Considered a rite of passage, teenage drinking has skyrocketed to epidemic proportions, fostering a generation of young adults whose lives are already beginning to come apart under the strain. This book, written from the viewpoints of both mother and son, is a riveting, enlightening, and heartbreakingly true story of a family that was able to confront the fear, pain, and denial that threatened to destroy them—and survive the epidemic of teenage drinking that’s putting America’s future at risk.
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About the Author
Toren Volkmann (BA in psychology, former Peace Corps volunteer) lives one day at a time after successfully completing rehab and a six-month residence in a Florida halfway house.
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Chris p. 10- The End at the Beginning When I left for the market earlier that day, my son was living in Paraguay working for the Peace Corps. By the time I returned home to put the groceries away, he’d become an alcoholic headed for rehab. So what happened between the produce aisle and my driveway?
Toren p. 21- My Drink Even more disturbing are the terrible physical reactions, depending on the amount of alcohol I consumed and my eventual detox. This is the big problem. During detox, inside the unsettled body, a nervous and sometimes nauseous sense begins…an anxiety and almost a fear, like being too alone. You see yourself and everything differently. Like a sudden collapse of the stock market in your brain and every single nerve ending throughout your body wants to turn inside out and puke out some unidentifiable pain or itch. You sweat, and you sweat increasingly when you let unreasonable thoughts trick you into feeling like whatever you are thinking must be true, like for example, “this is normal,” “this will never end,” “I deserve this,” or “hhhhmm…maybe another drink will solve the problem.”
Chris p. 79- Put on Your Beer Goggles and Don’t Ask Why Binge drinking looks fun and blurs the reality of what really happens when thousands of kids drink way too much. And all the while, we parents are blind. Maybe that’s because we’re busy sipping wine as we bid at fund-raisers, or we’re knocking back a few tall cold ones at our alumni tailgate parties, or maybe we’re out to a two-martini dinner with intimate friends while our successful kids are tucked away on campuses where fun can’t be categorized as dangerous. Or progressive. Or addictive.
Toren p. 132-133 –Party My Face Off Were all these classy visits to other campuses rehearsals for my behavioral outbursts during my college freshman year? Hell no. I was just getting my green feet wet and still learning the ropes. There was no problem. I was still in high school. Relax. (And don’t think, Gee, man, it sure is surprising that no one ever pulled you aside and said, ‘You know, I think some of these things are pretty scary. Maybe you have a problem and should think about getting help.’) No, it’s not surprising that never happened, because most of these things went under the radar of any counselor, authority, and more important, the parents. You think I went home, and when asked, “Hey, Toren, how was your night last night?,” that I responded, “Oh, it was great. I drank a forty in under five minutes, we made a double-funnel beer bong, we outran the cops, and later, I blacked out and woke up in a strange bathroom with my pants on inside out. How was yours?” Never. There was always a normal activity or at least a smoothed-over version of what we were up to, the imaginary side of the coin of my perfect teenager life. There was no friend of mine who would suggest to another that anyone had a problem, because it was all too early and too fun. What could possibly go wrong in our worlds?
Chris p. 246- What Parents Can Do Within our family, we now have the courage to talk about high-risk drinking. It’s easily discussed because the disease is with us. Drinking is now considered as dangerous as a bad sunburn—a weekend souvenir that begins as a haunting cancer and can progress to death.
Toren p. 168—In Descent I imagined myself sliding on my knees across the hard floor into the middle of the circle with my fists clenched in the air, screaming for some sort of relief…but of course I stayed at the edge of the circle, adamant that no one would know about the war being waged inside me. I remember looking at a couple of the people as they stood in the circle and desperately thinking, Maybe they are having problems, too, like me. But then, I thought, These people have no clue what it is like to experience the difficulties that I have.
Chris p. 278- Warning Label It has been said that “Alcohol is so potent that, if discovered today, it would be classified as a Class II drug, available only by prescription.” [Wright & Wright] Adults who willingly provide minors with alcohol often think they are doing them a favor, especially when it occurs within the confines of a private home. But in fact, providing young people with alcohol can contribute to violence, driving under the influence, sexual assault, and binge drinking. By allowing underage drinking, parents are sending the message that it’s okay to drink. Parents may not be able to control actions of intoxicated youth once they have left a party, or even within the confines of the home. Car crashes and injuries following parent-hosted parties are a huge risk, and parents can be held liable for these incidents. Recent information about the susceptibility of adolescents to severe damage from heavy drinking causes me to stop and reconsider attitudes about serving alcohol to underage kids. Collecting car keys and allowing minors to party in the basement may be more detrimental than most parents realize, even without considering destruction caused to the adolescent brain. Which of we parents wishes to be responsible not only for destroying cells in our children’s still-forming intellects but for the crashes, sexual incidents, and violence brought on by underage abuse of alcohol?
