Boys Bars Becoming

Some of us found ourselves in rooms with sticky floors.

Dollar drinks. Music loud enough to feel in your sternum. Strangers who became your people before you even knew their names. A world that existed before the apps, before the algorithms, before you had to optimize yourself for someone else's checklist.

We are human first. Gay second. And this is a book about the human underneath.

Boys Bars Becoming is a collection of essays about gay men of a certain age — who we were in those rooms, who w...