavy deposits on their own.
But remember, sometimes it's those who have the sleekest exteriors and the prettiest dining room sets who have the most garbage shoved in their closets.CHAPTER 9
Stating in a bad relationship is like letting your heart lie in the sun too long and then being surprised when it burns.CHAPTER 10
You grow INTO growing UP. (Part One)
HERE ARE 29 SIGNS YOU'RE ... GASP ... AN ADULT!
1. Ikea has become your Disneyland
2. Sleep goes from being your nemesis whom you avoid, to your best friend whom you wish would come over more often.
3. Watching three hours straight of your favorite show begins to feel slightly less productive than it used to.
4. You hear a baby crying and your first reaction is not to run, but to help.
5. If all the work emails you've read and written were placed side by side, they would cross the Atlantic Ocean. There and back.
6. 10:00 p.m. is late. 11:00 p.m. is dangerous. 12:00 is insanity. 1:00 a.m. is a fairy tale you remember hearing about in college.
7. Your body begins to ache from your vigorous lack of movement.
8. You begin discussions with "Can you believe kids these days?"
9. Debt goes from being this fairy tale to be repaid in a land far, far, away. To your daily reality show.
10. Memories of how you're going to feel Sunday morning actually begin to factor into your decisions on Saturday night.
11. A Christmas sweater with a reindeer on it feels like a good idea. And you're not being ironic.
12. You've mastered the interview this is my dream job nod-and-smile for a job you don't want and can't believe you're applying for.
13. Facebook goes from being a hobby, to an obsession, to a chore you dread.
14. 93 percent of the photos on your phone are of your baby or pet. The remaining pictures are things you're trying to sell on Craigslist to make room for them.
15. You start cushioning all vacations with an extra day off for "recovery time."
16. Having lower lumbar support has become a major concern.
17. The thought of buying a new sofa or kitchen appliance makes you as giddy as a 12-year-old at a Justin Bieber concert.
18. You don't spend the week organizing your plans for Saturday night. No, organizing is your plans for Saturday night.
19. You haven't sprinted in two years. Something you realize too late as you try to dash across the street to avoid oncoming traffic, only to pull muscles you forgot you had.
20. Classical music becomes this weird, welcomed breather.
21. You have your first kid and realize what it's like to be young, be a parent, and have no clue what you're doing! And for the first time in your life, you actually begin to understand your parents.
22. You don't have any kids. But you have two dogs or cats. Whom you treat as your kids.
23. You're losing hair and gaining babies at an alarming rate.
24. You have a gym membership. That you've used twice in a year. One of those times was when you bought the membership. The other was when you tried to cancel it.
25. Your favorite movie and music posters are replaced by actual art. Granted, you purchased said "art" at Target or Ikea, but still.
26. You've caught yourself saying more than once, "I'm getting too old for this."
27. Doing the dishes becomes your relaxing getaway.
28. You go to a college campus and wonder why there are so many high schoolers there. Then someone says you're actually looking at a group of college sophomores.
29. You now understand what your parents meant when they said, "You'll understand when you're older."CHAPTER 11
Lousy Jobs are The Twentysomething Rite of Passage.
We no longer send a boy into the woods with a spear and a prayer to kill a wild boar, have a vision in the clouds, and then come back a Man.
No, but I'd argue we still have rites of passage.
Armed with a coffee mug, twentysomethings are sent into the inhabitable Land of Cubicles, to see a vision in a computer screen, kill a few presentations, and come back a real.live.adult ready to make their contribution.
I've had a slew of sludgy jobs myself. But now, I am thankful for all the jobs I once lamented. It's because of them, not in spite of, that I've begun to enter into that sweet spot of my passion aligning with how I make some moola.
However, before our chalice runneth over with thankfulness, let's shoot straight for a second.
Dung-Filled Jobs have always been around. My grandpa worked at a paper mill (dimly lit factory of hard manual labor) for thirty years, SEVEN DAYS A WEEK.
Our jobs mixing machiattos or encased in cubicles would've probably seemed a Vocation Vacation for millions from generations past and present.
Now please hear me, I'm not standing on Henry my High Horse yelling at you to "buck up, pardner" and stop complaining. I'm just reminding us all that it could be heckuva-lot worse. A little perspective can be powerful in making that sludgy job smell a little better.