Toren p.173- Progression Without Progress When I came to again I was shivering and lying face down on the hard bus terminal floor near a wall. I was still in Asunción and it was early the next morning. A security guard was inspecting me as if I were crazy. He must have noticed me passed out. Hungover, dirty and ragged, I’m sure I looked like a total street bum. The plastic bottle, now empty, had fallen out of my pocket. I didn’t know how long I had been there. I still had my ticket but had missed my bus.
Chris p. 338 – Moving On to Gravy Of all the points to consider about heavy teen drinking, I am most struck by the fact that oftentimes young drinkers and their parents don’t realize they are in trouble until too late. It can be after college graduation that symptoms become pronounced, just at the time when an emerging adult begins to seek out lifelong goals. Abusive alcohol consumption is associated with alcohol-related problems after graduation which can permanently affect achievement of a young person’s dreams and aspirations. As with Toren and our family, the results of this continual abuse will finally stack up until it falls with crushing force onto our heads.
Toren p. 348- Could You Spare Me Some Change, Please?
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What People are Saying About This
“An important book for every parent of a teenager. This fearless and searching diary brings the reality home that alcohol does not care who it conquers. From Binge to Blackout offers honesty, hope and hands-on guidance for parents and teens to make empowering choices.”—Marci Shimoff, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul
“I recommend this book to parents, students, and anyone interested in the current alcohol culture in which many of today's young people have become so entrenched. The dangerous attitudes and behaviors towards alcohol that many are exhibiting are a threat to the future of our children. I admire the courage it took Toren to recognize and overcome the devastation that alcohol was having on his life before it was too late. We challenge each of you to be aware of alcohol abuse and to educate yourselves and your children about the potential deadly consequences. It cost our family the ultimate, as our daughter, Samantha, died in September, 2004 of acute alcohol poisoning. Our goal is to prevent another family from having to endure the pain of losing a child in such a senseless and preventable manner.”—Patty Spady, mother of 19-year-old Samantha Spady, a student who died of alcohol poisoning at Colorado State University
Reading Group Guide
“Congratulations. You’re a flaming alcoholic!” joked the greeting card mailed by Toren to his brother. Never did Toren dream he would one day apply this category to himself. In From Binge to Blackout, Toren delivers a blow-by-blow account of his tragic downslide into a teen culture where heavy-drinking and sudsy fun allowed him to guzzle away the days and nights. On the adjacent page, Toren’s mom, Chris, asks how this could have happened without her knowledge.
A brash description of today’s youthful alcohol binge is wrung inside out by this duo-voiced mother and son examination. Toren’s abusive party life twists itself into his family, swerving through high school and college, while Toren’s parents fail to notice where he is headed. As Toren attempts to fulfill his dreams working for the Peace Corps in Paraguay, the aftermath comes back to haunt him when he is unable to finish the commitment because of his alcohol addiction. When Toren is medevaced back to the U.S.,Toren’s mom comments, “When I left for the market earlier today, my son was living in South America working for the Peace Corps. By the time I returned home to put the groceries away, he’d become an alcoholic headed for rehab. So what happened between the produce aisle and my driveway?”
From Binge to Blackout forces us to look at the choices we are offering our youth: the marketing of alcohol; parents’ benign acceptance of heavy youth drinking and ignorance of king-size doses; kids genetic maps for alcohol dependence; the vulnerable adolescent brain; labeling of the malt liquor forties; as well as the general nonchalance of government, family and teens towards public drunkenness, liquored-up violence, and the expense of our alcohol-saturated culture. Chris and Toren present every drinking excuse, and then pulverize each one into a flinching retrospective. No one is left untouched, from grandma, to coach, to best friend.
From Binge to Blackout festers in the Petri dish of a teen’s first drink, and then quickly morphs into a life-destroying rampage. Toren’s groveling addiction battles it out with the lioness of his family, a mom who stands up to ask what families can do to stop this from happening. With the dizzying pain of unruly outcomes, a brave message is delivered to all of us along with workable suggestions for every teen and parent. Biting words, both informative and descriptive, identify and address the seductive allure of alcohol and a world chasing its glamour. Mom and son begin the struggle in separate worlds, but by the end of the book, they convince us that we need to work together in dealing with the nation’s number one drug of choice: alcohol.
