And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

by Meaghan O'Connell


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A raw, funny, and fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like a grown up.

When Meaghan O'Connell got accidentally pregnant in her twenties and decided to keep the baby, she realized that the book she needed — a brutally honest, agenda-free reckoning with the emotional and existential impact of motherhood — didn't exist. So she decided to write it herself.

And Now We Have Everything is O'Connell's exploration of the cataclysmic, impossible-to-prepare-for experience of becoming a mother. With her dark humor and hair-trigger B.S. detector, O'Connell addresses the pervasive imposter syndrome that comes with unplanned pregnancy, the fantasies of a "natural" birth experience that erode maternal self-esteem, post-partum body and sex issues, and the fascinating strangeness of stepping into a new, not-yet-comfortable identity.

Channeling fears and anxieties that are still taboo and often unspoken, And Now We Have Everything is an unflinchingly frank, funny, and visceral motherhood story for our times, about having a baby and staying, for better or worse, exactly yourself.

Smart, funny, and true in all the best ways, this book made me ache with recognition." — Cheryl Strayed

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780316393843
Publisher: Little, Brown and Company
Publication date: 04/10/2018
Pages: 240
Sales rank: 1,007,537
Product dimensions: 5.60(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Meaghan O'Connell's writing has appeared in New York Magazine, Longreads, and The Billfold, where she was an editor. She lives in Portland, OR, with her husband and young son. 

Table of Contents

Baby Fever 3

Holding Patterns (1 to 41.5) 36

A Birth Story 70

Sleepless Nights 114

A Certain Kind of Mammal 129

Slacker Parent 147

Maternal Instincts 163

Dry Spell 179

Extra Room (1 to 26) 200

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"The candor of Meaghan O’Connell’s voice—at once tender and brutal—offers the glorious surge of recognition that comes from hearing stories told without varnish or apology. Every time I return to her words I feel simultaneously terrified and consoled—that sure signal that I am in the presence of the truth."

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