So why am I now thankful for all my former jobs? Because we can learn the most in the jobs we like the least .
Take for example, my stint at a call center getting cussed out on the hour, every hour for something I couldn't fix or change. I wanted to quit every.single.day. But I was getting married in six months and couldn't afford a jaunt down Unemployment Lane.
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Table of Contents
Introduction “The Secrets” The Secret to Applying the 101 Secrets Acknowledgments
What People are Saying About This
Like advice from a wiser, funnier, older brother . . . Paul's been there, done that, and wants to save you some pain and some trouble.Seth Godin, New York Times bestseller and author of The Icarus Deception
You can be frustrated, fearful, and stressed out about your twenties or you can read this book, get a wake-up call and put yourself on the right path. Paul's advice on how to be successful in your twenties is timely, important, and will help you feel more confident in your own skin.Dan Schawbel, bestselling author of Me 2.0 and Promote Yourself
Life will never feel like it's supposed to. That's just one of the many motivating gems in Paul Angone's 101 Secrets for Your Twenties, which is the mid-to-late Millennials' answer to the Quarterlife Crisis. As a companion to Paul's successful website, AllGroanUp.com, the book gets to the heart of the worries on every twentysomething's mind and addresses them with straight-talk and humor.Alexandra Levit, author of Blind Spots: The 10 Business Myths You Can't Afford to Believe On Your New Path to Success
This book is funny, heartfelt, and important. Your twenties are a time of life that most people tend to glamorize or dismiss. Paul does neither. I especially liked #6.Jeff Goins, author of Wrecked: When a Broken World Slams into Your Comfortable Life
I love this book. 101 Secrets for Your Twenties is like a concentrated blender-shot of fluorescent green, ice crystally advice, insight, and wisdom. Toss your head back and enjoy the cold jolt.Neil Pasricha, author of the New York Times bestseller The Book of Awesome
101 Secrets is a masterpiece. Full of brilliant advice wrapped in belly-laughing hilarity, Paul Angone has a true gift for troubleshooting the trials and tribulations of post-grad adulthood. This book is a must-read for twentysomethings and beyond who are struggling with how to navigate in today's hyper-connected, chaotic world—and the book itself is formatted as a fun, engaging page-turner. Paul promises "wheelbarrows full of wisdom-stuffed pearls, laced with humor and vulnerability," and that's exactly what you're going to get. Just don't ask him to whip you up a Venti half-caf 2.5-shot sugar-free-vanilla no-foam upside-down latte.Jenny Blake, author of Life after College: The Complete Guide to Getting What You Want
Paul gives humorously wise insights that will give twentysomethings a sneak peak of what's to come, perspective that will help them breathe and the reality that they aren't alone. My top three . . . er . . . sixteen were: #2, #3, #7, #9, #18, #21, #24, #38, #47, #77, #80, #84, #87, #95, #100 and #10’s nineteenth sign made me say, "TRUTH!" out-loud. Being the ripe 30-year-old that I am, you can trust me.Joy Eggerichs, director of Love and Respect Now
Paul is an emerging voice for this generation. He understands the unique struggle of those going through the rocky, ambiguous, thrilling decade of their twenties and has a gift for delivering rock-solid truth packaged in laugh-out-loud humor.Christine Hassler, author of 20 Something Manifesto, speaker, life coach
Paul knows twentysomethings. He shares secrets that are really gold, even to non-twentysomethings. Gold to understanding twentysomethings. Gold to understanding today. Understanding this generation. Understanding your kids. The book helps me be a better father . . . a better pastor. I feel more prepared. Don't tell my boys—or the young people at my church. It's supposed to be a secret.Ron Edmondson, pastor, organizational leadership consultant
101 Secrets is the perfect mix of humor and wisdom. I read it in a single sitting, but the insights will stick with me for a long time. My favorites are #2, #5, #33, #71, #81 and #97 (plus several more but I was only allowed to pick a few). Where was this book when I graduated from college?Allison Vesterfelt, author of Packing Light
What Paul Angone has done in 101 Secrets for Your Twenties may well be the definitive field manual for post-graduates. He's a gifted writer, blending humor, stories, truth, and advice in a way that makes anyone the wiser for picking this up. Best of all, he helps young people lay a foundation for success later in life. If you don't believe me, then read #7, #19, or #61.Sam Davidson, author, college speaker, social entrepreneur