ABOUT TOREN VOLKMANN AND CHRIS VOLKMANN
Toren Volkmann grew up in Olympia, Washington. He graduated from college and volunteered for the Peace Corps in Paraguay. Toren lives one day at a time after completing rehab and a six-month residence in a Florida halfway house.
Chris Volkmann, a former classroom teacher, lives in Olympia, Washington. She attended Toren’s college graduation having no clue her son was part of a not-so-hidden epidemic.
A CONVERSATION WITH TOREN AND CHRIS VOLKMANN
Why does the book From Binge to Blackout appeal to such a wide audience?
Toren: Alcohol is the #1 drug of choice for our nation’s youth, and binge drinking is the most widespread health problem on college campuses. Most families are faced with alcohol issues, whether they are the daily decisions of adolescents, their freshman at college, or a relative who is struggling with an alcohol problem. Our culture seems to condone alcohol use even though it causes all kinds of problems in our households and for our society. Parents are concerned about their kids’ drinking choices. Youth are bombarded with alcohol choices, clever marketing and peer pressure, making alcohol more alluring than ever. Educators, parents, students and families relate to our mom and son voices and the honesty of our story. It is giving people something to grab on to, talk about, and most importantly, when there is a problem, it is giving families hope.
What is it you’d most like people to understand when they read From Binge to Blackout?
Chris: Alcohol affects adolescents differently than adults. We now know how damaging alcohol is to the adolescent brain. Research about alcohol has improved. There is currently more awareness of genetics and the link to alcoholism. 30% of college students abuse alcohol and 6 % meet the criteria for alcohol dependency. 48 percent of college kids said they drink alcohol to get drunk and 80% of high school seniors have tried alcohol in the U.S. It’s time for parents and kids to talk together about the decision to drink alcohol, not just about car crashes, but about how alcohol is a potent drug that causes changes in the brain and affects many behaviors that can be long-lasting and tragic.
What type of research did you do in writing From Binge to Blackout?
Toren: Just like college, I stayed away from the academic part of this process. My research has been experiential. My methodology was done in binges, my reports are spewed onto the pages in our book, and the results are my current abstinence from all drug use (including alcohol). My conclusion is that alcohol is a powerful, dangerous drug that changed my life in negative ways, ways I couldn’t identify until it was too late.
Chris: To begin with, I wanted to find a book that described the family experience--the whole picture of the alcohol culture where not only the teen is considered, but all the people who live with him. I looked in bookstores, but there was nothing I could find that seemed real. Then I looked on the Web where I located many helpful articles and links. Still, they didn't carry over to our living room. At that point I realized the need for an up-front book discussing binge drinking and its effects on the family.
Learning about what had happened to Toren and our family began as soon as I received the first e-mail description of his battle with alcohol addiction. Over the course of the next three years, I attended numerous state prevention summits, talked with hundreds of counselors, treatment specialists and university professors, read current studies and literature, and combed through our family alcohol history. Toren and I discussed every facet of addiction. My research is not a finite event. Each day I learn something astounding about the drinking culture and my place in it.
How did From Binge to Blackout come about? Who came up with the idea?
Toren: From Binge to Blackout slowly wrote itself. My first inquiries came from scribbling in my journal when I was still living in South America in 2003. I knew that I was having more and more problems with alcohol and one night I wrote for a few straight hours in my journal. When I went into rehab 4 months later, I typed out that entry and sent it to my family. Not only was I admitting my alcoholism, I spelled it out in what later manifested itself as the first chapter of my writing (Chapter 4, My Drink). My parents were shocked by my admissions and descriptions. How could this be the same family? My mom was so horrified that she began her own writing. Later, while my mom was visiting me at rehab and we were in line at the cafeteria, she first brought up the idea to me. She thought my writing (and ours combined) could be useful to more people than just ourselves. I was doubtful and couldn't imagine what it would all be about. But I said, "Okay, let's think about it after I get out of here."
Chris: When I first saw Toren's journal writing, its abrupt power and brutal honesty, I knew our family needed to face the true world of alcohol. It forced me to rethink our history. Out of desperation, I began writing in my journal. When the paper began to stack up, I asked Toren what he thought about creating a book. I wasn't sure if it would be a good thing for us, stirring up all that turmoil.
