In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

by Iyanla Vanzant
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In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want by Iyanla Vanzant

The #1 national bestseller from the host of IYANLA: Fix My Life that answers the question: What’s love got to do with it in the meantime

You know where you want to be, but you have no clue how to get there. You know exactly what you want in life, but what you want is nowhere in sight. Perhaps your vision is unclear, your purpose still undefined. On top of it all, your relationships, particularly your romantic relationships, are failing. If these scenarios feel familiar way down in the deepest part of your gut—then you, my dear, are smack dab in the middle of the meantime.

Every living being wants to experience the light of love. The problem is that our windows are dirty! The windows of our hearts and minds are streaked with past pains and hurts, past memories and disappointments. In this book, Iyanla Vanzant teaches us how to do our mental housekeeping so that we can clean the windows, floors, walls, closets, and corners of our minds. If we do a good job, our spirits will shine bringing in the light of true love and happiness.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780684865812
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Publication date: 07/14/1999
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 336
Sales rank: 105,598
File size: 2 MB

About the Author

With more than 8 million books in print, Iyanla Vanzant has truly established a dedicated fan base.
Iyanla's path to success took her through a multitude of life-changing experiences that shaped the profound insights she eagerly shares with others. A neglected, overweight, sexually abused child who was shuttled from one family to another, she became a teenage mother on welfare living in the projects of a major urban city. Vanzant took control of her life when she walked out of her second abusive marriage and entered Medgar Evers College in New York and then the City University of New York Law School. She moved to Philadelphia with her children and became a public defender for three years. Then she eventually became an ordained minister, who was committed to a message based on the principles of divine power and self-determination.

Iyanla combined her professional skills with her life's lessons and embarked on a writing and speaking career. Her mass appeal is evident in her overwhelming success as an author. In the Meantime was a #1 New York Times bestseller, where it spent 20 weeks on the list, and she has had numerous other major bestsellers. As a nationally recognized speaker she has sold out such prestigious venues as New York's Jacob Javits Convention Center, Nashville's Grand Ole Opry, Atlanta's Civic Center, and the Wiltern Theater in Los Angeles. Vanzant is also familiar to the daytime TV audience from her role as a regular contributor on "The Oprah Winfrey Show."

Acclaimed journalist and producer Barbara Walters recognized Vanzant's extraordinary appeal, seeing in her a "breakaway talent" with the potential for huge success in daytime television. With Walters and partner Bill Geddie on board to executive produce, Buena Vista Productions to develop the show, and Buena Vista Television as distributor, the road to Iyanla was forged.

Vanzant has received numerous accolades for her work. In 1992 Los Angeles mayor Tom Bradley named October 21st "Tapping the Power Within Day" in honor of a workshop she presented in that city for African-American women. In 1994, the National Association of Equal Opportunity in Education, an organization comprised of the presidents and administrators of the 117 predominantly Black colleges in the United States named her Alumni of the Year. She also was awarded an "Oni" by the International Congress of Black Women as one of the nation's unsung heroes, and she served as the national spokesperson for Literacy Volunteers of America in 1998.

In 1999 she was listed among the 100 Most Influential African-Americans by Ebony magazine. Later that year, she was awarded the 31st NAACP Image Award for "Outstanding Literary Work, Non-Fiction" for Yesterday I Cried. She also earned her first Honorary Doctorate degree, Doctor of Humane Letters, from the City University of New York, Medgar Evars College. In 2000, she earned her second honorary degree, Doctor of Divinity, from the Theological Seminary in Atlanta, Georgia. In addition, Ebony has named her one of their "55 Most Intriguing People," Vibe magazine tabbed her one of "100 Leaders of the New Millennium" and Newsweek recently included her as one of the "Women of the New Century."

The mother of three and grandmother of four, Vanzant lives in Silver Spring, Maryland with her husband Adeyemi and Mr. Coco, their cat.

To learn how Iyanla can help you get started on your journey toward spiritual enlightenment, visit Inner Visions Worldwide, Inc., at