I always tell people that I'm enjoying my 30s way more than my 20s and now I know why: I didn't have this book! Secrets #21 and #36 alone would have helped me through so many situations. I can't tell you how happy I am that this book exists for the next generation!Bryan Allain, author of This is NOT a Treasure Map and Actually, Clams Are Miserable
As a recent escapee of my twenties, I wish I had been given a book like this when I graduated from college. In an age when we are led to believe that a college diploma is a winning lottery ticket for a dream job, and uber-success is as easy as writing the perfect status update on Facebook, Paul’s book is a fantastic, fun, and above all true guide for the often frustrated, fearful, or just flat broke twentysomething. Keep a special lookout for secret #8, #21, and #76. Secret #76 has been pretty much the last ten years for me.Matt Appling, teacher, pastor, and author of Life After Art: What You Forgot About Life and Faith Since You Left the Art Room
101 Secrets for Your Twenties is a refreshingly honest compilation of life truths. Paul Angone has cleverly put into words our twentysomething experience, yet with a passionate and purposeful goal of helping young adults navigate this unique stage in life without regret. If you're like me, you'll laugh (especially at secrets #5, #17, and #44), ponder (secrets #29 and #43), and say a lot of “Amens!” along the way (secrets #1, #21, and #53).Adam York, editor, Collegiate magazine
A subtitle for this book might well be “How do you face the realities of life in your twenties?” Paul treats the issues one faces whether they are career-related, personal relationships, or individual hang-ups in addition to a host of other issues with amazing honesty, creativity, and wisdom beyond his years. I wish his 101 Secrets had been in print when I was entering my late and post-teen years. Whether it be secret #7, #27 or #77, or any of his 101 secrets, Paul provides incredible insight in helping a young person cope with a wide variety of life issues. This is a great read at any age, but especially valuable for young adults and I highly recommend it!David C. Bicker, PhD, professor emeritus and Founding Chair of the Department of Communication Studies at Azusa Pacific University
Introducing Paul Angone. A raw human being. A fellow human struggler. A creative, gifted writer who is good at making fun of himself.
Paul sort of splats out his frustrations in delineated fashion and then tidies them up into a comedy act and finalizes the show with some serious good advice that applies to people well beyond their twenties. If you're looking for your destiny and can't find it, then steal away somewhere and read this book. It's a punchy non-preachy pep talk that will help you persevere and not settle for something less like mediocrity.Sarah Sumner, author of Men and Women in the Church
This is the kind of book that I wish I had read when I was in my twenties. It would have saved me from some unnecessary trial and error experiences including the anxiety that came with some of my ill-informed choices. Paul's humorous approach to some of life's early challenges will help the reader maintain a healthy perspective as some common assumptions are challenged. My favorite secret is #62, which I believe to be the key to lifelong healthy living.Ray Rood, founder of The Genysys Group
When I read Paul Angone's second secret, I was hooked: "The possibility for greatness and embarrassment both exist in the same space. If you're not willing to be embarrassed, you're probably not willing to be great." Paul's capacity for embarrassment makes his book a very, very funny one. It's worth reading if for no other reason that it will make you laugh out loud as it did me. But it is much more: it is wise. I've worked with so-called twentysomethings for twenty years, and I have stopped reading the boring dissertations social scientists write to explain these folks. Paul's collection of zany epigrams beats them all, hands down.Ben Patterson, campus pastor, Westmont College
A wry, witty confection of insights about life in the twenties, for emerging adults from one who knows them well and is still one of them at heart.Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, author (with Elizabeth Fishel) of When Will My Grown Up Kid Grow Up? and Emerging Adulthood
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Words of wisdom filled with witty humor. A must read for every 20 something struggling to make sense of this thing we call life...
