While it may seem like a simple enough act, forgiveness is a difficult, delicate process which, if executed correctly, can be profoundly moving and a deep learning experience.
Whatever the scenario may bewhether you need to make peace with a certain situation, with a loved one or friend, or with a total strangerthe process of forgiveness is an art and a science, and this hands-on guide walks readers through it in 8 key steps. How can we become forgivingly “fit”? How can we identify the source of our pain and inner turmoil? How can we find meaning in what we have suffered, or learn to forgive ourselves? What should we do when forgiveness feels like a particularly tall order? All these questions and more are answered in this practical book, leading us to become more tolerant, compassionate, and hopeful human beings.
About the Author
Wisconsin–Madison. He established the International Forgiveness Institute, Inc. in 1994. He is the pioneer researcher in the social sciences on the psychology of forgiveness. TimeMagazine referred to him as "the forgiveness trailblazer." The author of over 130 publications, including seven books, he has lectured extensively across the world on the themes of forgiveness therapy and forgiveness education.He has appeared on ABC’s “20/20,” NBC’s
“Nightly News,” and in the National Public Television documentary
“The Power of Forgiveness.” He currently is helping schools to establish forgiveness education in Athens, Greece; Belfast, Northern Ireland; Galilee, Israel; and Monrovia, Liberia, Africa.
Babette Rothschild, MSW, has been a practitioner since 1976 and a teacher and trainer since 1992. She is a bestselling author of six books, all published by WW Norton and translated into more than a dozen languages. She is also the creator and Series Editor of the 8 Keys to Mental Health Series. After living and working for 9 years in Copenhagen, Denmark she returned to her native Los Angeles where she is writing her next books while she continues to lecture, train, consult, and supervise professional psychotherapists of all sorts worldwide.
Table of Contents
Foreword Babette Rothschild xi
Key 1 Know Why Forgiveness Matters and What It Is 1
Key 2 Become Forgivingly Fit 32
Key 3 Identify the Source of YOur Pain and Address Your Inned Turmoil 59
Key 4 Develop the Mind of Forgiveness 87
Key 5 Find Meaning in What you Have Suffered 115
Key 6 When It's Hard to Forgive 142
Key 7 Learn to Forgive YOurself 172
Key 8 Develop the Heart of Forgiveness 200
Appendixt: Reminders about the reminders 227
Suggested Reading 233