Your husband cheated on you, and now you don't recognize yourself.
You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you're falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing, such as:
* Obsessively checking your husband's email and Facebook accounts
* Going through his cell phone history while he is in the shower
* Freaking out if he is 10 minutes late (or if you text him and he doesn't reply right away)
* Questioning whether you are attractive
* After a rare happy moment with your husband, getting really, really angry and raging at him out of nowhere
You're scared. Angry. Obsessive. Devastated.
One minute, you hope your marriage will make it. The next minute, you want to kill him. (And the other woman, too.)
All of this makes you feel like you are losing it. Sometimes you worry that you are going crazy. You wonder if you'll ever be the same again.
You are NOT crazy! You are having a normal reaction to being blindsided by your husband's betrayal! Your reactions are completely rational and expected responses to such a painful experience.
This book will help you figure out what to do as you deal with these explosive emotions. It's important that you understand that your feelings--erratic and unpredictable as they may be--are normal. You need to understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings.
Caroline Madden, infidelity expert and marriage therapist describes:
Posttraumatic Affair Syndrome (PTAS)
7 Actions you want to take but should NOT (as They May Backfire Horribly)
Understand the thoughts that plague you
12 Actions that will help you get back to the woman you were
The stupid things your husband says and why he says it
This book does not take a position on whether or not you should stay in your marriage. The suggestions provided here will help you get through this difficult time, even if you decide to leave the marriage. It is geared towards helping you deal with your tumultuous emotions and make sound decisions.
|Publisher:||Train of Thought Press|
|Series:||Surviving Infidelity, Advice From A Marriage Thera , #1|
|Product dimensions:||6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.19(d)|
About the Author
Table of ContentsTable of Contents
Chapter One: How His Affair Has Changed You 3
Chapter Two: Hit By A Mac Truck-The Effects of Trauma 6
Chapter Three: Intrusive Thoughts-The Thoughts That Plague You 15
Chapter Four: Resist these 7 Urges as They May Backfire Horribly 32
Chapter Five: Actions To Help You Feel Safe 51
Chapter Six: The Stupid Crap He Says and Why He Says It 56
Chapter Seven: The Emotional Affair and Why He Doesn't Get It 61
Chapter Eight: 10 Practical Steps to Take to Save Your Sanity 65
Conclusion: This Isn't Right, But You Will Be Okay 78
Excerpt of Fool Me Once............................................. 79
Works Cited or Used for Inspiration 81
Other Books by Caroline Madden, MFT 84
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Reviewed by Katelyn Hensel for Readers' Favorite It could never happen to you. Not your husband. He would never cheat. But then...he does. All of a sudden, your world is turned upside down. What happens now? How do you deal with kids, relatives, etc. when you can barely see past the pain? When you can't even recognize who you are because of all the actions you are doing out of anger. Blindsided By His Betrayal: Surviving the Shock of Your Husband's Infidelity is Caroline Madden's resource for those in the midst of the chaos of infidelity. This tool will help you make sense of your emotions and reactions, and provide some strategies as to where to go from here. Caroline Madden doesn't pull any punches when it comes to this self-help guide to marriage trauma. I really appreciated that the book didn't get all preachy about the decision to stay in a marriage or not. That decision is difficult enough to make between two people who have been together for some amount of time, and their therapist who may or may not know the couple very well. By remaining somewhat neutral on staying or leaving a marriage, I was able to trust the information because it wasn't trying to persuade me to go one way or another. Blindsided By His Betrayal: Surviving the Shock of Your Husband's Infidelity will be the go-to resource for women struggling with their lives after discovering infidelity. It provides calm, logical, and reassuring information, and tips that will come in handy for those still caught reeling in disbelief.