I Love You More Workbook for Men: Six Sessions on How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage

by Les and Leslie Parrott

Overview

The I Love You More Workbook for Men will help you personalize the discoveries you make in I Love You More and then turn them into practical action. As you convert principles into hands-on application to meet the unique needs of your marriage, you truly will grow to love each other more knowledgeably, more effectively, and more deeply. EXERCISES AND ASSESSMENTS Twenty-one exercises furnish you with vital insights, guidance, and tools for applying the principles you’ll encounter in the book and DVD. You can turn your marriage’s prickly issues into opportunities to love each other more as you learn how to: - build intimacy while respecting personal space - tap the power of a positive marriage attitude - replace boredom with fun, irritability with patience, busyness with time together, debt with a team approach to your finances . . . and much, much more. DISCUSSION GUIDE This will help your small group enjoy lively and eye-opening interaction through six sessions in the Zondervan Groupware small group DVD. As couples, you’ll discuss how you can turn the problems in your marriages to your advantage, defend your relationships against six “sneak attacks,” solve any problem in five realistic steps, and more. Each session links with the workbook exercises and concludes with an exercise each couple can do together over the next week.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780310262756
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	07/25/2005
Pages:	96
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.25(d)
Age Range:	18 Years

About the Author

#1 New York Times bestselling authors Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are psychologists and founders of the game-changing online assessments: SYMBIS.com, Better Love.com, and Yada.com. Their best-selling books include Love Talk, The Good Fight, Crazy Good Sex, and the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. Their work has been featured in the New York Times and USA Today and on CNN, Good Morning America, the Today Show, The View, and Oprah. Les And Leslie.com

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I Love You More Workbook for Men

Six Sessions on How Everyday Problems Can Strengthen Your Marriage

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By Les Parrott Leslie Parrott

Zondervan

Copyright © 2005 Les and Leslie Parrott
All right reserved.
ISBN: 0-310-26275-5

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Chapter One

taking inventory of your marriage

Every couple bumps into bad things-circumstances that make marriage more difficult. In this first exercise, we urge you to take an inventory of everything threatening your love. Every couple has their own unique list. What follows are some of the most common. Take a moment, without input from your spouse, to check those that currently top your list.

Frequent conflict

Financial pressures

Power struggles

Busy schedules

Work pressures

Career crisis

Infertility

Tumultuous relations with extended family

A rebellious child

Sexual unfulfillment

Lack of spiritual intimacy

Frequent communication breakdowns

Major illness

Addictions

Infidelities and lack of trust

Grief or loss

Other: ____________________________________

Before discussing the list you just made with your partner, take a few more minutes to note the things in your life right now that are good for your marriage. What half-dozen good things are augmenting the love you share? Your list could consist of anything from "having a date night each week" to "being honest with each other" to "sharing the housework." Note what is currently going on that buoys your marriage in spite of everything else.

Being honest with each other

Sharing housework

Sharing humor or laughter

Having strong social support

Sharing a vision for our future

Enjoying a committed church life together

Enjoying a fulfilling sex life

Having a date night

Enjoying good children

Feeling in good physical health

Having a secure financial future

Sharing interests and hobbies

Enjoying strong extended family relationships

Supporting each other in prayer

Feeling secure in our marriage commitment

Feeling strong emotional health

Other: _____________________________

Once you've made your two lists, set aside some time to share this information with each other. Don't turn this into a gripe session. The point of sharing your first list is to simply identify what difficult things you are both contending with that impact your marriage. The goal in sharing your second list is to remember the positive, not just the negative.

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Table of Contents

contents A Letter to Our Readers 7 1. Taking Inventory of Your Marriage 9 2. Exploring Your Marital Armament 12 3. Why Every Marriage Has Everyday Problems 14 4. What Did You Expect? 16 5. The Big Question 18 6. So Many Choices 20 7. Your Attitude Quotient 22 8. What Have You Been Looking For? 24 9. Coping with the Invasion of Intimacy 27 10. When Husband and Wife Become Mom and Dad 30 11. Refueling the Sexual Fire 32 12. Taking Control of Your Time-Starved Marriage 35 13. Getting to Know You . . . All over Again 37 14. Healing Your Painful Past 40 15. Owning Up 42 16. High Hopes—Even When You’re Hurting 45 17. Walking in Your Partner’s Shoes 48 18. Assessing Your Spiritual Language 50 19. Finding the Inspiration around You 52 20. Taking Cover from a Bombshell and Its Fallout 55 21. Surviving Your Private Gethsemane 57 Small Group Discussion Guide 59