Describe the process of writing the book, what was it like?
Toren: The writing process has been a mess of email attachments, phone conversations, and cutting and pasting of our lives. I continued my writing in the same style as my first journal entry. For the remainder of the first edition, I wrote my portions from the public library while in the halfway program in Florida. A year later, we began working with Penguin, and expanded on our newer experiences and all that we had learned along the way. In the end, I have written chapters and different sections of the book in Florida, New York, New Orleans, Washington State, and California—excluding all of the edits we have made on the road while out speaking. There has been no such thing as ‘home base’ for me. Considering this is mother-son effort there has been a lot of teamwork, learning, and debate. Our phone bills have been huge too, because there were many long, peripheral talks on the phone. We have gone numerous places to meet up and work on the book. This project has really just weaved itself through the last few years, growing with us and taking on each new change. We would never have guessed that this is where it would lead.
Chris: Toren and I each wrote our portions independently. We merged the material by e-mailing documents between numerous states. During Toren's halfway experience, we met twice to go over some of the drafts. Later on, we barely rescued five chapters from Toren’s apartment in the wake of Katrina. Toren revealed painful information about his prior alcohol and drug use up until the last minute, even when I thought he had already spit out the worst. Then, I had to look again at our family and wonder where I’d been all those years. The whole experience seems like a tangle of words and emotions writhing back and forth across the U.S.
What kinds of decisions did you have to make personally in order to write the book?
Toren: I basically had to decide that I wasn't going change the content in order to cater to any certain person and that I would try to really portray how alcohol affected me. I had to stop worrying about what friends, brothers, parents, therapists, authors, experts or strangers would think. I just had to tell what I remember and what it all meant to me. At various times I think both my mom and I have had to re-evaluate ourselves. We have had to make sure that we want to go through with this. In the second edition, I have taken on even more ownership of the book, our message and what this issue means to me. I still believe that this is more about the alcohol culture and the denial of our nation rather than my personal trials and tribulations. I hope our experiences only allow people to make more informed decisions. I don’t want people to change because we say they should. In fact, people will do what they are going to do, just like I did. Along the same lines, I renew my personal decision not to drink or use drugs today. We all get that choice.
Chris: I had to face reality. I had to step up and say it like it was. I had to be honest with every family member about my own feelings and reactions. In order to do this, I began to ask difficult questions about myself and my culture. I decided to scrape away the veneer of shiny parenthood.
From Binge to Blackout exposes you to public scrutiny, why write a book like this?
Toren: I had to expose myself to my family, friends and acquaintances in order to leave South America, go into rehab, and go to the halfway house...so this is really just one more level of honesty. I am less concerned about what the public thinks than about what my friends or family think. Too often, people cover up their mistakes, in fear of the stigma or labels...especially when it comes to addiction. By me stepping up and acknowledging my shortcomings and owning my actions, I have nothing else to hide. I find that people respect me just the same (for the most part) and relate to me as a real person rather than having the whole town know about it but only talking out the sides of their mouths about me. Putting a face to an issue as stigmatized as alcoholism wasn’t an easy choice, but maybe it will help change the way our culture views alcoholism and addiction. Maybe the whisper can be more of an open dialogue. Do you think we are ready for that? We hope so.
Chris: Being inspected will be difficult. But through the years, I have learned that each time I think I'm doing a better job of parenting than someone else, it's not true. The myth of the perfect little family behind the white picket fence isn't my yard. It's much easier to be who I really am than try to fool everyone. I am the mother of Toren.
How did you react to one another's first writings?
Toren: I was extremely interested in what my mom had to say. Some of it made me feel like shit and some of it gave me a better understanding of my impact on the family. For the most part I benefited from reading each new chapter as it came along and I think both of us enjoyed the process of painting two sides of the story. Sometimes it was just downright painful, though.
Chris: Toren's first journal entry was shocking to read. I couldn't believe what I saw printed before me. It was a world I never thought one of my children would inhabit. His words caused me to re-evaluate everything I had done as a parent, and the writing ultimately turned into a description of our family and our values, one that I could hardly admit. When we merged our writing, my chapters describing a certain time period did not match his portrayals. This is when I had to admit that moms and sons have two different versions of growing up.
Toren, when did you first start drinking, how much were you drinking, and how did you know you were becoming an alcoholic?