The Book as a Whole and the Author I must say, Paul Angone knows how to grab a reader and keep them intrigued. Angone starts the book with a kick and giggle. He covers just about every topic that a 20-something person could possibly conceive. I wish I would have found this book in my early twenties, instead of after I have been through it all. I suspect that is why MANY of the tips made me burst out laughing. Many tips were great, accompanied with witty remarks that kept me giggling and wanting to keep reading. Throughout the book, there are also WONDERFUL LIFE TIPS that are more serious and well worth reading!! From faith to work to realtionships, Angone knows what he is talking about. My Favorite Parts My favorite tip in the whole book discusses finding "The ONE", you know.....the ONE that you are supposed to meet and marry. I find that even though I am mostly through my twenties, I still needed this tip. Angone talks about what you really need to find and that THE ONE may just be as big a myth as a unicorn. Instead we should be looking for someone that is THE FOUR: best friend, lover, business partner, and wartime ally. I won't disclose everything in depth; I did find this tip the most fascinating and relevant. What I Got From The Book I absolutely LOVED this book. Everything about the wittiest and smarty-pants -ness of the whole book deeply enthralls me. I love sarcasm and Angone tickles that sweet spot with this book. The tips are so hilarious because they are so true. If you are a beginning "twenty to lifer" (LOL) GET THIS BOOK!!
So good! I think every twenty-something should read this book at least once, if not once every year. It's insightful, funny, and encouraging. There's no way you can go wrong with this book--it's worth it!
If you're on the fence about whether to buy "101 Secrets for Your Twenties," hop off immediately. This book is not only a personal companion through the treacherous waters of the the defining decade, making you feel less alone and overwhelmed, it's also full of sage words that help you make your way to the other side. While it is definitely not a "self-help" book (which I think is one of its strengths), there is certainly plenty of advice and thoughts in here to make it practical and useful. Until 101 Secrets, there hasn't been a book for twentysomethings that comes anywhere near this one in terms of level of sustained reader engagement (Paul Angone is wicked funny!), sound insights, and depth of understanding of what this decade is all about. I've been wanting to see a book like this for ages and am so glad it's finally here. I'll be giving it as gifts for many years to come.
I absolutely loved this book. Angone is an extremely talented writer; he's funny, and frank, and he makes you think. 101 Secrets reminds you that you're not alone, and shows you how amazing it can be to be in your twenties. I am so glad that Paul published this book; I've only had access to it for about a week, and it has changed my life. Well done, sir.
This book will be my Christmas present this year to everyone in my family, and all my friends! Everyone needs to read this book. If you've ever been 20, or will be someday, this is for you. It's light, quirky and full of great advice on all the challenges that each of us face.
This book contains so much awesomeness that I almost. cannot. handle. it. And it's not the empty, fluff that you'll hear elsewhere -- instead, it's real, relatable, and chock filled with seriously good advice. The world needs more books like this (and more voices like Paul's) out there. If you're feeling lost, frustrated, or alone in your twenties, then I thoroughly recommend that you buy it. Now.
I've always been really skeptical of articles or books that have titles that include the word "secrets" and a number afterwards. Articles like: "10 secrets of Super-Happy Couples" Or "10 secrets to flawless skin" or "10 secrets to success" or "20 secrets for the perfect wedding". Most of these articles are full of bull crap that is fluffed up by so-called professionals and "experts" that just want to get read or published or rich. But even with my cynicism of "secrets" and articles and books of lists that I always thought existed for the sole purpose of stealing your money and being used as really awesome kindling, I somehow got this book "101 Secrets for Your Twenties" and read the whole thing, did not burn it, and actually want to give it to every friend I have. I've been reading Paul's blog "All Groan Up" for about a year now (I recommend this greatly if you've never stopped by) and I guess knowing Paul and his writing before made me trust that this wasn't like all those other books and articles full of the "secrets" to life. Paul's article "21 Secrets for Your 20′s" started the yearning for more words of wisdom with the perfect amount of humor. This guy wasn't writing to get rich. He is writing because he's been there and he wants others to learn from what he learned. 101 Secrets for Your Twenties will now be my new go-to gift for high school graduates, college graduates, and all my twenty-something friends who have birthdays coming up. Buy it. Read it. Be blessed.
Firstly I love the way this book is laid out. There are 101 snippets of advice, and they are clearly numbered and kept fairly brief. This makes it really easy to read, and also really easy to refer back to. I have dog-eared some of the pages for things I want to remember and come back to later on. You don't have to read the whole book in one go, it's easy to pick up and snatch a few snippets of advice in short blocks of time. The content of the book is also really relevant to me - I am 29 now, almost the same age as the author, and I wish I had known some of this stuff when I was 19. This type of self-help book should be mandatory reading for young-uns embarking on their adulthood, as well as their parents. Sometimes the hardest part of your 20s is explaining yourself to your parents, and Paul recognises this. This is the type of book I would share with my friends, because I think that they would really benefit from it too. Couldn't recommend it highly enough.
