Every Single Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Heart and Mind Against Sexual and Emotional Compromise

Every Single Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Heart and Mind Against Sexual and Emotional Compromise

by Shannon Ethridge


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ISBN-13: 9781400071272
Publisher: The Crown Publishing Group
Publication date: 08/16/2005
Series: Every Man Series
Pages: 144
Sales rank: 842,938
Product dimensions: 5.19(w) x 7.99(h) x 0.33(d)

About the Author

Shannon Ethridge is the author of numerous books, including the million-copy best-selling Every Woman’s Battle and Completely His. An international speaker and certified life coach, she holds a master’s degree in counseling/human relations from Liberty University. She is a frequent guest on radio and television broadcasts. The mother of two adult children, Shannon lives in Michigan.

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Whose Battle Is It?

At one time I was having extramarital affairs with five different men.…Even though I wasn’t having sexual intercourse with any of these other men, I was still having an affair with each of them—a mental and/or emotional affair. My fantasies of being Clark Gable’s leading lady, memories of my romantic relationship with Ray, and fascination with
Tom’s wit, Mark’s maturity, and Scott’s verbal talents affected my marriage in a way just as damaging as a sexual affair would have.

When I hear people say that women don’t struggle with sexual issues like men do, I cannot help but wonder what planet they are from or what rock they have been hiding under. Perhaps what they really mean is, the physical act of sex isn’t an overwhelming temptation for women like it is for men.

Men and women struggle in different ways when it comes to sexual integrity.While a man’s battle begins with what he takes in through his eyes, a woman’s begins with her heart and her thoughts. A man must guard his eyes to maintain sexual integrity, but because God made women to be emotionally and mentally stimulated, we must closely guard our hearts and minds as well as our bodies if we want to experience God’s plan for sexual and emotional fulfillment. A woman’s battle is for sexual and emotional integrity.

Paul understood our very human tendency to live in denial, closing our eyes to the things in our lives that may need to change. Change is hard work, and we would rather stay as we are. But this is not how God has called us to live. He wants to help us control our minds and our desires so that we can be more like Him. He wants to help us discover His plan for relational satisfaction. But we can’t do this if we insist on keeping our eyes closed to the compromise that robs us of ultimate sexual and emotional fulfillment.

(Personally Seeking God’s Truth)

1. How important is theWord of God to you? Why?

As you seek to discover God’s plan for sexual and emotional fulfillment, plant these good seeds in your heart:

The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. (Galatians 6:8)

Each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. ( James 1:14-15)

2. What, if anything, in these verses feels like a threat or a warning to you? Why do you think you respond to the verses the way you do?

To increase your hope of winning the battle for sexual and emotional integrity, plant this good seed from 1 Corinthians 10:13 in your heart:

No temptation has seized you except what is common to [woman]. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

3. What does this promise mean to you?

(Recognizing the Truth)

In some way or another sexual and emotional integrity is a battle that every woman fights. However, many women are fighting this battle with their eyes closed because they don’t believe they are even engaged in the battle.Many believe that just because they are not involved in a physical, sexual affair, they don’t have a problem with sexual and emotional integrity. As a result, they engage in thoughts and behaviors that compromise their integrity and rob them of true sexual and emotional fulfillment.

4. Do you agree with the statement that every woman fights the battle for sexual and emotional integrity? On what do you base your opinion?

5. The author warns that it is not wise to think that sexual immorality can’t happen to any one of us. How prevalent do you think sexual immorality is among Christian singles?

