I Know It in My Heart: Walking through Grief with a Child

I Know It in My Heart: Walking through Grief with a Child

by Mary E. Plouffe PhD


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ISBN-13: 9781631522000
Publisher: She Writes Press
Publication date: 05/02/2017
Pages: 256
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x (d)

About the Author

Mary E. Plouffe, PhD is a clinical psychologist with thirty-five years of experience as a clinician, teacher, and consultant. She has served on the faculty of Maine Medical Center psychiatry residency training program, the Maine Board of Examiners, and The Collaborate School, and has provided consultation to school and courts. Her essays have been published by NPR, On the Issues Magazine, Brain, Child Magazine, Survivor Review, and Mothers Always Write. Find additional information at www.maryeplouffeauthor.com .

Table of Contents


Winslow Park xi

The Favor xii

Section I Remembering

Chapter 1 The Portal 3

Chapter 2 Family 6

Chapter 3 Bookends 12

Chapter 4 Liamarie 15

Chapter 5 The Numbers 21

Chapter 6 Decisions 25

Chapter 7 Fall 35

Section II Bonding

Chapter 8 Attachment 45

Chapter 9 Negotiating Family 52

Chapter 10 The Ice Storm 56

Chapter 11 February 1998 62

Chapter 12 I Love You 67

Chapter 13 ARBS 69

Chapter 14 The Injury 71

Chapter 15 Saying Goodbye 77

Chapter 16 Johns Hopkins 82

Chapter 17 Maybe 93

Chapter 18 March 97

Chapter 19 Returning Home 100

Chapter 20 The Ending 104

Section III Grieving

Chapter 21 Denial 109

Chapter 22 Ritual 115

Chapter 23 Condolences 124

Chapter 24 Las Vegas 132

Chapter 25 Solo 139

Chapter 26 Turning Four 148

Chapter 27 Spring 151

Chapter 28 July 154

Chapter 29 The Box 157

Chapter 30 August 161

Chapter 31 Healing Voices 168

Chapter 32 Fall 178

Chapter 33 Holidays 183

Chapter 34 December 1998 187

Chapter 35 The Hospital 194

Section IV Growing

Chapter 36 A Child's Anniversary 201

Chapter 37 Sleep 206

Chapter 38 Turning Five 209

Chapter 39 Berkshire Choral Festival II 215

Chapter 40 Touch 220

Chapter 41 Happy Day 223

Chapter 42 Two Years 227

Chapter 43 Turning Six 231

Chapter 44 Communication 236

Chapter 45 Knowing 240

Chapter 46 First Communion 248

Chapter 47 Mastery 253

Chapter 48 Two Weddings 258

Chapter 49 Quinceañera, May 2009 262


Kaleidoscope 269

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Reviewed by Christian Sia for Readers' Favorite I Know It in My Heart: Walking Through Grief with a Child by Mary E. Plouffe Ph.D. is a powerful, heart wrenching memoir that takes a visceral, somewhat clinical look at loss, grief, and healing, the journey of a woman and a child through devastating loss. Mary had thought that her sister’s last and desperate treatment for breast cancer could offer a final solution to her condition, but she was wrong. Her sister, Martha, died unexpectedly because of the treatment, leaving behind a three-year-old daughter, Liamarie. How can Mary explain the situation to the young child? How can she fill the void left by a loving mother in her child’s tender heart? In this captivating memoir, the reader follows the story as the loving sister navigates the path of recovery from grief with her niece and a father who seems as terrified of the loss as he is broken. The memoir starts with the phone call in which Martha informs her sister, Mary, of her decision to undergo treatment, asking her to take her daughter for a short period that would last only for about three to four weeks. Things change, and Mary soon finds herself with a loss that she never saw coming. The pathos comes out strongly in this narrative and the reader is pulled into the hearts of the characters, feeling the contours of their grief and their pain. Mary E. Plouffe Ph.D. writes with expertise on the subject and the reader has no doubt that she is one of those authors who write from experience, from what she’s felt. I Know It in My Heart: Walking Through Grief with a Child offers great wisdom in dealing with loss and what people with children suffering from grief need to know. This story is both entertaining and inspiring.