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In the Meantime 4.5 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 88 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I recommend this book to everyone, regardless of age, background or religious beliefs. Although, I believe that you will not reap the full benefits of this book if you are not ready to accept the TRUTH-and I was not , one year ago when I was first introduced to this book through a friend (Murchelle Bates). Now, that I am ready, I feel that the book truly opens your mind to explore and come to terms with yourself. It has helped me to realize who I have become based on the experiences I have encountered throughout my life, and has given me the strength and knowledge to apply these situations to work for me; ultimately making me the person I knew I could be. I have re-learned to put God first in my life, therefore allowing my needs to be forfilled in accordance to the divine will. My tip to you, is to take time out of the day to 'do you'. I have started a routine every morning which consists of yoga exercise when I first wake up, followed by 15 minutes of meditation, then ending my 'morning ceremony' with prayer. I find that no matter what I am confronted with that day, I can have closure, because I am relaxed and I have put my faith in the Lord so that he can fight my battles. Feel free to e-mail me.
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SavhSweetie More than 1 year ago
This book is the best relationship book ever written! I am now happily married, but about five years ago this book showed me my true worth. At that time I didn't know, that love was not abusive and painful.It inspired me to move pass the "basement" of my thinking. I now feel worthy of love, and desired as a women. This is the book I recommend to all my friends going through a rough time in a marriage or relationship.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I found this book on my partner's nightstand and begin reading it over candles and a hot bath. A beautiful book, written with ease and I laughed several times upong hitting page fifty! I tried to sneak it away but my partner refused (we live apart). Guess I will have to wait or go buy my own copy. Trust me, this Author is telling the truth.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I had this book for 2 years and did not read it. After asking my friend many questions on my issues in regards to relationship, her answer everytime to me was 'You need to read in the meantime' after my finals last year spring I read it! 'Oh my god!' This is the first book that took me 3 months to read, reason, I had to read, put the book down, digest, cry and be willing to face my bad habits and change them.' Everything that was happening to me was because of me! me! me! warning! You cannot read this book unless you are willing to face the truth about yourself because somewhere in this book you will be revealed! first you will be resentful, then a little angry at Ms. Vanzant, then you will either start from the basement upwards or dig from the basement and go below. Ms. Vanzant thank you for revealing your experiences and putting yourself out there. I thank you from the buttom of my heart. Fear is like a bad curse if we are not careful it will consume the very best of us. It begins with you. Stop blaming everyone around you, take responsibility for your own actions. 'work in progress'
Guest More than 1 year ago
I am a 34 year seperated from the one whom I thought who knew about love.I read this book and cried. I have never found anyone who told me about myself other than this book. thanks for letting me love my self when there was no one around and finding out what true love is all about. I have learned to love myself. I have also start changing my life from the basement to the top floor. Oh what a mess i've found. The mess include people whose suppose to be friends and so on. I have turned a new leaf.
Guest More than 1 year ago
My mind and soul has truly been resurrected!!!! For many many years, I was lost believing that since I borne 4 children by the time I was 21 that I was accursed!!!Now, over 10yrs later, I can TRULY relate to Iyanla with the term 'In The Meantime' I spent most my life in DEAD END relations even a DEAD END marriage to someone I should have never even opened myself up to....Through it all your book help me to see that it is normal to be 'in the meantime' while God is cleaning us up for the truth LOVER in our life..Thanks, Iyanla for saving my MIND.....
Guest More than 1 year ago
I could not put this down. As a young black female this book helped me realize that the issues that I thought others had were actually my own. It also gave me a way to make myself a better person.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I do believe the adage is true, in order to be able to fully love others, you have to be able to love yourself. This book opens up the great plain of understanding how to do just that.
Guest More than 1 year ago
When I first read in the meantime I found myself in the basement of love. This book really helped me to realize in order to find true love from any one else-I must first love myself. After reading this book I applied everything I read, and that is when true love walked in to my life. I am very happy and I love myself dearly. I have a new love in my life (Damon) and he loves me just as much as I love myself. I am still working my way up to the attic. I truly love myself-I love Murchelle!
Anonymous 7 months ago
Great read
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Excellent book to learn from ang grow
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njpat More than 1 year ago
This was very inspiring and helps you look at things in a different way. As human beings we blame others for our problems and never take the time to see our part in it and this helps you do that. This is helping me see things clearer in my own life. Great job Iyanla!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was AMAZING ! Definitely one of my favorites and considering the fact that the list only consists of two books including this one, you know that it was really good!  I had to choose a book for my class reading and this was recommended and I do not regret taking the risk at all! I learned so much about myself and about love that you would think we all know already but in actuality have not come to grips with in completeness. This book is for young girls going through self esteem issues, for young women  having relationship issues, for married women who are having some issues within themselves, this book is for everyone and guys, why not? I absolutely  recommend that if you  looking into it, to give it a go, you will not be disappointed. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is an easy read.  It is about having realistic expectations in relationships, taking time to learn from past relationships.  It encourages you use your time being single as an opportunity to grow and accept yourself as opposed to looking for relationships to fill that void.  It also encourages the meditations on God's love and learning how to love accept and give unconditional love to others. 
Lernin2Live More than 1 year ago
I purchased this book over 10 years ago,read two pages and put it down, I should have continued but I wasn't ready. Now I that I am faced with one my of most difficult challenges, and I knew I needed to reevaluate, I have started reading again. I think things happen at a time when you most need it,and I needed it most now. I am able to understand and appreciate the guidance. Thank you
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