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Every Single Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Heart and Mind Against Sexual and Emotional Compromise 3.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 20 reviews.
calypso531 on LibraryThing 10 months ago
This workbook is good, but not complete in itself. If you want to get the most out of the workbook, you would need to have and read the actual book that goes along with the workbook. It is called a Companion Guide for a good reason. If you are wanting to study this topic, and have the book, go ahead and get this workbook, but just be aware that it would not be good as a stand alone study.
jenniferbogart on LibraryThing 10 months ago
First things first. Obviously, I am not a single woman. I¿ll have been married for ten years this fall, so why am I reading a workbook companion guide designed to help single women win the battle for physical and emotional purity? Well, I have four daughters (so far), and because they are young, they are all single. Some day they will enter into the fight for emotional and physical integrity (puberty is still thankfully a ways off).So, on to Every Single Woman¿s Battle. After reading it from cover to cover, there were things within its pages that helped even me (an old married lady as far as these things go) focus in on some heart issues and past actions that I have struggled with in the course of my marriage. I imagine that it will be even more helpful for my children as they enter into adulthood.There are eight chapters, designed to be completed on a weekly basis. Ideally, this guide is written to be used in a group discussion setting, but can also be used independently. Each chapter is divided into an introductory section, ¿Planting Good Seeds¿ (Personally Seeking God¿s Truth), ¿Weeding Out Deception (Recognizing the Truth), ¿Harvesting Fulfillment (Applying the Truth), ¿Growing Together (Sharing the Truth in Small-Group Discussion), and a closing, focusing prayer.There is a lot of good content in this guide, and it draws it¿s `text¿ from two different books from the same series ¿ Every Woman¿s Battle and Every Man¿s Battle ¿ those two titles now include their own companion guides, but because single women have different marital circumstances than married women and men, this stand alone guide is available for them.Unfortunately with short quotations taken out of the context of these two books to drive home certain points, it reads a bit choppily, and to be honest, seems a bit disjointed from time to time. Quotes refer to other portions of the books they are originally drawn from that readers of this stand alone guide won¿t have read unless they own both of those titles. There aren¿t any page references available for the quotations either if one did want to look them up to read them in their larger context.As long as you keep in mind the difficulties of working from excerpts only, this is still a valuable resource for single women seeking to glorify the Lord in the realm of their sexuality. It will help readers learn to guard their words, actions, and thoughts while they draw nearer to their Creator and Savior, seeking Him as their ultimate fulfillment and delight.Reviewed at quiverfullfamily.com
Spirit_Filled on LibraryThing 10 months ago
This book turned out to be a learning tool for myself and a group of other women while on a cruise. It encouraged us to open our minds and our hearts to be honest about our feelings about sex, temptations, and relationships. It was very interesting because the group of women were from all over, different nationalities, and both single and married. This book is a definate conversation tool, and allows an opportunity for honest healthy conversation, and sharing, and support.
nirrad on LibraryThing 10 months ago
a great study, learned quite a bit, about how a woman thinks, compared to how men think not as different as we might think. Help me think about my daughter as she gets older.
jbbkelsey on LibraryThing 10 months ago
As a stand-alone book, or as an complimentary book to Every Woman's Battle, 'Every Single Woman's Battle' can be used for individual or group study. This book will mostly appeal to young women with a strong Christian faith. A very conservative approach to living a chaste emotional and physical temptations, 'Every Single Woman's Battle' by Ethridge offers Biblical references and open-ended questions to living life in today's society and lifestyles for a single woman.
Adayriddle on LibraryThing 10 months ago
This is the workbook that is meant to be read with the book Every Woman's Battle. I found it to be an excellent workbook when used with the book. As a stand alone study it encourages single women to pursue a virtous life in thought and deed - recognizing the pull of sexual compramise. The one thing I liked was the fact that this explored the issue of what sex means to a woman - that it is more than the physical act but is also very emotional. To compramise sexually is to compramise emotionally as well. The ramifications are long-lasting and often times devasting. I especially liked the theme of "guarding one's heart" as this is truly the route that must be taken to maintain sexual integrity in a highly phornographic and sexually charged society where all things go. I highly recommend this for young ladies entering a world outside their parents home. I believe it would be an encouragement to them to gaurd the most precious thing by gaurding their hearts - from which life and death are issued. For it is in this most sacred place that we make all decisions - and what we allow into our hearts will determine our abibility to fully rest in the Savior.
galoma on LibraryThing 10 months ago