Toren: My first real drinks were at the age of fourteen, but today kids are drinking at an even younger age. By the time I was done with my freshman year of high school, I was regularly smoking marijuana, cigarettes, and drinking beer. By age sixteen, I had quit one sports team, was on my way to being kicked off 3 others for various substance infractions or off-campus arrests, and had already been caught vomiting and blacked-out by my parents. In fear of getting into trouble, I remember telling my friends at age sixteen that we needed to ‘start fresh’ and learn how to have fun without drugs and alcohol on the weekends. That was already a challenge.
Even in college, after being forced to attend AA meetings at age nineteen, I didn’t see my drinking as a problem and Icertainly felt I wasn’t an alcoholic. I drank hard most every weekend but never drank much during the weekdays. Anywhere from 10-15 beers on a given day/night seemed to put me where I wanted to be. The amount wasn’t as important to me as the effects—I was in it for the buzz. And I ignored all the bad effects while managing to complete class work on the weekdays. By college graduation I was a full blown alcoholic (age twenty-two), but I didn’t allow myself the chance to be honest.
It wasn’t until I left the country six months after college graduation to work in the Peace Corps that I began to realize my drinking was more and more out of control. In a new culture without my drinking peers or party environments, I realized that all my old habits had stayed with me and that I was experiencing worse symptoms of physical dependence. From there, blackouts and withdrawal symptoms slowly broke down my denial over about seven-and-a-half-months of on-and-off drinking in South America. I still didn’t believe I was an alcoholic until after some time rehab, though. It was a long road, but for many it is much longer and a hell of a lot bumpier.
Chris, when did you first start to worry about Toren’s drinking, and how did you react to him becoming an alcoholic?
Chris: I first worried about Toren’s drinking when we caught him intoxicated at age fifteen. He seemed to bounce back too fast the next morning, and I wondered if that was a normal reaction. Then, when he repeatedly got into trouble for alcohol use and did not change his behaviors, I was baffled. How could it be so important to him to continue his use when it caused him so many problems? Finally, when he went to rehab, I began to understand his symptoms and learned how addiction to alcohol (or any other drug) has common traits. I could have spotted those red flags years earlier had I been better educated about alcohol abuse.
Toren, what will you tell your kids?
Toren: Whoa...slow down. I can’t imagine being put in charge of anything else...let alone my own actions. The approach I would take with my own hypothetical kids would be one of all-out honesty and openness (yes, obviously the book will make this the most likely option). But still, knowing my dangerous genes and own history, I would be ready to start the dialogue with my kids early. I would realize that they want to make their own decisions and that they would have to face their own consequences. I would give them clear expectations and consequences when they mess up, but most importantly I would want them to know my stance on the dangers and risks of abuse and addiction. They would deserve the same support I’ve had, if they too, needed to get sober. It is not the end of the world, this sobriety thing, and actually it has been the start of a new world of possibility for me.
Chris, what is your message today for parents?
Chris: It will take all of us to impact the alcohol culture. Here is what I have found to be important: Start dialogue with kids early about alcohol. Remember that alcohol is not a benign substance and learn about the consequences of youth alcohol abuse. Do not perceive underage and binge drinking as inevitable. Parents can combat the way media portrays alcohol as glamorous. Don’t be afraid to ask questions about alcohol use or to seek professional help early if problems arise. Parents are the most listened-to resource by teens in alcohol decision-making. Never give up.
Toren, what is it like being young and in recovery? Is it difficult to stay sober?
Toren: It is unbelievable. I never would have thought that I would be ‘that guy’ among all of my friends. But I am glad to be. I have so much more freedom and choice in my life than I had when I drank like I used to. I see things completely differently. It is more about how I spend my time and all of the opportunities I see now. When I was in school those things weren’t as important to me because I had a fixed pool of friends, an assigned role as a student, and a crazy, irresponsible social life. I used to be very apathetic about a lot of things...I just drank.
As a young adult I get to decide what kind of person I will become, I choose what kind of activities I participate in and how I interact with other people. These days I don’t have the kind of regrets that I used to have. I don’t have hangovers, or endure withdrawals every weekend and I am no longer enslaved to drugs and alcohol. I mean what I say now, and people trust me. My family can count on me now. I have relative organization in my life. I am sane in good ways. I can still be creative, and be the person I want be. Many people may say that this is how we are supposed to be, but none of those things were true when I was drinking.