I’m normally not a fan of non-fiction, self-help books. Yes, they can contain helpful information, but I prefer getting lost in the world of fiction. However, when I do happen to stumble across a book that resonates with me, I know it’s special for one of two reasons: 1) I’m encountering something I wish I had read about 10 years ago, or 2) I feel like I could be great friends with the author. 101 Secrets for Your Twenties, the debut book from author/speaker Paul Angone, fits both bills. Paul covers everything from faith and family to career and calling, and he delivers every chapter with doses of humor, honesty and personality. Some chapters made me laugh; some made me pause and reflect; others nearly moved me to tears. Some chapters are only a page long and others are multiple pages; every length is completely justified given the subject matter and/or the respective story. These bite-size chapters make the book incredibly readable and easy to digest while still giving lots to chew on. What I loved most was the balance of insight/instruction and Paul’s story. It’s in these stories that I made me reflect on my own experiences – both past and present, as well as fears of the future. If you’re in your teens, this book will give a great glimpse of what’s to come. If you’re in your twenties, this book will meet you where you’re at [and make you feel less alone]. If you’re past your twenties, this book will let you look back on that decade of your life and smile. Wherever you’re at, you’ll find a friend in Paul. I know I did.
I'm not even kidding. Every 20-something needs this book! So if you know someone who's in their twenties, buy it for them. If you have no money or don't like them enough to spend money on them, just tell them about it. Because it's going to make a difference in their life! When we're in our twenties, we kind of have no clue what we're doing. THIS WILL HELP! Paul is a great writer who offers down-to-earth, no BS advice for anyone who's feeling a little lost during this greatly confusing time of adulthood . Buy it, or I'm going to have to smack you a little. :) Kayla
Where's My Flux Capacitor? Wish This Book Existed a Decade Ago! I laughed so hard I made a "squeeeeeeee" noise at one point. My eyes welled up a time or two. Or three. Or nine. Reading Angone's heartfelt, transparent (and too often hilariously relatable) recollection of 20-something reality had me roaring and reeling page after page. My only wish is that this book existed a decade ago when my 20s were tough and I felt like I was all alone in a big bad grown up world, without a clue or a road map. This is going to be my go-to gift for new grands and 20-something birthdays. Paul, you nailed it... 101 times!
Paul has done a really excellent job here. Not only is this book full of timeless advice, it is also a fun read. The best part of the book is that it is written in a way that will be easily understood for generations to come. The personal style of Paul's writing makes it feel like you are discussing life's greatest questions with one of your buddies. Even in today's Twitter world (i.e. a world emphasizing streamlined messages) you won't be bored reading this book. I highly recommend this book for anyone searching for greater self-understanding, not just 20Somethings.
101 Secrets is my new favourite book! Seriously! No book—bar the Bible—has been more timely, more relatable, more motivational, and more hopeful than this book. I HIGHLY recommend it to any and everyone who is in their teens, in their twenties, in their thirties…basically to everyone. If you have books you give family, friends, colleagues, etc. for birthdays and other special occasions, make this book that book! If you’re not quite in your teens yet, 101 Secrets will appropriately prepare you for your twenties. If you’re out of your twenties, there may yet be some lessons that need learning. 101 Secrets can shed light on them. If you are a parent, minister, or educator who deals with twentysomethings, this book can help you understand (or remember) what this demographic is up against. The twenties to day ain’t what they were twenty years ago. Heck they’re not even what they were ten years ago. If it wasn’t for all the times I laughed out loud reading this book, the overwhelming times of emotion evoked by when something hit too close to home would have caused me to cry. You will LOVE this book! I kid you not! Buy it today!!
Excellent book! If you're in your twenties and you're looking for some answers - finding passion, getting a job, not giving up even though everything just SUCKS: this book's for you. It's awesome!