This workbook is probably better for group study, but it can also be done alone. There are some good probing questions that will cause a woman to reflect on her relationship with God. It would be good for a young girl to go through before she goes to college.
psalm134_2 on LibraryThing 10 months ago
Despite the fact that this is only the workbook and not a full book - it's still a great resource. It talks about the difference between how men and women battle impurity and the many different kinds of impurity there are. For many women, the struggle for emotional purity in the mind and heart is greater than the struggle for physical purity. Ms. Ethridge helps women to face their weaknesses and encourages them in ways to be strengthened in the Lord to live holy lives both in mind and body. This is not a book only for women who struggle with maintaining sexual purity ¿ this is a book for every woman.
Erolene on LibraryThing 10 months ago
This was a great book with a lot of good advice. Although it was enjoyable alone, I think it would be even better with a group. I'll be checking out the others in the "Battle" series, as well.
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BlogfulofBooks More than 1 year ago
With excerpts from Every Woman's Battle and Every Man's Battle, this handy workbook can be read on its own or as a follow-up for those who have already read the aforementioned books. Not only are there excerpts provided but also thought-provoking discussion questions to evoke reflection on the part of the reader. When I was a teenager, my mom and I read together Shannon Ethridge's book Every Young Woman's Battle. Ethridge deals with the topic of sex and sexual compromise in an unashamed and honest way. Admittedly, some of the topics and questions dealt within the book embarrassed me. However, after reading it I realized that sexual and emotional temptations are something we all are challenged with and-the good news-there is a way to conquer temptation through the power we find in our relationship with Jesus Christ. Every Single Woman's Battle reinforced all of the things I learned from Every Young Woman's Battle so many years ago. I answered the discussion questions a little differently than I would have as a teenager, but reflecting on the mistakes I've made and how I want to change was a positive journey to take. That's why I believe this book is helpful for the woman who is struggling with sexual and emotional compromise and also the woman who hasn't experienced compromise of that kind. Knowing how we will be attacked and how to devise a game plan makes all the difference when it comes to fighting compromise. (A complimentary review copy of this book was provided by Waterbrook Multnomah.)
asyl2012 More than 1 year ago
In Shannon Ethridge's book, Every Single Woman's Battle, she challenges and reminds the single women about guarding our hearts and minds. She divides this book into eight chapters that she advises to be completed in an eight week time span. Here are a few thoughts you will find in this book, 'Whose Battle is It?', 'Finding Truth,' 'Surrendering,' and 'Retreating with the Lord.' The content of this book she took from two previous books- Every Woman's Battle and Every Man's Battle. Unfortunately, this book only has excerpts from the books, and sometimes can read a bit choppy. If you can put that aside and focus on the real point of this book, I'm sure it will be a help to you. It will help single women guard their tongue, heart, and mind for the glory of God. Remeber, we can't handle this battle on our own. We have to trust God with this battle completely and wholeheartedly, He wants to help us WIN this fight. If this sort of thing interests you I would consider picking it up. I received this book for free from Waterbrook Multnomah's Blogging for Books and have given my honest opinion of this book.
SmartieSEE More than 1 year ago
The purpose of this book was to offer single Christian women advice on how to handle emotion, physical, mental, and spiritual struggles associated with being single in this world. The book is organized for a group or personal study guide. Each chapter has a focus from the book it was based on and questions to think about and answer. It is filled with illustrations designed to help the reader understand the concept more. The focus part that is taken directly from the book the guide is based on really challenged me to think about the relationships and the purity I have in relationships. The author really makes things easy to understand. The negative part of this book was that I did not relate to a major part of the questions that were asked. They would be hard questions to talk about with a group, but I really think this book could help a lot of women. I would recommend this book to my friends and I would even lead a group to do this book. I received this book free from Waterbrook Multnomah Publishing Group for review.
snidbits More than 1 year ago
Though this companion guide is designed to stand alone, I want to also read "Every Woman's Battle" just so I can get the most out of it. I really like the way the book is divided and the questions it asks. Passages are marked that are taken from "Every Woman's Battle" so this book can be read alone. Ethridge talks about how the heart is to be guarded above all else. "The heart is literally and figuratively the core of all you are and all you experience in life, so when God says to guard it above all else, He is saying, "Protect the source of your life - the physical, spiritual, and emotional source of your well-being." We are to look to God as the one who can love us completely instead of investing in relationship after relationship that will ultimately disappoint us in some way.
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