When drinking heavily, I lost my direction, my self-worth and control of my life. Sometimes I have to re-evaluate my sobriety, and I work hard to renew my decision not to drink or use drugs one day at a time. My life is better this way, but there is still temptation out there. I can’t forget where I came from. Staying sober has to be my priority and isn’t always easy. I have to be careful with certain friends. I have formed new relationships with people whose lives aren’t centered on alcohol. I still go to rock shows, play music and go to parties, but now I am able to participate, remember them, AND drive home. Life is very good sober.
Chris, how have other parents, friends and family members responded to your family’s experience? Do people see you differently now that your son is an alcoholic?
Chris: When people first learned about Toren’s rehab and halfway house experience, some expressed disappointment and regret. But, in fact, this was the best thing that ever happened to our family. It allowed us to open up to one another and discuss a dilemma that had been crippling our spirit. Moreover, we were suddenly able to be honest with our friends and community members about a problem that plagues 20% of our society: alcohol abuse and addiction. I have found that people are much more willing to talk frankly with me about themselves after hearing about us. They are refreshed to find that they don’t have to maintain some preconceived image of what a “good parent” or “successful mom,” or even what a “model child” would be. The stigma surrounding alcohol use has lifted from our family, and people are anxious to have that same relief for their own families.
Where can people go to get help?
Toren: Most college campuses have prevention and wellness centers with trained staff to assess and assist students without blame. Even high school counselors will talk to students with confidentiality. I wasn’t ready to talk in high school, but some kids may be. When I was in college I was still lying through my teeth about what I was up to, and I would have been very defensive about my own drinking habits. If someone wants help or is curious, then they are way ahead of where I was. I was too scared of the truth to even look at my behaviors realistically. Any high school or college kid that is not afraid to make their own decisions or ask for help has much more courage than I did.
Chris: There is help everywhere. Sometimes parents or kids may only want to ask questions. That’s a good way to start. School counselors have told me they wish more parents would stop by. Locally, many community social services provide help on a sliding scale. Insets in our book list national hotline phone numbers. AA or Al-anon is helpful. Or see a professional substance abuse counselor.
What were your goals in writing From Binge to Blackout?
Toren: We made a list of reasons early in our work, because we wanted to have a clear idea of why we were writing. We hope:
- to fill in the gap between what's really happening with young drinkers today and what society perceives about young drinkers;
- to help someone possibly recognize early symptoms of alcohol addiction/abuse;
- to help parents and kids talk more openly about alcohol use;
- to inform others about alcohol addiction and the disease of alcoholism;
- to support parents and enable them to realistically examine alcohol use in their family;
- to educate kids about their drinking choices
- to dissolve the glamour of chronic heavy drinking;
- to heal our family
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
This book about Toren Volkmann's life and how he started to drink in high school is very interesting and makes teens more aware of the serious issues that alcohol can bring not only in the short run, but the long run as well. The mother and son did a great job in writing this book by providing the audience an example from their own experiences. Toren began drinking when he was in high school and was caught by a cop at a party. He faced legal consequences and faced a very strict life at home. During his years at high school, toren did receive good grades which his mother demanded as part of his punishment of drinking alcohol. however, Toren was kicked off his sports teams due to his usage of alcohol. His mother denied the idea that her youngest son was an alcohol...and Toren denied the idea as well. The story teaches ways to prevent teens from abusing alcohol and talks about the rising amount of underage drinking. at first it does not seem like a big issue and many people stress the practice of abstinence, because the short term effects are extremely negative, but as the teenager drinks more frequently, he/she will become dependent and feel the urge to have alcohol. The effects of alcohol is very negative during adolescent and how there is a much greater chance of becoming addicting. In FROM BINGE TO BLACKOUT, Toren does not realize his huge dependency of alcohol until after he graduates. He was recommended to visit Alcoholics Anonomyous while in college, but blew it off, which is his biggest regret. In the end, Toren ends up in a rehab center to help aid him in diminishing his addicition. i will recommend this book for teenagers who have thought about drinking or do consume alcohol, because it teaches the consequences of abusing alcohol.
