Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight

Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight

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Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight by Loren A. Olson, MD


Dr. Loren A. Olson has frequently been asked two questions: How could you not know that you were gay until the age of forty? Wasn't your marriage just a sham to protect yourself at your wife’s expense? In Finally Out, Dr. Olson answers these questions by telling the inspiring story of his evolving sexuality, into which he intelligently weaves psychological concepts and gay history. This book is a powerful exploration of human sexuality, particularly the sexuality of mature men who, like Dr. Olson, lived a large part of their lives as straight men—sometimes long after becoming aware of their same-sex attractions.

Readers will come to understand:

- That there is no universal model for coming out
- Why many older LGBTQ men came out late, do not come out at all, or come out to varying degrees in different environments
- How stigma has created mental health problems for isolated and closeted men who have sex with men, particularly in geographical areas and cultures where there is little or no acceptance of homosexuality
- How sexual function changes but perhaps even improves for older men
- That aging creates opportunities that one has never had and may never have again, e.g., freedom from the tyranny of ambition
- That some people consistently prefer an older sexual partner and this can lead to stable, intergenerational relationships
- How same-sex sexual activity was considered prior to the Stonewall uprising in 1969 contrasted with the way it is perceived after Stonewall
- How age, culture, geographical location, heterosexual marriage, and children impact a person’s decision to come out
- Why "conversion therapy" does not work and may be harmful
- The difference between homophobia and homonaïveté
- The archetypes of self-identified straight men who seek occasional or regular sex with other men
- How to overcome the shame and guilt experienced by men who are sexually attracted to other men

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780997961430
Publisher: Oak Lane Press
Publication date: 04/01/2017
Edition description: Second Edition, Second edition
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 1,221,731
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author


Loren A. Olson, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist with more than forty years of experience. He has spent his professional life treating and advocating for those who suffer from mental illness, served as a medical executive working to improve the quality of care in psychiatric programs, and has taught psychiatry to a broad variety of health care professionals. He has been a consultant to the media and has been interviewed numerous times on television and radio. He lives in St. Charles, Iowa. Jack Drescher, MD, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst and the editor-in-chief of the Journal of Gay and Lesbian Mental Health. He is the author of A Gay Man’s Guide to Prostate and Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man. He lives in New York City.

Table of Contents

Foreword Jack Drescher, MD v

Preface to the Second Edition ix

Introduction 1

1 I Am Not Gay, but I Might Be a Little Bit Queer 15

2 It's Just Common Sense 37

3 God Hates Fags: In Bondage to Dogma 51

4 Out from the Shadows: You're Not the Man You Thought You Were 61

5 Are You Shooting at the Wrong Target? Detox and Rehab for Addiction to Approval 85

6 Ain't Nobody's Business: Tricks of the Trade 107

7 How to Have Sex in a Tree 129

8 Hookups and Not Quite Sex 151

9 Midlife Crisis: Is It Too Late for Me? 171

10 Accidental Sex: Never Pass Up a Hard-On 187

11 The Urgency of Time: 'The Unbucket List 215

12 Outed at Eighty: The Infancy of Old Age 245

Notes 263

Index 273

About the Author 285

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