I Never Called It Rape - Updated Edition: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape

by Robin Warshaw, Gloria Steinem (Foreword by), Wheatley Tanner Letters LLC (Introduction)

Overview

Featuring a new preface by feminist icon Gloria Steinem, and a new foreword by Salamishah Tillet, PhD, Rutgers University Professor of African American Studies and Creative Writing

“Essential. . . . It is nonpolemical, lucid, and speaks eloquently not only to the victims of acquaintance rape but to all those caught in its net.”— Philadelphia Inquirer

With the advent of the #MeToo and Time’s Up movements, and almost daily new reports about rape, both on and off campuses, Robin Warshaw’s I Never Called It Rape is even more relevant today than when it was first published in 1988. The sad truth is that statistics on date rape have not changed in more than thirty years. That our culture enables rape is not just shown by the numbers: the outbreak of complaints against alleged rapists from Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein to Matt Lauer and President Donald Trump has further amplified this horrifying reality.

With more than 80,000 copies sold to date, I Never Called It Rape serves as a guide to understanding rape as a cultural phenomenon—providing women and men with strategies to address our rape endemic. It gives survivors the context and resources to help them heal from their experiences, and pulls the wool from all our eyes regarding the pervasiveness of rape and sexual assault in our society.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062844309
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	02/26/2019
Edition description:	Updated
Pages:	288
Sales rank:	370,103
Product dimensions:	5.30(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Robin Warshaw writes on social issues, medicine and health. In writing I Never Called It Rape, she used pseudonyms for the many women who shared their stories but wrote openly about her own acquaintance rape for the first time. She has never regretted that decision and is grateful to the women (and some men) who have reached out over the years to tell her how the book helped them. Warshaw is a contributing writer for Living Beyond Breast Cancer and writes for other nonprofits and publications. She is a member of the Authors Guild, American Society of Journalists and Authors, and the Association of Health Care Journalists. Her work has received several national awards.

Salamishah Tillet is a rape survivor, activist, and feminist writer. She is the cofounder of A Long Walk Home, a nonprofit that uses art to empower young people to end violence against girls and women, and the writer of the award-winning Story of a Rape Survivor, a performance that chronicles her pathway to healing after being sexually assaulted in college. She is the faculty director of the New Arts Jus- tice Initiative at Express Newark and the Henry Rutgers Professor of African American Studies and Creative Writing at Rutgers University.

Table of Contents

Preface to the 2019 Edition ix

Foreword to the 2019 Edition xvii

Foreword to the 1994 Edition xxvii

Introduction 1

1 The Reality of Acquaintance Rape 11

2 Women You Know 27

3 Why Date Rape and Acquaintance Rape Are So Widespread 35

4 Why Women Are "Safe" Victims 48

5 The Aftereffects of Acquaintance Rape 65

6 Men Who Rape Women They Know 83

7 Gang or "Party" Rapes 99

8 Teenagers and Acquaintance Rape 115

9 Police, Court, and University Responses to Acquaintance Rape 127

10 For Women: How to Prevent Acquaintance Rape 151

11 For Men: The Benefits of Change 161

12 Whose Responsibility Is It? Parents, Schools, Lawmakers, and Acquaintance Rape 168

13 Helping the Acquaintance-Rape Survivor 180

14 What to Do if Acquaintance Rape Happens to You 185

Afterword: The Methods Used in the Ms. Project on Campus Sexual Assault, by Mary P. Koss, Phd 189

Epilogue to the 2019 Edition 211

Acknowledgments 223

Selected Bibliocraphy 225

Resources 231

Index 239

Editorial Reviews

”A devastating portrait of men who rape women they know... based on first-person accounts, scholarly studies and data from a nationwide survey of college campuses.” — Publishers Weekly

“A deeply disturbing study of date or acquaintance rape and the myths and cultural attitudes that encourage it.... For women who have suffered acquaintance rape, Warshaw’s book should be extraordinarily helpful. But it should be read by many others as well: a painful, provocative, and important work.” — Kirkus

“Essential . . . It is nonpolemical, lucid, and speaks eloquently not only to the victims of acquaintance rape but to all those caught in its net.” — Philadelphia Inquirer

From the Publisher

Essential . . . It is nonpolemical, lucid, and speaks eloquently not only to the victims of acquaintance rape but to all those caught in its net.

Philadelphia Inquirer

Painstakingly researched...chilling.

San Francisco Chronicle