Why do bright kids cheat, lie, and manipulate? What can you do about it? More than 80% of bright students self-reported that they had cheated in an academic setting and had never been caught. Bright children try to manipulate parents and teachers for many reasons-boredom, a lack of appropriate challenges, a need to fit in, fear of failure, or simply avoiding responsibility. Kate Maupin addresses symptoms, underlying causes, and how to address roots of the problem, rather than simple punishment, so that children do not become repeat offenders. She also discusses ways to build honesty and confidence so that children can become self-sufficient, life-long learners who no longer feel a need to resort to cheating, dishonesty, or manipulation.
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Cheating, Dishonesty, and Manipulation: Why Bright Kids Do It based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
I found this book very interesting. I am a mom of 3 bright children. They were/are in the schools challenge programs. I wish I had read this book years ago when my oldest was younger. I had homeschooled in kindergarten and first for fear she would be bored. School was always so easy for her and her siblings.... along came 8th grade and she began to struggle with studying. She began to procrastinate for much of her big projects. Her 9th grade counselor told me she truly thought it was due to perfectionism and we did not believe her, nor did my child. After reading this book it has taught me all the nuances of what being a perfectionist is. It made it more understandable. If you have a bright child I believe this book can give you answers. It has opened my eyes to the complexities of bright children and how so many of them think. I did talk to one of my children about cheating in school. She looked at me in shock when I told her the book said almost all bright children cheat. She acted like she could not fathom that and what an insult that was. She can be very manipulative at times and this worried me. I'm glad to see it can be a part of their make -up and not that I've necessarily failed. My kids are very creative and their minds just work differently perhaps. I loved reading the part about the bright kids who are paired up with those kids who struggle. My son would come home, upset at times, that he struggled to get his work finished because the girl he was sitting next to asked him every 5 mn. how to spell a word. This same teacher would tell me how she would change the seat assignments only to put him next to a kid who was always into trouble and would sit there and poke him with a pencil. She was always pairing him up this way. This yr. he has volunteered at times to help fellow classmates in math , sometimes during or after school. I was very proud of him for this. The author states this can cause a rift in relationships in school. This book shed light on why this is not always in the best interest of the student. The book also has several tables and figures, for example; Examples of emotional statements associated with cheating behaviors, and what do children really mean? This book gives many strategies for many different scenarios when it comes to bright students. Each chapter tells a story about a certain student and their individual struggle. I loved their stories and I could see my children in so many of them. It does focus on how we can figure out what is happening so we can help the child before it becomes so deeply ingrained in them as an adult. I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.
A straight forward book that should be required reading for teachers, principles and counselors. Maupin provides strategies that involve teamwork between the school and parents to solve the problem, making very clear, that these behaviors will continue if the root of the problem is not addressed. Maupin examples show that reasons for these behaviors do vary, however, the most interesting one to me was boredom. As the mother of a three year old, my son does his worst behaviors when he's bored or not being challenged enough. This helped me to realize that he needs more challenging and constructive things to do. A must read for parents of gifted children, but parents in general could learn something from this book. I received a free copy of the book in exchange for an honest review.