From the bestselling authors of The Hell with Love, a fierce, funny, touching collection that takes the sting out of "aging while female."
|Publisher:||Grand Central Publishing|
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About the Author
MARY D. ESSELMAN is a freelance writer and teacher currently working for the University of Virginia's Women's Center. ELIZABETH ASH VELEZ is the academic coordinator of the Community Scholars Program and professor of feminist theory at Georgetown University.
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How Did This Happen?: Poems for the Not So Young Anymore based on 0 ratings. 2 reviews.
This poetry collection was humorous, insightful, thought-provoking, and refreshing. It encourages us to not approach aging with dread and fear, but to approach it with grace and dignity. The drawbacks of aging are met with humor and the benefits of increasing wisdom and life experiences are focused on. As a woman in my late 30s I read this book hoping that I would be able to relate to it. I was so happy I did! I especially agreed with the idea that we should embrace the aging process, because the alternative of not growing older is definitely not a better option. * I received a digital copy of this title from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
With the subtitle of: “Poems for the Not So Young Anymore” I knew I wanted to review this as I hit my thirtieth birthday last monthish and figured I could relate a bit more to this. Although, once I began reading it I realized this is age demographic-wise aimed at forty and up readers. Anyways, I liked that Amy Poehler was quoted here and other female comedians and that male voices were heard from as well. I can relate to this as a thirty-year-old more than some may think as I (genetically predisposed to) have a nice streak of gray hair and have since I was in my late teens. (I also proudly show it off and am happy about said fact.) I am “one of those people” the beginning of the books warn about in that I happily welcome age. I have always found our youth-obsessed culture to be, frankly speaking, stupid. Wisdom comes with age and experience. To not grow old is to, by definition, to die. No, I would rather be alive with my crows feet and laugh lines, thank-you. The poems were very candid and while maybe not how myself would have worded things, they felt honest and real. The drawbacks are there. The pain. The lack of sleep. The sweating. We are all human and I liked that a light was cast on our real human-ness. Overall, I enjoyed this read, along with the commentary included at the beginning of the chapters. It reminded me of the stages of grief honestly. I think that was intentional. To age graceful should be the goal because not to age at all is a worse alternative. I definitely related to the odd body issues that come and go in terms of aches and pains but I had always chalked that up simply to being human in general. This is a humorous, yet artistic look at what it means to age and the feelings that go along with it that don’t ever seem to be discussed. I also liked that many of the poems included were “found poems” which this idea and concept is explained in detail at the end. The idea is beautiful. I would recommend this to any woman, regardless of her age. Read other reviews here: http://www.sunshinerising.net