As a student who is still learning from personal mistakes and gaining more knowledge as I grow, this book helps open my eyes to the impact any decision I make can have on the rest of my life. The idea of drinking, partying, and involvement with drugs throughout the book shows the severity these actions can have. Decisions are constantly being made in the book, Both Toren and Chris are confronted with controversial issues in society today, and this novel explores how they handle themselves in certain situations. Obviously teen drinking is an issue that Toren involves him with. He never truly understands the consequences of using alcohol at such a young age. His adolescence is at risk, not only does he get in trouble with the law (which could have affected his success in the future), but is also harmful to his mental and physical being as well. As Toren grows older he becomes even more involved with drugs and alcohol to a point where he is dependent on it, has withdrawals without it, and needs it to function. His relationship with alcohol throughout the book shows that personal decisions are crucial, that one cannot blame others for their faults, but learn from mistakes and move on in order to become a better person. Toren also had his mother Chris to help guide him in the right direction. She was there for him through his mistakes in high school, believed he was making good choices in college, and enjoyed casual drinks with her boys when they were old enough. She would harshly punish her sons for their faults involving alcohol in high school, and tried to be the best mother she could. Though she struggled internally to have the perfect family, her wish did not always come true. Throughout the story she thinks of the past and wonders of things she would do differently, but generally did a fine job raising her boys. The book is written by both the mother and son who went through this tragic experience. They both recollect on past experiences and wonder what a difference it made to their lives. This book also contains guides and helpful tips to those who are concerned about others or their own addiction with misusing alcohol. This book mainly speaks of alcoholism, but also talks of how this disease affects the alcoholic and those around them. Personally this book is a great way to learn about the consequences poor choices and misusing drugs/ alcohol can lead to.
I think it would be safe to say that, for the majority of teens at least, drinking (and by this I mean consuming alcoholic beverages) is something that will come up sooner rather than later. Seen by many as a "right of passage," teens and alcohol are things that seem to go hand in hand. Although I know this isn't true for every teen--I myself never had a drop of alcohol until I was twenty-one, due to a strict upbringing--what I remember from my high school years, and what I see today among teens, shows that teen drinking is on the rise.
What many teens don't realize, and quite possibly don't even understand, is that due to their actual adolescence and the changes that brings, their bodies are actually at risk to suffer greater negative effects from alcohol. Sure, it can give you a buzz, and in some social circles there are even those who will say it makes you look cool. The problem is, that just like with the nicotine in cigarettes and the unhealthy substances in marijuana and other illegal drugs, that the changing bodies of teens can be harmed to a greater extent than those of full-grown adults.
FROM BINGE TO BLACKOUT is the story of Toren Volkmann and his mother, Chris. Toren was like any teen, one who experimented with alcohol in ways that didn't, at first, prove to be a problem. Unfortunately, this experimentation later led to full-blown blackouts and an eventual stay in a rehab center for alcohol addiction.
This is a book that is part autobiography, part scientific text, part guidebook. You'll find the warning signs of teen drinking, references to places that can help you both as a drinker and a family member affected by someone who is a drinker, and questions that can help you talk about alcohol dependency. This is the perfect book not just for parents, but also for teens who struggle with an alcohol problem--or even those who don't yet, but realize they could be on that path. This is a touching, heartwarming story that ended, thankfully, with recovery. Unfortunately, many more teens might not be as lucky as Toren Volkmann was, and those are the ones who really need to pick up a copy of FROM BINGE TO BLACKOUT.
I think it would be safe to say that, for the majority of teens at least, drinking (and by this I mean consuming alcoholic beverages) is something that will come up sooner rather than later. Seen by many as a 'right of passage,' teens and alcohol are things that seem to go hand in hand. Although I know this isn't true for every teen--I myself never had a drop of alcohol until I was twenty-one, due to a strict upbringing--what I remember from my high school years, and what I see today among teens, shows that teen drinking is on the rise. What many teens don't realize, and quite possibly don't even understand, is that due to their actual adolescence and the changes that brings, their bodies are actually at risk to suffer greater negative effects from alcohol. Sure, it can give you a buzz, and in some social circles there are even those who will say it makes you look cool. The problem is, that just like with the nicotine in cigarettes and the unhealthy substances in marijuana and other illegal drugs, that the changing bodies of teens can be harmed to a greater extent than those of full-grown adults. FROM BINGE TO BLACKOUT is the story of Toren Volkmann and his mother, Chris. Toren was like any teen, one who experimented with alcohol in ways that didn't, at first, prove to be a problem. Unfortunately, this experimentation later led to full-blown blackouts and an eventual stay in a rehab center for alcohol addiction. This is a book that is part autobiography, part scientific text, part guidebook. You'll find the warning signs of teen drinking, references to places that can help you both as a drinker and a family member affected by someone who is a drinker, and questions that can help you talk about alcohol dependency. This is the perfect book not just for parents, but also for teens who struggle with an alcohol problem--or even those who don't yet, but realize they could be on that path. This is a touching, heartwarming story that ended, thankfully, with recovery. Unfortunately, many more teens might not be as lucky as Toren Volkmann was, and those are the ones who really need to pick up a copy of FROM BINGE TO BLACKOUT. **Reviewed by: Jennifer Wardrip, aka 'The Genius'
As someone who has experienced the wrath of addiction up close and personally in family members ¿ as have most of us ¿ and been disappointed in the lack of personal stories focused on recovery, communication and scope of the issue, I was at first skeptical of this book when I read about it in a People magazine feature recently I doubted its substantiality. But I was won over within just a few pages. This educational and readable work is the real deal. Attributes I noticed as I screamed through this page-turner: -The powerful storytelling of ¿A Million Little Pieces,¿ but without the fictional embellishment. -The useful information of ¿Buzzed,¿ but without the scholastic yawns. -The power of self-help ala ¿Chicken Soup for the Soul,¿ but without the tiring broth. -The compelling storyline of a mother and son struggling then acting so courageously and strong that it couldn¿t have been dreamed up. -The brutal honesty in taking head-on one of the major health problems in our society. -The foresight to begin dismantling an epidemic in the making. This one is going to make a difference!
