On the day that she decided to marry a widoweralso a long-time friendBetsy Graziani Fasbinder knew that she wasn’t only gaining a husband, she was inheriting a son. Unlike many stepmothers, Betsy didn’t have to struggle with an ex, or court battles, or the weekend shuffle between housesbut she did have to navigate living in the shadow of a young mother taken too soon, to honor the memory of her son’s first mother, and to become the kind of parent and partner she herself wanted to be. Over time this family would learn how love’s roots were formed in their shared losses, and how the new family love and joy they created together would become the richest kind of inheritance.
|Publisher:||She Writes Press|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 1.00(d)|
About the Author
Betsy Graziani Fasbinder became a second wife when she married a widower with a young son. Their family fashioned itself with loss and love as their foundation, and with tenderness and commitment as their guides. She is the author of the critically acclaimed novel Fire & Water and the founder of The Morning Glory Project, which celebrates those who have not only survived tragic loss and trauma but who have turned their heartbreak into heroism and their history into inspiration. Betsy has been a licensed psychotherapist in California since 1992. She lives with her husband in their recently empty nest in Marin County, California. Learn more at www.betsygrazianifasbinder.com.
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Reviewed by Mamta Madhavan for Readers' Favorite Filling Her Shoes: A Memoir of an Inherited Family by Betsy Graziani Fasbinder is an honest and poignant memoir that revolves around the author’s struggles when it came to family problems and relationships. Betsy Graziani was soon going to be a mother for the first time and nothing had prepared her for being a stepparent. Her husband-to-be was a widower and she was gaining a son while getting married. Her memoir chronicles her steps of how to approach motherhood thoughtfully, her fears, her confusions, and her yearnings. The story represents what life was like for them as they became and endured as a family. It is a memoir about struggles, loss, being a stepmother, happiness, renewal, and commitment. The memoir is honest and the author’s story is real and relatable. The journey of an imperfect childhood and the decision to start an imperfect life have been discussed nicely. The author writes her simple love story of her inherited family, capturing the ordinary and extraordinary moments inside her family, and how she falls in love with her inherited family. She shares her personal stories and experiences, making readers connect well with her feelings and emotions. Memoirs like this are eye-openers to readers as it helps them appreciate the special moments in life because of how fleeting life can be. It also makes many things in life seem unimportant when measured against losing loved ones. The subtle messages conveyed through the memoir are helpful for readers to look at the problems they face in life and appreciate them, and be grateful for what they have.