The age-old question for every leader—how do we bring out the best in those we lead? Anyone who has run a company, raised a family, lead an army, or coached a team struggles to find the key to help others excel and realize their potential. It is surprising how often we resort to criticism vs. an approach that actually results in a better worker and a better person.
What if we could speak Words of Life that transform those under our influence and ignite fires of intrinsic motivation? What if those we lead found great purpose in what they do and worked at their jobs with all their heart? Isn’t that what leaders, parents and teachers really want? Ultimately, don’t we hope to foster intrinsic motivation so that the individuals we lead become better employees, better students or better athletes? Recent discoveries of brain science and the wisdom of top CEO’s that Dr. Tim Irwin interviewed for this book give us the answers we’ve long sought.
In most organizations, the methods used to provide feedback to employees such as performance appraisal or multi-rater feedback systems, in fact, accomplish the exact opposite of what we intend. We inadvertently speak Words of Death. Brain science tells us that these methods tend to engage a natural “negativity bias” that is hardwired in us all.
Science in recent years discovered that affirmation sets in motion huge positive changes in the brain. It releases certain neuro chemicals associated with well-being and higher performance. Amazingly, criticism creates just the opposite neural reaction. The most primitive part of the brain goes into hyper defense mode, compromising our performance, torpedoing our motivation and limiting access to our higher-order strengths.How do we redirect employees who are out-of-line without engaging our natural “negativity bias?” Leaders must forever ban the term, “Constructive Criticism.” Brain science tells us that we can establish a connection between the employee’s work and his or her aspirations. This book calls for a new approach to align workers with an organization’s mission, strategy and goals, called Alliance Feedback.
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About the Author
DR. TIM IRWIN (www.drtimirwin.com) is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and consultant to a host of top organizations throughout the U.S. and more than twenty-five countries in North America, South America, and the Far East. His clients include many of the world's most recognized and highly regarded brands. In addition, Dr. Irwin regularly appears on national media outlets and his ideas are often showcased in leading business publications.
Table of Contents
Part I The Science of Extraordinary Influence
1 The Blue Suitcase Phenomenon 3
Many Leaders Create an Effect They Did Not Intend
2 Words of Life 15
New Brain Research Explains How We Bring Out the Best in Others
Part II How Extraordinary Influence Works
3 Tactical Affirmation 33
Affirming Style and Competence
4 Strategic Influence 51
How to Give Words of Life
5 Words of Death 67
Constructive Criticism Fails Because Our Brains Are Hard Wired for Something Better
6 Alliance Feedback 81
What Seasoned CEOs Know about Helping Others Change
7 Extraordinary Influence for Underperformers 95
Bringing Out the Best in Someone Who Has Lost His Way
Part III Special Applications of Extraordinary Influence
8 Extraordinary Influence for Teams 113
Three Levers for High Performance
9 Motivating High Potentials 129
The Four Transformations to Extraordinarily Influence the Best
10 Performance Appraisals that Lead to Extraordinary Influence 145
How One Famous Company Threw Out Its Traditional Performance Appraisal System and the New Process That's Reaping Big Gains
11 Special Counsel to Parents, Teachers, and Coaches 161
Extraordinary Influence for Those Entrusted to Our Care
12 What Would Happen If We Put This into Practice? 177
A Call to Action
About the Author 183
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Everyone wants to learn how to bring out the best in others. Whether we are a boss, a teacher, a coach, a parent, or a friend, we desire to impact and influence others to reach their full potential. In his newest book, "Extraordinary Influence: How Great Leaders Bring Out the Best in Others, Dr. Tim Irwin explores the power of affirmation. We want people around us to speak words of life over us. Affirmation from those we respect, admire, and love profoundly changes us. As we incorporate and utilize words of affirmation, we begin to influence others and bring out the best in them. Criticize focuses on their deficits while affirmation focuses on their abilities and achievements in a positive manner. This is truly a wonderful book for every leader. His suggestions are practical and meaningful, kind and sincere. Our focus in leadership should be to build cohesive and healthy functioning organizations, teams, churches, and families. The author asks a most thought provoking question: What would happen if we applied these principles of affirmation more broadly? And he brings much food for thought. This book is a wonderful read for every leader but also for every individual. We all need to speak words of life over those we interact with each day. Change can begin with each one of us and words of sincere affirmation is the way we begin to turn things around. **I received a pre-release version of this book in return for my honest review after reading it. I enjoyed this book and believe it will be helpful and appreciated by anyone.