Paul's '101 Secrets for Your Twenties' is a beautiful mix of humor, passion, vulnerability, and gratitude that will inspire, educate, and entertain. Pick it up when you turn 20, scoff at the advice, believing you'll never become THAT person. Then read it again at 25, and be thankful for the honest advice. Then read it again when you're 29, and laugh your a$$ off at how absolutely true it all is and how you totally have become THAT person. Pick up a copy for a recent grad and one for yourself -- no matter how old you are -- and enjoy the candid advice and unapologetic humor about this rollercoaster decade or our lives.
This is my new standard high school and college graduation gift. Every graduate, every twenty-something needs to read this book. As a new twenty-something, I would have LOVED to get such an amazing treasure, overflowing with gems of wisdom. 101 Secrets for your Twenties is a great tool to help twenty-somethings not feel so alone or lost on their journey through this decade. The secrets offer hope in knowing that you aren't alone and this isn't the end of the road. They serve as landmarks helping to guide you from growing to grown. Paul's writing is witty and funny. You will literally laugh out loud. He is right on target with his messages, and so personable that you'll want to be his new best friend. I also appreciate that the book is laid out for easy reading. You'll love all 101 secrets in Paul's book. Each secret is either self-explanatory, or accompanied by a short anecdote or story to further illustrate his point. But, don't be fooled by its simple readability; it's pure genius, kindly laid out for us to make the hard lessons a little easier. Don't brave your quarter-life crisis alone; bring along 101 Secrets for your Twenties.
I love the the feeling of "this person totally gets me" this this book offered that 101 times over. As twenty-somethings, we often feel as if we're fumbling through uncharted territory, completely alone in our thoughts and experiences. This book debunks that myth. Pairing brilliantly concise bits of wisdom with honest and relatable humor, Paul drives home the point: your twenties are a time for exploration and growth, so don't waste them watching reruns of "Friends." This book encapsulates all the wisdom and advice I would hope to pass on to my sister as she embarks on her next big journey through college in the fall, minus the awkward silences, plus more clever one-liners than I could ever hope to spit out in one sitting.
The best thing about this book is when I realized that I’m not alone (Secret 32). I’m not alone in my lousy job, frustration, disappointment, confusion and insecurity. I’m not alone feeling as if my dream is so far from coming true. But this book didn’t gloss over or skirt around the truth. It’s real and relatable, and proclaims truths which may be hard to swallow (like 73). However it’s what I need. It’s what most twenty-somethings need. Oh so desperately. If you’re a twenty-something, this book has something for you. It addresses work, love, dating, marriage, relationships, friendships, faith, passion, emotional, financial, and physical health, goals, etc. The advice is concise, and comes from someone who (you can just tell) has been there, done that. Paul’s voice is clear and friendly, as if he’s sitting next to me at a bar, telling me how it is in a straight forward yet encouraging tone. There were so many connections and ah-ha moments for me, including but not limited to secrets 19, 29, 68, 69, 73, 86, 87. And as I read, I found secrets to share with my boyfriend (43, 96), my brothers (55, 87), high school friends (10, 66), co-workers (11, 45) cousins (15) and on and on. Out of 101 secrets, there was only one that I’m in denial about (52) and that’s just because I’m not a fan of wine. (I’m a mixed drinks kind of girl.) But even so that’s a great percentage of relatablility. I can imagine that not every twenty-something could connect with every secret, but I’d bet everyone could find at least one (if not a dozen) that speak to their situation. There were even secrets that relate to writers like me. Secrets 4 and 21 had writer-specific inspiration, if not directly then in metaphor. Paul says “Don’t cram your plotline into someone else’s story!” (pg53) when urging twenty-somethings not to compare themselves to other possibly more successful (on the outside Facebook) friends. This book isn’t just a list of secrets that you chuckle at then set aside. It is an affirmation. It is a call to action. It’s a reminder not to dismiss your 20s, but not to put them on a pedestal either. So many of the secrets aren’t just oh-that-makes-sense moments, but they require contemplation. And so many beg to be applied to real life. 101 Secrets for your Twenties is a connection and a community. It makes life less lonely (as well as a great college graduation gift). It’s something not to keep secret, but to share. To yell about from the top of a mountain (or here in Indiana, the top of a barely-there hill). It’s something to tweet about, blog about and is worthy of a status update… or seven. It’s just that good!