This book should be a part of every family's library, a gift from concerned grandparents, a required read for college freshmen, on every teacher's desk, a fun airplane read, a part of every treatment center and a mainstay in the armamentarium of those who counsel youth. It was recommended to me by a friend. Although drinking and drugs have not been an issue for me and my family, I decided to take it with me on a trip. Once I started reading it, I could not put it down. Several people at the airport asked me where to get a copy. It uniquely tells the story from both the viewpoint of the kid and the mom in a fascinating style of writing--- most compelling. And the book costs less than a 6-pack!!
Here is a book for everyone. No matter who you are, what status you¿ve attained, or how much money you make, someday your going to know someone who has a major drinking/substance problem, maybe even your kids. From Binge to Blackout follows the story of Toren Volkmann, his alcoholism, and how his family sifts through the past to piece together a plan of attack. Amid their story are invaluable facts and figures about the growing epidemic of teen drinking, alcoholism, and what can be done to protect your family and friends. As a young man who has done my fair share of drinking, this was the wake-up call book for me. As I read Toren¿s story the congruencies in my story and his mounted to my dismay. It was from this point on that I was no longer a twenty-something having a good time, but guarded in my alcohol abuse, aware that something destructive was looming in my life. While my drinking hasn¿t reached the level of severity as Toren¿s, the book has led me to reevaluate how I seek out my ¿fun.¿ My whole family has read and discussed From Binge to Blackout. Parents need to read this book when their kids turn 12, the kids should read it at 14, and they should all read it again at 18. It could save lives and wasted years in the bottle.
I also bought the book after hearing Toren and Chris on a talk show. I grew up as a nerd and never saw drinking or drugs with my group of friends. Now I have a teenager of my own. I am afraid that he and his friends are now drinking. This book gives me some insight into their thought process (or lack of it). It also provides help for parents. I found the resources very useful. I am going to suggest to our high school that the Torens come and speak to both our teens and their parents. It's a scary and dangerous time and I am grateful for any help!
I wish I had had this book when I was raising my teenage daughters. It's a riviting read that doesn't preach and certainly doesn't side step the lure that alcohol has for our society. This mother and son present the honest, compelling journey that one family takes when alcoholism strikes their youngest child. I read this book over a two day period a couple of weeks ago and haven't been able to stop thinking or talking about it since. I have given several copies as gifts and am anxious to talk with my friends and family members as they finish it. In fact, I think the very best thing about this book is the invitation it offers us to discuss a topic that is often complicated, misunderstood, and even taboo. Thank you Chris and Toren for courageously lifting the curtain on this very important health issue.
I finished reading this book a week and a half ago and haven't gotten it out of my mind since. It was absolutely captivating. I love the way it isn't 'preachy' but has such raw honesty on both Toren and Chris's parts...and I'm grateful for all the resources listed for people looking for help. I can only imagine how many lives this outstanding work will touch. After seeing them on 'The View' I originally bought two copies but went back to buy three more as gifts for friends I know will want to read it. I was interested in it from the 'Mom's point of view' but as a Mom I love knowing how kids view their choices in life and what's really going on in their minds. This book tells it like it is.