Breaking Protocol: Forging a Path Beyond Diplomacy

Breaking Protocol: Forging a Path Beyond Diplomacy

by Bob J. Satawake


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In 2013, Bob J. Satawake accompanied his husband, Ambassador James “Wally” Brewster, to the Dominican Republic for a historic and unnecessarily controversial tour of duty representing the United States. As the first gay diplomatic spouse in the Western Hemisphere, Bob received little, if any, guidance from the U.S. State Department on how to navigate his new role—leaving him little choice but to break the rigid protocols of diplomatic life. He experienced discrimination, homophobia, and outright hostility as he attempted to forge a new path in a conservative and religious country.

Bob’s amazing and heartwarming story is about a regular guy who found himself catapulted onto the front lines of diplomacy on the world stage, and how he used kindness, love, humility, and diplomacy to overcome hate and intolerance.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781733077903
Publisher: Bob J. Satawake
Publication date: 07/04/2019
Pages: 196
Sales rank: 156,021
Product dimensions: 5.98(w) x 9.02(h) x 0.69(d)

About the Author

A fighter for gender equality and human rights, Bob J. Satawake champions causes such as LGBT equality, gender-based violence, diversity, inclusion, foreign policy, democracy, and fair elections. Bob is a writer, speaker, lecturer, blogger, and contributor to various news publications regarding humanitarian rights and marginalized people. He lives in Texas with his husband Wally and their two dogs, Clinton and Carter.

Table of Contents


Part I

1: Small Town Oklahoma

2: New Adventures

3: Experiencing a White House State Dinner

4: Navigating the Waters of Diplomatic Appointment

5: A Confirmation Hearing, a Lockdown, and a Wedding

Part II

6: Life in the Chief of Mission Residence

7: Breaking Protocol

8: Cardinal Sins

9: Unearthing Corruption

10: Building Diplomatic Friendships

11: Going Home

12: Conclusion: Working to Improve Democracy



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Breaking Protocol: Forging a Path Beyond Diplomacy 5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
Anonymous 5 months ago
The journey of author Bob J Satawake is inspiring and one that has international controversy including Presidents and the Pope. The story of the spouse of the first openly gay US Ambassador in the Western Hemisphere is one not to miss. A must read!
AnneBruce-Speaker-Author 8 months ago
I rarely review a book by a first-time author that I consider a home run. However, Bob Satawake, has hit this one out of the park. From beginning to end, it was hard to put this book down. Get a copy of Breaking Protocol and you'll be inspired to speak your truth and help make the world a stronger, better place. Satawake's work speaks to one humanity—one beating heart—for all man- and woman- kind. This feeling and paradigm shift is only one small piece of what you'll take away after reading this controversial and riveting book. Author Satawake's story is not only profoundly stirring, but heart-hitting. Starting with humble beginnings, Satawake took the world stage and uncovered more than any man could have bargained for. When most people would hide in the shadows of life's atrocities and the most unforgiving experiences, Bob Satawake, valiantly casts his own shadow of truth and self-honor upon those marginalized and without a voice. This is a noble writer and man, whom I've had the distinct pleasure to meet in person. From this book, I've drawn strength. I look forward to this author's next book.
psjask 8 months ago
Bob’s story is a truly touching one. In this memoir, he shares intimate truths and struggles from his youth that inspired him to become a human rights advocate and LGBT activist. Bob used the lessons he learned from the school of hard knocks to navigate the tumultuous world of a diplomatic spouse. I never knew so much was expected from these hard-working Americans, yet so little support is given by the very government they represent. Bob’s perspective is unique in that he was the first gay diplomatic spouse in a country whose religious leaders never missed an opportunity to throw a punch below the belt. Bob relied on his wits and gut instinct to take the high road and continue his path of trying to improve the lives of others. He’s willing to admit his missteps along with his victories, making him a guy everybody can relate to. This is a great read for anyone who believes all people deserve respect, kindness, and a helping hand every now and then.