For those feeling overloaded with technology…
Let’s face it: most of us are on our phones or computers way more than we’d like to be, and more than what’s even beneficial. We know that overuse of technology is harmful to our health and relationships, but how can we rewire our digital habits for a healthier life?
In Calm, Cool, and Connected, Arlene Pellicane will walk you through an easy 5-step plan that will help you center your life on Jesus and love others by decluttering your screen time. By introducing a few easy habits into your daily routine, you can transform your relationship with technology and enjoy more time with God and others.
It's easy to become consumed and preoccupied with our devices. In turn, we begin to suppress or ignore what’s most important, focusing instead on the urgent and sensational. Let this book guide you toward balanced technology use, and thus a more balanced life.
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About the Author
ARLENE PELLICANE is a speaker and co-author of Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World (with Dr. Gary Chapman). Arlene's other books include 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom and 31 Days to a Happy Husband. She has been a featured guest on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, Focus on the Family, FamilyLife Today, The 700 Club, and Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah. Before becoming a stay-at-home mom, Arlene worked as the Associate Producer for Turning Point Television with Dr. David Jeremiah. Arlene earned her BA from Biola University and her Masters in Journalism from Regent University. She lives in San Diego with her husband James and their three children. To learn more and for free family resources such as a monthly Happy Home podcast, visit www.ArlenePellicane.com.
Table of Contents
Introduction: It Is Well with My Phone 15
Quiz: How Calm, Cool, and Connected Are You? 27
1 H = Hold Down the Off Button 31
2 A = Always Put People First 51
3 B = Brush Daily: Live with a Clean Conscience 69
4 I = I Will Go Online with Purpose 89
5 T = Take a Hike 109
Conclusion: Enjoy the View 127
Discussion Group Questions 135
10 Easy Questions to Connect 141
About the Author 149
What People are Saying About This
Calm, Cool, and Connected is the book I have been wishing someone would write. Filled with practical insights and helpful tips, it is a manifesto for all of us parents who are navigating the new frontier of raising kids who have the world at their fingertips, literally. If you ever struggle with guilt about how much your kids are on screens or wage battle with your own proclivity to check email six times an hour, Arlene offers sanity without shaming and provides a way forward that is both life giving and realistic.
President and CEO of MOPS International and author of Starry-Eyed: Seeing Grace in the Unfolding Constellation of Life and Motherhood
In this screen age of distraction, disconnection, and addiction, Calm, Cool, and Connected offers us a better way. Thank you Arlene—this book is timely, extremely practical, and a great resource.
Sylvia Hart Frejd
Founder and Executive Director Center for Digital Wellness Liberty University
Would you like a healthier family life? More joy? Deeper connections? Have you noticed your children being stressed and anxious? What about you? Arlene Pellicane will help you see how your technology use is relevant. Yes, yours. Children tell me all the time that they wish their moms would put down their phones. Many moms want to. Arlene will help you do that and more. Her personal illustrations, compelling data, and practical ideas will inspire you to make realistic changes. They’re doable, directly related to real concerns, and will result in greater contentment. You can learn to be a new and better you!
Founder/president of Celebrate Kids, Inc., and the author of Screens and Teens: Connecting with Our Kids in a Wireless World
In today’s culture, no longer are phones used just for calling; instead, they are multipurpose mechanisms that are calling the shots in our lives—dictating how we spend a great majority of our daily waking moments. As a result, I can only think of about three people I know personally—who don’t own a cell phone—that wouldn’t benefit from the advice in Calm, Cool, and Connected. For the rest of us, the time is long overdue! Arlene’s wise insight into this tangled, technical problem coupled with scads of creative, concrete solutions will inspire you to put down your devices so you can spend less time touching screens and more time touching lives instead.
Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker and New York Times bestselling author of Keep It Shut and Listen, Love, Repeat
Arlene Pellicane has addressed head-on the silent foe of our day—our dependence on technology. As we steward ourselves and the next generation, all moms should read Calm, Cool, and Connected! It’s a beautiful blend of practical and spiritual reasons why our dependence on cellphones harms the very things we long for most. Arlene wraps the warnings about the hidden dangers of our phone in a way that brings hope and reminds us, it’s not too late to change.
Author of Doing Busy Better
Executive Director of Communications at Proverbs 31 Ministries
Arlene’s words convicted me from the moment I saw the title! The sentence that spoke the most to me? “Your spouse is more interesting than your phone.” This book gave me the reasoning and motivation to back away from my screen and take steps toward those I love.
Creator of Secret Keeper Girl and author of The 20 Hardest Questions Every Mom Faces: Praying Your Way to Realistic, Biblical Answers
Calm, Cool, and Connected is not only a great guidebook to creating intentional relationships and healthy living but it also provides suggestions for how to live life more fully face-to-face. Our lives are fuller because we choose to connect with others in real time and limit greatly the screen time in our home. Kudos to Arlene for addressing a growing problem in our society in a very practical and useful way.
Joanne and Dan Miller
Authors, Creating a Haven of Peace and 48 Days to the Work You Love
In this excellent and timely book, author Arlene Pellicane has defined a plan for staying connected in this electronic age. Through building a productive, yet cautious relationship with one’s devices, you can be calm, cool, and connected.
Clinical Professor of Neurosurgery
If you sometimes struggle, as I do, to use technology in a balanced way, Calm, Cool, and Connected is a must read. Arlene offers practical suggestions and doable strategies that will equip you to be more intentional when it comes to your screen time.
Author of Braving Sorrow Together and Team Us
It is a two-edged sword, this digital age. Like dynamite, digital tools can be a force for greatness in connecting people and creating opportunities; however, on the other hand, digital power can blow lives apart if not used with care. In Calm, Cool, and Connected, Arlene Pellicane shows us how to maximize the blessings and benefits while minimizing the dangers and deceptions. In a worldjam-packed with all things digital, this book is a must read!
Codirector, Love-Wise; author of Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti and 10 Best Decisions a Parent Can Make