Grey Sex: Heterosexuality and Everyday Domination

Grey sex is saying “yes” but thinking “no.” It’s feeling invisible, like you’re not even in the room. It’s wondering afterwards, “is that really what I wanted?” or “did I just let that happen?”

Many people have sexual experiences that fall into a grey area between assault and “normal” sex. Looking at heterosexuality and everyday domination, this book shows that, in doing so, we are neither simply victims nor failing to assert ourselves. We are caught in relations of gendered power that may ...